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My surgery is September the 18th and I'm literally thinking I might die during the procedure I want to cancel but I also wanted this my entire life!

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I had this same problem. It is important to try to her a good positive attitude. This of it this way, the risks are no higher than having your appendix out and if you had a bad appendix, you have no choice, you would have to have it removed. Are the risks of your weight higher than the risks of surgery , probably. But you have to do what is right. I just had my surgery on 9/4. You can do this.

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My surgery is on Monday (9/9)...I'm also totally terrified. Statistically though, we should be fine. :)

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It's good hearing that my BMI is 57 :/ so yeah I really want to get it done I'm just terrified that the dr will tell my family that there was complications and that I didn't make it just wondering if anyone else was feeling the same way!

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I'm don't have a date yet, but I'm terrified. Never had any surgeries, only been in hospital once last yr.

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I'm feeling that fear too, love. A statistic that was helpful to me was remembering that you honestly have a greater chance of dying in the car on the way than you do dying during the operation. I know it's scary. Especially when you read and research everything as much as possible, it makes it so much easier to focus on the complications that might happen, when the reality is that the odds of that happening are SO minuscule. Whereas if you remain obese, your chances of premature death become almost definite. I know it's scary. I totally get it, that thought has kept me up at night! But weigh the odds. The odds are in your favor if you choose to go through with the surgery. The unknown is scary and I'm sure that you feel like me, you just want someone to tell you you'll definitely be okay and there's no way you're going to die. Unfortunately no one can guarantee that, but according to statistics, you will probably be just fine. Express these concerns to your doctor and anesthesiologist. They'll know what to say to make you feel better :) Do what you really believe is best for you!!

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i know that it's the best for me, because I'm tired of being tired all the time, my quality of life is worth any of the risks involved. Plus with a BMI in the 80's not doing it is a greater risk.

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I haven't got my surgery date but I feel the same way surgery is surgery and very scary so we will pray and it all will b fine

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My surgery is September the 18th and I'm literally thinking I might die during the procedure I want to cancel but I also wanted this my entire life!

I had the same fear so I decided to use a little gallows humor and acceptance to calm me down. Oddly, because I went in expecting to die it seemed a lot easier and a made me realize the ridiculous ness of my fears.

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I feel the same way as u specially because I'm going to get it done in Mexico, but I know that if everything comes out good I would be a happier person.

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