I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

I still see myself as a huge, overweight, unfit person, even though I have run in to a couple fairly close friends who have really talked me up and one of them did not even recognize me. Yet I am reluctant to believe all that they are saying based on what I see in the mirror. I guess I am all screwed up!

JC

we all are JC! Don't feel lonely in that department! lol

Yeah finally a free saturday and no date..sigh

What is wrong with me..argghhh..two guys that I thought were interested just decide to fall off the face of the planet..lol..I don't get it

I have been trying to get some new pictures taken. Even though I have lost 50 lbs. I still look really fat in pictures. I am going to have to lose a bunch more before I can get a decent picture. And it's not just my imagination. The people (friend and daughter) both agreed with me that I need to keep losing. It's depressing. I need to find a decent pose too.

I have been reading these posts - new to this forum...

Just one thought on dating with a new thinner body after lapband..it isn't a guarantee that you will be dating more...

I have many single thin girlfriends who don't get asked out..

It's your personality that shines through gals...just keep smiling...

I don't know how much you want to lose to be healthy. It took me about 100 pounds before people really noticed. I was 378 now I am 206. Drastic change, although some people think I changed my hair or my glasses! lol I went from a size 28/3x to a 14/16 Keep up the good work.

Hi all - I finally have a surgery date so I am adding my new ticker to count down to the first day of the rest of my life!!!

:whoo:

Congratulations April!

Thanks Denise! By the way how are you doing this week?

Minor little thing

one ninety nine today

:cool: :Banane20:

Minor little thing

one ninety nine today

:cool: :Banane20:

WOW Manatee -

That is NOT a minor thing that is AWESOME!!!!

I'm doing the Happy dance for you!

:whoo:

I am doing pretty well. I blew it last weekend when I went away for the weekend. We were eating all meals out and I ended up gaining 5 lbs. I have lost 4 of them during this week.

I am a little disgusted with Match. com and E Harmony. I would really like it if I would at least get an email from someone, but no such luck.

Congratulations Manatee!

OMG Manatee that is AWESOME!! Way to go!! You are going to be fighting them off with sticks!!

Congrats April on your surgery date! That is sooo exciting!

Not too much new on the single front for me. I've been dating - a couple new first dates a few dates with exes or old friends. I almost feel like I need to refocus a bit though and work on losing this last 40 lbs. Dating equals a lot of eating out and drinks, which don't necessarily work well with losing weight. That, and I need to join the gym and really start working out. So we'll see.

I wonder how JC is doing? He had a date and we've yet to see him back.....lol.

Hi to everyone else!

Hi Everyone! I got banded 3 weeks ago but just discovered this website - I wish I had known about it a long time ago! Oh well. Anyway, I am also a single bandster, so figured I'd stop into this thread and say "hello"! I haven't dated very much in the last few months (I moved to a new city for work - Houston - about a year ago and still don't know very many people here, which hurts the love life) but just put my profile on eharmony.com. We'll see how that goes - I've never done the whole online dating thing, but I'm sick of tagging along with work friends (and their spouses) on the weekends or renting movies from Blockbuster to watch all by my lonesome. No more! :-) I'm glad to see there are others out there facing the challenge of being banded and single! Have a great weekend.