Divorce Post Op?

[kimikat3 150]

I'm 6 months post op and my husband has decided that he wants to file for divorce. I've read that the statistics of this happening were pretty high before I had surgery, but never imagined I would fall into being a statistic. There has been no solid "reason" for his request for this, all I have been told is that he is no longer in love with me and hasn't been for a while. This news was broken to me a couple of weeks ago. I am down from 233lbs to 147lbs, size 20 to a size 10. I thought my journey through my weight loss would be something so magical and so memorable, yet, it's been completely overshadowed by another life changing event. Talk about a new life... I will be starting completely over now. New body... New mental/emotional outlook... Has anyone else been down this road???

[debraeve 36]

You keep your head held high.... I know how you feel i have been there. You did this surgery for you only, Losing weight can never make a man want to stay once its gone its gone, I had lost 70 pounds 12 years ago and mine told me the same ,I did my crying and feeling sorry for myself it took me a good few months, But now i will never look back ever , The grass is not always greener on the other side his loss, Be strong and keep up your great .... My sleeve is for sept 10th and i just jumping for joy

[kimikat3 150]

You keep your head held high.... I know how you feel i have been there. You did this surgery for you only' date=' Losing weight can never make a man want to stay once its gone its gone, I had lost 70 pounds 12 years ago and mine told me the same ,I did my crying and feeling sorry for myself it took me a good few months, But now i will never look back ever , The grass is not always greener on the other side his loss, Be strong and keep up your great .... My sleeve is for sept 10th and i just jumping for joy <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

Thank you sooooo very much! I needed to hear that. I appreciate the support and GOOD LUCK!!!!

[delta_girl 931]

Going through the same thing, just long term relationship and not marriage.

[No game 14,436]

Going through the same thing' date=' just long term relationship and not marriage.[/quote']

I'm sorry to hear that delta.. I understand that this can be a trying time and I wish you well.

[kimikat3 150]

Going through the same thing' date=' just long term relationship and not marriage.[/quote']

Delta there is no difference... Love is love... Whether there is a piece of paper that makes it "official" or not, does not change the amount of emotions and hurt that come from a departure.

Know that you aren't alone in this though...

[hvdavis 2]

I was sleeved on July 8th. My husband filed for divorce and it will be final this week. Just remember that you did this for you!

[Nurse_B 270]

Hello,

I am single, but your story touched me. I can't imagine working towards this goal, with your partner by your side and then BOOM. I don't know how that would feel, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I hope you are able to rise from this stronger, and with an outlook of taking care of yourself first. Best wishes to you, I hope you again find happiness.

[kimikat3 150]

Hello' date='

I am single, but your story touched me. I can't imagine working towards this goal, with your partner by your side and then BOOM. I don't know how that would feel, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I hope you are able to rise from this stronger, and with an outlook of taking care of yourself first. Best wishes to you, I hope you again find happiness.[/quote']

Thank you. It has definitely been harder than I could have ever expected... I'm sure someday when I'm able to look back on this there will be reasons for it all.

[Indigo1991 1,612]

I hope when you look back, it will be because you want to remember the time your life really changed for the better - and that the reasons won't matter any more :-)

Hold your head up, it's not easy now but it does get better. My ex husband and I split 3 years ago after 30 years. Last Sept, we got back together secretly to see if we could make it work but he suddenly dumped me the month before my surgery in March this year, no explanation. Or reasons.

So I went through surgery alone but I haven't looked back. I realised the strength I have and have been so grateful for my friends, who have stood by me through it all. Good luck to you, you are not alone... There are a few of us on the road with you x

[kimikat3 150]

I hope when you look back' date=' it will be because you want to remember the time your life really changed for the better - and that the reasons won't matter any more :-)

Hold your head up, it's not easy now but it does get better. My ex husband and I split 3 years ago after 30 years. Last Sept, we got back together secretly to see if we could make it work but he suddenly dumped me the month before my surgery in March this year, no explanation. Or reasons.

So I went through surgery alone but I haven't looked back. I realised the strength I have and have been so grateful for my friends, who have stood by me through it all. Good luck to you, you are not alone... There are a few of us on the road with you x

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Wow!!! I'm so sorry! But good for you for making it through all of that and holding your own! Stories like that give me hope!!!

Thank you!

[Indigo1991 1,612]

There is definitely hope! I had my first date in 33 years six weeks ago and survived - everything is possible, lol!

[kimikat3 150]

There is definitely hope! I had my first date in 33 years six weeks ago and survived - everything is possible' date=' lol![/quote']

Ha! That totally brought a smile to my face. I look forward to those days. Thank you again for your words of encouragement.