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kj44

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Well this morning I got gut-checked by my grandson. I was babysitting this morning and was letting him and his little brother draw and color. Logan's 6 and Luke is 3. Anyway they r drawing away and Logan says "I'm gonna draw u grandma". Then he says. "I'm gonna make you fat ,cuz ur fat". I. Just smiled and said"ok baby". But inside I sure felt like someone kicked me in the gut. I know I've still a way to go, but with 55 lbs down I had just convinced myself that you could see a difference. I know he's only 6 but I also know he was just calling it like he sees it. I'm not upset with him just myself for letting my guard down. I've keep it up for most of my adult life and never let the hurt feelings show when the comments or glances came my way. Hopefully I will continue to lose and by next year be at or near my goal. I know.... This too shall pass As long as I let it.

Starting wt 270

Current wt. 215

Surgery date. 4/4/13

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Thanks! It took some deep breaths and ill admit to several poor me moments and thoughts but I've put it away One day at a time I can and will do this.

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I asked my 5 year old if he remembers when I was fat and he said, "you're still fat, mommy." Haha! You're doing great! Keep it up!

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I asked my 5 year old if he remembers when I was fat and he said' date=' "you're still fat, mommy." Haha! You're doing great! Keep it up![/quote']

Thanks! I have this mantra ( from finding nemo

of all things lol). Just keep swimming swimming. Finish lines gotta show on the horizon eventually. Right?

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Yes you go kicked in the gut, so make that comment be your driving force to make sure you stay on track and a year from now he wont be able to say that. Second, use this time to teach your grandson about not judging others based on their appearances. Find something as a teaching tool Ie: Superman never tells people they are fat he is there to help others in fact "Superheros" don't insult each other.

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KJ,

Once your Grandsons start noticing that your losing weight, they'll be your biggest supporters. My Granddaughters told me they could finally put their hands together when they hugged me. They have these little smiles on their faces when they see me in cute clothes now. It'll get better!

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I'm so sorry. But, it won't be forever.

You reminded me of my two granddaughters talking about my being fat in front of me.

The 4 yr. old said to the 5 yr. old, "Nana's fat and fluffy. I love Nana being fluffy. I like to jump on her fluffy belly." Lol. And, she does jump up on me! I love that she loves it.

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