Feeling down

[blueeyesxo3 103]

Although I've gone from 308 and down to 178 as i weighed myself today, I feel like a Goodyear blimp! I just don't feel like myself. I am extremely proud of where I've come from but I just don't feel like it's good enough! Has anyone else felt down like when you look in the mirror you don't see your skinny self but the old you still? I hope this feeling passes soon!

[12345 80]

I attend a bariatric support group. The psychologist there said it could take some time before you see yourself as you are now. Your mind, she said, still sees the old you and needs to be re-trained.

Sounds weird but then again I don't see much difference in myself when I look in the mirror and I've lost over a hundred pounds...

[Newme48 104]

Yes I often feel down. I have been getting a lot of compliments from coworkers on my weight loss and how different I look. I really don't see it. Yes I can notice clothes not fitting and I am able to pull my jeans on and off with out unbuttoning them. But when I look in the mirror I just don't see it. Hoping that changes though. I am determined to lose as much as I can during the first 6 months of my sleeve. I wish you luck in your journey. Keep your chin up and try to be positive with your eye on the goals you set for yourself!! Good luck!

[Momonanomo 534]

I'm pre-op, but I have in the past lost significant weight and had the same feelings.

This time I'm arming myself with a good reality check tool...it's this website called mybodygallery.com, and all these women have posted pictures of themselves with their height and weight. It has helped me feel a bit more grounded. You can do a search and see what other women at your height look like at 308 and then go look at women your height at 178. So if you can't see it on you, you can see it on other people. It's very interesting too, to see the different shapes everyone comes in. And...I have to say, I've really gotten to a place in my head that I can see the beauty in ALL the body sizes.

btw, from 308 to 178 is a significant accomplishment! Good job! Love yourself for it!

[razin3 1]

If you still have a pair of your old jeans, just get them out and try them on and your self esteem will slowly change. Another idea is to take a current icture of yourself and visually compair it to a picture before the weight loss. Pictures don't lie and you will be amazed every time you compare the photos how far you have come. It's hard to see a true vision of yourself in the reflection in the mirror. Stop worrying about losing weight and what you look like! Make a fitness goal and concentrate on working towards that goal. Change your focus from your weight and appearance to other things you want to achieve in life and when you feel down occasionally, try on those jeans or compare those pictures!

[Amanda626 153]

I totally understand . I hope in time we will see the new and im proved! So much of it's mental

[blueeyesxo3 103]

If you still have a pair of your old jeans' date=' just get them out and try them on and your self esteem will slowly change. Another idea is to take a current icture of yourself and visually compair it to a picture before the weight loss. Pictures don't lie and you will be amazed every time you compare the photos how far you have come. It's hard to see a true vision of yourself in the reflection in the mirror. Stop worrying about losing weight and what you look like! Make a fitness goal and concentrate on working towards that goal. Change your focus from your weight and appearance to other things you want to achieve in life and when you feel down occasionally, try on those jeans or compare those pictures![/quote']

Thank you for that idea! Unfortunately right now I still just don't feel it :/. I've been so weigh focused my whole life and worry what everyone thinks about me. Most days I'm so happy with myself but today I'm just not feeling it!

[mooregirl 74]

Thank you for that idea! Unfortunately right now I still just don't feel it :/. I've been so weigh focused my whole life and worry what everyone thinks about me. Most days I'm so happy with myself but today I'm just not feeling it!

Holy moly! You look awesome... You have done such a great job. Give yourself a pat on the back and give it time to sink in. You are almost half the person you were before. Focus on things aside from the numbers... How do you feel? What can you do now that you couldn't before? How much more fun is it to shop? Congrats on all of your hard work.

[blueeyesxo3 103]

Thank you so much! I love shopping! It's an awesome feeling asking if they have a size medium shirt in the back or a size 10 short or pants! I loved going summer clothes shopping and buying bikinis for vacation with my boyfriend! I used to wear a 24 and a size 3x shirt! Yeah I really need to focus on other things besides the number on the scale! Thank you for the support!

[sharonintx 1,275]

You look beautiful! Its just not fair that we can't see ourselves as others see us.