To tell or not to tell

[mariadt 27]

I have not problem about telling people, my friends, that I will have my suegery . But today, talking with 3 psichoanalist, they thinl ot os better not to tell peopleand just tell them yoiu ate lossing weight with a diet. I am

Not the kimd of secretivevperson but would like to know what do you thinl. Are you yelling your friendscand relatives? Thanks

[wmbt 3]

Hi. I'm telling my family but, no one else. I am typically private so it's nothing different. I want to stay focused and positive leading up to the surgery. If I tell me people, it will be after.

[Chaparra 85]

I tell anyone who asks. I do this because I want people who were in the same situation, or worse, than me to see that there is hope. People have been talking about what I did in my office and now 2 other people are going to seminars and one is almost done with her 6 months nutrition visits (required by our insurance).

[ljmasterdebater 71]

to pee or not to pee that is the question. just tell them it makes life easier

[luckysmomma 407]

I told no one. People can be mean, intentionally and unintentionally. I am single, so I have no one to tell really. I didn't want to worry my family or friends - they have enough going on without worrying about my weight issues.

My advice - think long and hard before you tell anyone...once it is out there, there's no going back.

Best of luck to you. Do what is best for you, everybody is different about it.

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

I am a psychotherapist and I've told everyone, even my clients. My bf objected and when I was skinny I experienced her walking to the door with her head hanging down and her external voice said "I can't handle you skinniness." Then I adopted my screen name "miss skinniness." I love it! And she finally did come around. now she's a hard cookie to crack.

[NewAshes 232]

I don't really have many close friends and I think it would kind of be weird to post on Facebook that I had that surgery so only my family knows and not even everyone and come surgery I think I'll just tell those who ask.

[kailie 238]

My parents are helping pay for my surgery so they know. My boyfriend knows cause he will have to help around the house more. His parents know because I'm going to need grandparents to send the kids to while recovering. And 3 friends.. That's it. Not telling my 4 brothers or 2 sister in laws no aunts uncles cousins. Too many controlling people in my life that would think they know more about it then I do with all my research... Maybe once it's done and no one can try to talk me out of it. Not because I would listen to them but just because I don't want to hear what they would have to say. Lol

[memk 42]

My co-workers all know.. I work for an oncology company so they are all about health and support their employees.. So much that my approval/auth was sent in within 24hrs for surgery. But only 2 of my family members know other than my husband.. I would rather them just wonder when they do see me !!!

[Lori228 60]

I work at a hospital and people are smart and I have a hard time not telling the truth so I found it was much easier to share the information. There are some that are less supportive than others but that is true of any situation. People in my life know I have tried to lose weight before, more than once, and to all of a sudden lose weight "magically" is a quite a stretch so the truth seemed easier. I don't regret.

[Pixie Dust 526]

I told no one. People can be mean, intentionally and unintentionally. I am single, so I have no one to tell really. I didn't want to worry my family or friends - they have enough going on without worrying about my weight issues.

My advice - think long and hard before you tell anyone...once it is out there, there's no going back.

Best of luck to you. Do what is best for you, everybody is different about it.

Couldn't have said this better myself! I totally agree with you. With all that being said, naturally my husband knows & 2 very close friends who live out of state & I did tell one of my neighbors (who doesn't talk to the other neighbors) in case I need help with my special needs son. That's it. Those 4 people know how important it is to me for it to remain private. I just don't want to deal with the negativity & the "can't you just join Weight Watchers??" If someone says to me "you took the easy way out" somebody better hold me back! That's why its no one's business! Maybe you have better friends/relatives than I have. So just do what's right for you. If it's to hard to keep a secret, then just tell...but be prepared for everyone's input.

[Lego78 8]

I told certain people in my life, and it has been a life saver. Knowing you have that support will make your recovery process a lot better. Trust me. I just got sleeved Tuesday and knowing people are there if need be makes me relaxed so I can heal.

[JerseyCityGal 231]

I think it is a personal choice and I plan on taking a "need to know" approach. I need to tell an out of state uncle as my next of kin in case anything should go terribly wrong, my next door neighbor in case of emergency, my best friend for moral support and that's about it.

If anyone inquires with what I feel are good intentions, I certainly won't lie ... but if I feel they are going to be less than supportive, I will keep mum about the procedure or give a vague "stomach problems" answer. I don't owe anyone an explanation about what I do with my body.

[lifer 38]

I work at a hospital and people are smart and I have a hard time not telling the truth so I found it was much easier to share the information. There are some that are less supportive than others but that is true of any situation. People in my life know I have tried to lose weight before' date=' more than once, and to all of a sudden lose weight "magically" is a quite a stretch so the truth seemed easier. I don't regret.[/quote']

That's exactly how I felt. I felt like I had been lying to my closest friends at work, when I had to take a day off here and there for appointments. I felt like I had to tell them. I'm not telling anybody else at work but I'm sure they will find out somehow, you know how that goes...

[mariadt 27]

One of my bigger problems is telling my 76 sick (mental) mother the date of the surgery but i dont want hervin the clinic with me or at home during the first days. She is a mean person. But the rest of my family knows (not the date). I really dont mind much if she gets angry withe because she allways is. Yet it makes me feel kind of guilty not telling her since she live 5 min from my home. Guess i will tell her after the surgery and desl with her anger later.