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Finally I had my private meltdown here at the hospital and cried for an hour. Sometimes I feel so selfish for getting the lapband 2 years ago and being in and out of the hospital since. Now here I am back in the hospital post op getting the band out and yet another procedure to the sleeve. And of course I am sick post op. My poor little girl who happens to be autistic left the hospital tonight hysterical because I'm not coming home tonight. So I lost it. I could really use a friend right now. I'm so far from home and alone in this hospital room. My heart is breaking.

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I am so sorry you are feeling so bad :( Things will get better with each day and your little one will have you back home before you know it. She may not be able to understand now but she will appreciate her healthier mom in the years to come. Sending a big (gentle) hug from Texas your way <3

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Hi from Houston, Tx. Please know that, as I get ready for bed tonight, you are in my thoughts and prayers. You may be alone in your hospital room, but you are surrounded in spirit with love and compassion. Your daughter is as well. And though she won't remember the night mommy had to stay at the hospital, she will remember all the things you'll be able to do with her after you've recovered. I wish you a night of rest and a morning of renewed hope. (And I know this might be corny as all get out, but it is the truth and I sincerely mean it :)

Ps- I am figuring out how to PM you in case you need to talk.

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I agree with the ladies above!

You will be home soon and on your way to health. This is a bump in the road. Get some rest and walk, sip, walk, sip, walk! Can't wait to hear good updates...

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Hugs and prayers from West Virginia! Stay strong!!

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Aah so sorry :(

I'm sure it's hard now, but know that this is a bump in the road and you will be a happier and healthier mommy for your family!

Healing thoughts coming your way.

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Your post broke my heart because I have an autistic son & I truly understand what you mean by your child being hysterical that you weren't going home. My son will be the same way. He still doesn't know I'm going into the hospital (in less than 2 weeks) & I just don't know how to even tell him but I'm not telling him I'm having weight loss surgery. I'm trying to think of something to say to him. I don't know what to say or do to help you but I can pray for you & know that all these lovely people that posted before me, are thinking of you as well. (((Hugs)))

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Wow! I am so sorry! I sure hope you get to go home sooner then later. Don't feel selfish about having this surgery...ever! You did this so that you can be the best you, and mom there is! You will be so much healthier, and able to keep up with your child, and play with her. She will forget about while you were away for a while, but she won't forget how much more time she will have with her mom now that you have made this choice to get healthy! As for the meltdown....go ahead and let it out! You will have more to come while healing, and getting used to this new lifestyle. As for having to be in and out of the hospital...I can tell you that since I left the hospital after my surgery, I haven't had to go to the doctors at all relating to anything to do with my sleeve. Good luck to you for a speedy recover. And congratulations on your new sleeve and new way of life! :)

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Sending you a big hug. You will be home and up and about before you know it. Just think of the quality you will add to your life and your child's when you are able to do more and no longer sick from the stupid band.

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Sending hugs and hoping today is a better day! What you are doing for your health will benefit your children as well. :)

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Hoping this morning was better for you than last night. Keep your chin up. You're there doing something to benefit yourself and your family.

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Im so sorry your going through this I hope as the days pass things get better keep your chin up your doing this to be healthy for your daughter. She may not understand that but your doing the right thing hang in there

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Hi from Houston, Tx. Please know that, as I get ready for bed tonight, you are in my thoughts and prayers. You may be alone in your hospital room, but you are surrounded in spirit with love and compassion. Your daughter is as well. And though she won't remember the night mommy had to stay at the hospital, she will remember all the things you'll be able to do with her after you've recovered. I wish you a night of rest and a morning of renewed hope. (And I know this might be corny as all get out, but it is the truth and I sincerely mean it :)

Ps- I am figuring out how to PM you in case you need to talk.

Beautifully said. I'm keeping you and your daughter, all your loved ones, in my thoughts and prayers.

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The only thing I can offer are my prayers sweety. Like all have said, it is a bump in the road, one that u will overcome nd be the better for...your entire family will b better for it, keep us updated:)). Xxxxxx, Dee nd family:) in Virginia!

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