I'm not sure what I want to tell people about getting surgery, or why I lost weight. I'm the kind of person who is really private, and wouldn't want to discuss my weightloss no matter how it happens. I don't want to lie, but I don't want to discuss this with people. What have you done? Especially if privacy is important to you.

Here's a link- its one of millions:

http://www.butneveragain.org/blog/?p=441

Its okay. I known for years that she can be a B*. I should have expected that anyways. She thinks I sit on my ass all day and eat. :0/

Most people think that's what diabetics do, that's why they have Diabetes. I exercise and eat right as best as I can right now, but I can't wait for surgery.

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I wish I'd never told my dad or step mom. Lol. Or my personal trainer. Lol. Bc they all look down on me' date=' like im 5 yrs old, being accused of doing something bad. The fist thing my step mom said was, omg!! That surgery is dangerous! You will probably die, bc of your diabetes.

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That's the worst thing to say to anyone. My mom is supported she us willing to take care of my kids free in her house whe I stay I

Hospital.

Its okay. I known for years that she can be a B*. I should have expected that anyways. She thinks I sit on my ass all day and eat. :0/

Most people think that's what diabetics do' date=' that's why they have Diabetes. I exercise and eat right as best as I can right now, but I can't wait for surgery.

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And that is a big reason why I don't want to go there. Of course surgery is always a cause for concern, but either way we need support. My husband is scared, but thankfully supportive. I have no need to tell anyone else. I probably won't even tell my kids.

Hey All,

I told everyone after my Lapband and have told everyone about getting it revised to RNY bypass. Intitially I hated when people judged me by my decision, but I've now come to realize that who gives a crap what they think, it's my journey, my decision and as long as I'm happy with it, who cares what others think.

Be so open about my Lapband and Weightloss actually inspired a fair few of my friends to get on the bandwagon and either get the surgery themselves or start changing their lives and losing weight. I've been in a magazine and on the tv talking about my journey. Here I will post the links to share with you all

http://www.thatslife.com.au/Article/Real-Life/Real-Life-Stories/Banding-together

Here's also a video I made of my lapband journey, it's not working on my iPad, but it should still be playable

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Hey All' date='

I told everyone after my Lapband and have told everyone about getting it revised to RNY bypass. Intitially I hated when people judged me by my decision, but I've now come to realize that who gives a crap what they think, it's my journey, my decision and as long as I'm happy with it, who cares what others think.

Be so open about my Lapband and Weightloss actually inspired a fair few of my friends to get on the bandwagon and either get the surgery themselves or start changing their lives and losing weight. I've been in a magazine and on the tv talking about my journey. Here I will post the links to share with you all <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

http://www.thatslife.com.au/Article/Real-Life/Real-Life-Stories/Banding-together

Here's also a video I made of my lapband journey, it's not working on my iPad, but it should still be playable

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I can't get it to play

I agree with many of the others, Tell them your eating right and smaller portions and exercising BUT I'm on the other end of the spectrum. Since my very first visit with my family doctor I have been using Facebook and telling all my friends every step of my journey. I have not had the sugery yet, It should be in september but I have lost 55lbs so far just by cutting back my portions and eating the right stuff. I want to encourage others out there That really need it and are afraid. I've been asked if I was afraid what could happen if I got this done and I always say....No, I'm afraid what might happen if I DON"T get it done. Also I found out that so many of my Facebook friends had it done and it's like our own little support group now. So I'm very open about everything. But you will know what to say when they ask. Good luck!

Agree with you. What will happen if I don't have it done? I have decided to take a break from FB and take my time getting my priorities and goals set up b4 surgery.

I do have a FB page dedicated to my hard work over the past 2 years. And I love sharing my life with others, but its best NOT to share right b4 surgery, bc that's where u get the most negativity.

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Riverbuff you are so right it's no ones business what I done. I have decided God has been with me through this long journey.

At first I felt the same way. But with help from my therapist and MD I realize that my withholding information had a lot to do with me feeling ashamed. I realize now that I have a medical disease no different than cancer heart disease and that traditional diets no longer work for the majority once u reach the morbidly obese stage. I have really come a long way in shedding the shame and I have been completely astonished and humbled at the outpouring of support I have received. Several people have told me how proud they are of me that I love myself enough to take this step to take care of myself. And that made me realize that not taking care of myself contributed a lot to why I am here now. So own it girl. Be proud.

At first I felt the same way. But with help from my therapist and MD I realize that my withholding information had a lot to do with me feeling ashamed. I realize now that I have a medical disease no different than cancer heart disease and that traditional diets no longer work for the majority once u reach the morbidly obese stage. I have really come a long way in shedding the shame and I have been completely astonished and humbled at the outpouring of support I have received. Several people have told me how proud they are of me that I love myself enough to take this step to take care of myself. And that made me realize that not taking care of myself contributed a lot to why I am here now. So own it girl. Be proud.

It is what it is. Your true friends will stand by you. Everyone else doesn't matter!

I too don't want to tell many people. especially people at work. They are all trim and I've heard remarks about how one coworker feels about people that have the surgery, so my mouth is shut! One girl st work knows cause she had it too but I told her not to say anything. Half my family knows, the other half thinks surgery is for lazy ppl so I haven't told them. The best thing is my boyfriend not only knows but supports me 100% no matter what, so that does my heart good.

Big thing, I belong to body by vi, weightloss shakes. Lots of ppl on my team losing hundreds if pounds with it, so I feel horrible going to surgery and don't want to tell them a thing, yet I fear they will think its the body by vi and start asking questions....I'm so annoyed ppl have the nerve to think surgery is an easy way out and making us feel badly for doing it when the only ready way out is not getting ur weight in control no matter what method, that's what's easy, not this!

It has been interesting to see the responses, and i really appreciate the support I've found here. I've realized by seeing these responses, that I'm not as concerned about how people respond, or what they think, so much as I'm just a very private person, and would never really talk to people about any of these things. I guess I would reframe this conversation some, and ask, if you aren't telling people what you did, what did you say when asked about how you lost the weight? Has anyone out-right just lied, and said it was "surgery" without saying what type? I'm not advocating dishonesty, but I'm curious. One of the only people I know who did this told me she had stomach cancer, but I'm very sure she didn't. I suspect that more people do have bypass and don't disclose that they had surgery, not that I think they owe an explanation to anyone.

I would say the truth. I had surgery. Their response would be what I would more deflect. Anything that I consider insulting would be said so on the spot. I'm a very open person and you never know when you might be helping someone come to a decision about themselves.