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You don't weigh enough for that....So sick of hearing this!



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I guess some people do it to be nice. IDK. but they don't know our struggle. People constantly told me your not that fat' date=' your too young, it doesnt work. blah blah then you dont do it!!!!.

If i listened to these people I would not have been weighing 233.9lbs today (10 weeks out) I would have probably gained 5 pounds and have been eating all the wrong stuff. When they tell you that next time just tell them thank you. SO imagine how great i'll look after surgery! Good Luck!!! these next 4 months will fly by.[/quote']

I hope u are and they sprout wings soon. Cuz they are creeping at a snails pace right now!!!! Lol

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I hear it EVERYDAY!!! :/ I'm 5'10" and now after all my diets and getting ready to start liquid diet on Monday my weight is 232lbs. I'm an apple shape so mostly I get 'when are you due?' :/

I hate hearing that too. I carry all my weight in the middle. Look like a potato with toothpicks for arms and legs. Lol. Thank y'all for listening and for the encouragement. I am not able to talk to many ppl about this because I am not telling many ppl and the hubby is not real happy about it so we have pretty much agreed to leave the subject alone for now.

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I hope u are and they sprout wings soon. Cuz they are creeping at a snails pace right now!!!! Lol

I started my 6 months last year in April. Just try to do all your pre tests before your 6 months this way once September comes you'll be 100 percent done and then you can proceed to submit to insurance. I procrastinated a lot. September came and left and I still hadn't seen the pulmonary specialist or gotten a psych eval. Then They submitted to my insurance got approved and need to wait 1 month and a half to finally meet the surgeon but 1 weeks before that I got a call that my hospital will no longer take my insurance. I was so depressed. but thank goodness i saw a few other docs during my process (in hopes to find someone who would tell me i didnt need the 6 months and all the extra pre op exams)

Anywho sorry for the long story. Good luck!

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I started my 6 months last year in April. Just try to do all your pre tests before your 6 months this way once September comes you'll be 100 percent done and then you can proceed to submit to insurance. I procrastinated a lot. September came and left and I still hadn't seen the pulmonary specialist or gotten a psych eval. Then They submitted to my insurance got approved and need to wait 1 month and a half to finally meet the surgeon but 1 weeks before that I got a call that my hospital will no longer take my insurance. I was so depressed. but thank goodness i saw a few other docs during my process (in hopes to find someone who would tell me i didnt need the 6 months and all the extra pre op exams)

Anywho sorry for the long story. Good luck!

Thank you

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I'm right there with the rest if you gals! I'm almost 5' 7" and I get the shocked faces too when I reveal my weight, followed by, "Well, you carry your weight well." I started at 40 bmi, down to 36, but obese is obese. It causes health problems and so much more. And your right, if we could have done it with diet and exercise, we wouldn't be here paying $1000's of dollars or taking risks!

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I have had this too. It actually happened to me at my pre surgery seminar. I don't want to explain anything to people so I just say "thank you...I'll take that as a compliment." It frustrates me too, and to be honest it's not wanting to get into it with people that is making me not tell anyone.

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I am taller than most girls and I would often hear that I don't look big enough for that surgery. Big enough.....????? Really? So that person is subtly informing me that they know I am BIG just not The World's Biggest Gal big. I had to tell them that I am qualified to have the surgery but I have other conditions that I found to life threatening to deal with if I didn't have the surgery.

I've experienced something similar my entire life....slim girlfriends, family..even guys I've dated over the years have informed me from time to time that I'm not "THAT BIG"... erg! most are well intentioned but every time it makes me cringe and want to crawl into a hole!!!

So just my two cents but I get it, and hey no one says you have to explain anything to anyone, unless you want to :)

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I think a lot of people think that if you're not 600lbs, like the extreme cases, you should be doing it on our own. Well, duh.. Don't they realize the 600 lbs people used to be that "not that big enough" person once, too

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I know if I don't have this surgery now I will be well on my way to 250 before I know It. Everyone in my family is obese. Half of them have diabetes the other half have Hypertension. a few have both. And now both my mother and father have heart issues. I myself have hypertension and take 3 medications for it. Just don't want to keep going and get worse over time. I wanna look like the person I feel to be on the inside. I know I have made the right decision for myself. Just disheartening to hear what other ppl say at times. But onward and upward. I will be over the hill of this journey in no time and on my way down the road to a HAPPY_HEALTHY_TERRIFIC brand new me!!!! And to heck with all those who don't support me in my efforts.....

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I think a lot of people think that if you're not 600lbs, like the extreme cases, you should be doing it on our own. Well, duh.. Don't they realize the 600 lbs people used to be that "not that big enough" person once, too

Yeah, but what is funny is that a lot of Dr.'s wont touch patients over 500 lbs. due to the increased in post op complications Those patients have to find Dr.'s who take higher BMI/Weight cases.

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Yep.. What a mixed up world.

Hahaha.. I love that "but your not that big" .. As if that's not a rude hurtful thing to say.

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Yeah I heard this all the time too. Even the nurse taking me back to get ready for the surgery said that. Now that I've lost the weight those same people are the very ones say "OMG you look so good! You don't even look like the same person!" LOL

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