I hope I don't bring anyone down by this thread but man sometimes I feel like i'll never actually be thin. Not that I won't lose the weight, but that I'll somehow still be chubby at 135 (I'm 5'8"). I'm 180 now (which I should be thrilled about because I'm at my high school weight which I thought I looked good at) but I still feel so fat and my lower stomach still hangs and humph :| I feel like I

I'll be at a small weight but always be fat... sucks.!

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgiversary: 6/11/12

I stayed the same weight for 3 weeks. I think it was time for a change. Try some of these thing to get the weight loss jump started - decrease salt intake, increase Protein, no sugar - no carb, add form of laxative, and start or increase weight loss.

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Lmfao... Yes. I think we've all have. Try to remain calm. Its normal. I have been at the same weight sometimes for 3 or 4 weeks at a time its called a plateau... Then weightloss follows eventually

Lol thanks wat a relief ..what do u take for headache i know certain ones we cant take

Pandra your positive spirit is whats going to continue to guide you to success. Keep up the great work girl..

I think that we get so focused on this because our culture values the perfect body way too much. We begin to buy into this as young girls and it carries into our adult life. We may be overweight and are teased or lack male attention and through that process we devalue ourselves as less than perfect somehow flawed. Now we begin the process of losing weight and our brains are still convinced we are flawed and we struggle with success because perfection is not the result. We have flabby arms and hanging bellys way short of the ideal and we cannot see the body change as success because it is not perfection. I think the key to some of this for me at least is to not focus on our flaws' date=' hanging skin etc. but on the internal changes, the new self image we can construct and begin to affirm the positive changes we see. As overweight people we often become too self absorbed and perhaps need to look for ways to focus on others through activities, volunteer or social activities that will keep us other oriented and less worried about ourselves. Find our joy and the flaws will seem minor compared to our victories. At least ths has helped me deal with the thoughts I will never be skinny.[/quote']

Judid, well said!!!!!!!

Has anyone stayed at the same weight for a week? I been at the same weight for a week im really getting frustrated cause im doing everything right grr

I've been at the same weight for one month!!

I think it's more mental than physical. Being overweight I found a way to love my body, but made a choice to get healthy. You probably did too. But now that body is all changed. Find a way to love this body even if it doesn't lose another pound because what you have done is awesome. I'm 17 days out and hoping I do as well as you.

I feel like i'm going to be that small percentage that only 30-40 pounds max.....

I feel like i'm going to be that small percentage that only 30-40 pounds max.....

I feel the same wAy

My surgeon simply told me that I will always be "chubby" unless I become a fanatic about exercise and eating raw vegetables. And being chubby is fine with me as long as I don't have health problems.

My surgeon simply told me that I will always be "chubby" unless I become a fanatic about exercise and eating raw vegetables. And being chubby is fine with me as long as I don't have health problems.

Really chubby?

I do not know how chubby I will be. But I do not want to be super thin. I trust my surgeon's judgment. I have a body that will always be chubby.

I do not know how chubby I will be. But I do not want to be super thin. I trust my surgeon's judgment. I have a body that will always be chubby.

Id like to think these docs don't know everything. I have seen some really hefty people become very thin. Don't sell yourself short. If you believe you will be chubby it will come true. Let the surgery show you your true size.

Id like to think these docs don't know everything. I have seen some really hefty people become very thin. Don't sell yourself short. If you believe you will be chubby it will come true. Let the surgery show you your true size.

The surgeon did say that my body will find its own weight on its own. In fact, I have not yet set a target weight. My target is to get off of high blood pressure medication and high cholesterol medication. I want to stop the march towards diabetes which I am watching my other suffer horrible things from that could not even wish on an enemy (but I don't have an enemy). I want to have a better quality of life in my 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's, etc. I plan to keep working into those later year

I feel like i'm going to be that small percentage that only 30-40 pounds max.....

Omg Clairpooh that's what I keep thinking, someone close to me saw a pic of someone who loss 85 pounds and told me that I won't loose that much. Now from that day to this one is where I begin to think negatively of my progress. I too am scared that I had this expensive surgery and I will be the one to not get the maximum benefit. Now I know that's its up to me how well I succeed, but I'm praying that I continue to stay on the right the right track! I know it's a mental thing.

SD: 10/10/12, Converted from Lapband to RNY, HW (before band) 263, HW (RNY) 230, Preop 219, after surgery 223, current 201

I wanted to reply to a few issues brought up in this thread, if possible. Sorry if it comes across preachy ~ that is not my intent. I am not even six months out and I try to only speak to my own experience. So here goes ~

I never set a goal weight - that didn't stop the dietician from setting one for me. I'm 12 lbs from that goal. I am not at all scale obsessed. I was for the first two weeks, but stopped myself. Then I only weighed myself on Wednesdays because my surgery was on a Wednesday. Work on feeling healthy - let that be your goal.

On another note, my surgical PA told me at my last pre-op appointment before RNY (5/31/12) these words: "Listen Honey, you ain't never going to be skinny." I worried about responding the way I normally would (not just to the degrading, condescending and offensive comment but to her use of the word 'ain't') because it was my LAST pre-op visit and I didn't want to jeopardize RNY.

I had another follow up with her last Tuesday. This time post-op after having my gallbladder removed (cholecystectomy.). I went in wearing my new size 6 "super skinny jeans" and a gorgeous top & adorable wedges. I felt good - really good, but not because of my clothes or my facade in any way. I was ready for whatever she might say. This time she told me that even though I'm only (nearly) 6 mos post RNY, she could not remember my "fat face." She went on to tell me that I looked amazing and she didn't want me to lose another ounce. She said I looked amazing - my response: "Not bad for a girl who ain't never going to be skinny."

My point in this long response is to advise that you ignore the naysayers - even if YOU are one of them. We are all works in progress. Take it day by day, hour by hour, sip by sip - whichever applies to your current state. This is an ENTIRE lifestyle change. An ENTIRE mental shift. Ease up on yourselves - there are plenty naysayers so you don't need to be one too.

To those who have had a 'frozen scale' - increase Protein (if not solids, then shakes or SF Carnation Instant B'fast) & increase fluids. You've heard this before, ad nauseum, but it works. We have all had a frozen scale at one point or another. Anyone who says otherwise is lying. Period. I worked myself into a panic the first few times on here. Swore everyone was losing faster, more, better. Also was convinced, from time to time, that I would remain heavy - statistical fallout in my brain! Don't get sucked into that ~ it's hard to resist, but try hard.

Remember, baby steps.