Anyone in their 40's out there going through the process of RNY surgery or who have had it. Join right in - would love to hear from you!

Welcome! What procedure did you have? Any words of advise for those of us who are fairly new to this?

I had RNY. It had taken me 5 years of research into weight-loss surgeries to decide what procedure would work best for me and to get my nerve up enough to go for the consultation. It also took me that long to prepare mentally for it.

One of the things that has surprised, and saddened, me is the number of people that seem to think that their surgery was a "fat cure." It's not a cure, it's a tool. And like any tool, if not used right, not only will it not do the job, it could even harm you.

I made sure that I was mentally ready for the lifestyle changes I would have to make to be successful. If I were to give "words of wisdom" to anyone still pre-surgery, make sure you are ready to change...not what you look like, how you live!

Hello my name is tame and I'm starting out I have a consult on Thursday very nerves anyone want to talk

Hello my name is tame and I'm starting out I have a consult on Thursday very nerves anyone want to talk

Welcome Tame, this is a great place to be.

Hello my name is tame and I'm starting out I have a consult on Thursday very nerves anyone want to talk

Welcome to the 40+ club

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Hello 40's peeps...how is everything going?

Everything is great for me! Down 91 lbs today (23 prior to surgery on 5/23/12) and I am really happy. If I never lose another pound I could be happy here forever. I went from a 48F bra to a 40DD, a size 26/28 that was getting tight to an XL on top and a 20 on bottom. This is the wildest ride ever and I am working really hard right now on fixing my head issues because I am pretty sure those dont magically disappear! Well, who am I kidding, I know they dont.

I have been really good. I have followed every single rule to the letter and my program is extremely strict - I only get Protein for the first 4 months so 2-3 oz of protein 3 times a day and one Isopure shake (yep, that is it) so for the last four months I have been living on only a few things - meat/fish/chicken, high protein yogurt, eggs, cheese, and... well, that is pretty much it! It has been hard and I have not even licked anything I cant have - no sugar, no starchy carbs, no Beans, no veggies and no fruit. I just got to the point where I get to have 2-3 tablespoons of non starchy veggies with a meal, after I eat my protein.

However, the other day I was watching Dr. Oz and it was about binge eating. I could sure relate to the women on the show and in some small way was wishing I could eat that much and have all that crap. I could hardly believe what I was thinking in my head and I am not sure if that is due to the fact I am so limited on what I can eat or if I really need to do more work on my head issues or BOTH. Probably both but I have an appt. set up to see a therapist and this is a life long process for me I know. It wont magically fix itself or go away until I find out what got me there in the first place.

Thank goodness for support groups. these forums and good therapists! I love being in my 40's because I feel like I have all the other stuff figured out - this food beast though is my one hang up and I intend to figure it out or keep working on my head issues until I die! I dont know if I will ever get all the answers but I do know I am committed to loving myself, taking care of my body and finding a way to stay on track.

Hi, I am 46 and just had my first appt with surgeon today. How are the rest of you doing in your process? I agree, It is harder to loose weight after 40 because the hormones are wacky.

Welcome Kathy pure right it is harder to lose the weight after 40, good luck on your journey.

Welcome Kathy pure right it is harder to lose the weight after 40' date=' good luck on your journey.

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Welcome! I know what you mean.

Just stumbled on this thread for those of us in our forties! Just had RNY on 10/29. I am 41. Hangin in there. Felt better yesterday than I did today! The pain in my left side just sucks! Still getting used to my pouch.. Not hungry.. But I am thirsty.. It hurts to drink so I am struggling w getting enough fluids.

Be patient and take SMALL sips. Sip all day long. Staying hydrated is very important!...good luck and congrats

Be patient and take SMALL sips. Sip all day long. Staying hydrated is very important!...good luck and congrats

Hey all! I'm 43, so glad to have found the 40's club. Had my surgery Oct 1st.

Hi and welcome!