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Husband and Wife being sleeved in Feb (need help with a plan please!)



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Q1: I am assuming we should stagger surgery. Not sure how long though. (We don't have kids) Can anyone provide advice?

Q2: If we do stagger it, should be both go on an all liquid diet so we don't kill each other? Lol. (One eating broth, the other one eating normal food)

Any other tips you could provide?

Thank you!

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Don't quote me, but I think gamergirl and her spouse (gamerguy I suppose) were sleeved at or near the same time, there may be others but she's about 2 months post op and came to mind. Since we can't tag members in this thing, you may want to shoot her a private message. Best of Luck to you!

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When my wife and I went through this, we figured on being at least a couple of months apart so that the first would be reasonably up the strength curve to help the other as needed (getting out of bed, or up from chairs if needed.) We ended up being six years apart, but that's a different story. We didn't find it to be a big problem being on different diets for a while, but then our doc's program has a relatively rapid rate of progression so diets largely merged again before long.

I would want to see at least a couple of weeks difference between surgery dates, which would allow enough time for the second to postpone things if the first has any complications that slows their recovery.

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Same with my coworker and her husband, they did it several months apart.

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My partner and I both had this surgery. She July 8th 2013 and me aug 14 2013.

I did the liquid diet with her to be supportive and to practice for my own liquid diet. Also with being first, gave me the chance to have a real life coach.

I'm glad we didn't do it at the same time because we each got to help the other out. You never know how surgery is going to go so it's best if you can have that should to lean on so to speak if you need. You may need help showering or making broth or something simple that you never thought you'd need help with. (Like crushing pills, yes I couldn't work the pill crusher, I was too weak lol)

Plus, I know if we were both laying up in the hospital at the same time my stress levels would have been extremely high worrying about if she's ok etc etc.

The only downside was maybe about a 2 week period where I was on still on liquids and she was progressing to purée, wasn't a huge problem though as I had no desire to eat anything. Just that she had to feed herself...as I didn't want to see or smell food.

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