Hi~ I will be sleeved March 19 and I was wondering what did you say to your children prior to surgery? I know most of us are nervous wrecks prior to any surgery and one of the biggest worries is *God forbid something happens, what is the last thing I say to my kids...besides I love you? * I've had quite a few surgeries in my past (lapband, plastic surg) and always give them a big loving see you later but now they are older 25 yo (which I got under control she understands). My 12 & 13 yr old daughter don't know I'm having the surgery YET. I really don't want them thinking/worrying about it now since its 2 months away. I just want to them to understand that i need this and not to think I'm selfish. What did you say?? Even as far as God forbid these were your last words? Am I the only nut that worries about this??

I am not bashing Iggy but this is a support forum and I do not find Iggy to be supportive and obviously many others don't either.

AussieLady' date=' don't let the door hit ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My letters that I have already written go over how special they are and our time together. It also covers events for the future. Dating, marriage, babies, college, etc. I fear the plane rides more than anything.[/quote']

Not sure what the door comment means. I understand why people in America fear plane rides I would agree that's a better reason for writing these letters than the surgery is. But that just backs me up.

Aussie, I thought you were leaving?!

As I said, I'm thinking about it.

I was really excited to read this thread but what a disappointment. :-( Can't we all just get along?

I have a 4 yr old and almost 2 yr old And have been wondering what to tell the 4 yr old- since she will notice my absence the most when I'm in the hospital. Going into details about the surgery and why is way too complicated for their little minds to understand. Not sure what to tell them.

Same here. I was excited to get some ideas on what to tell my nearly 3 year old, or if she should see me in the hospital post-op. I know I would want her, but worry that she might get really scared seeing mommy laying there with all the machines around her and on her.

I thought iggy had a good idea. With my daughter being so young, if something did happen, how much would she remember of me when she's older? At least she would have a heartfelt letter to hold onto.

And now my kids are on school holidays and going back in a week and a bit.

I've told them I've made new school bags out of my left over stomach' date=' because I don't like waste.[/quote']

Hahaha this is soo funny!!

My sons are 3 and 8 months, I won't even say anything until the day of. All I'll tell them is I love them, I'll see them later, and be good for daddy! Lol

My son is 5 (6 in march) quite the blabber mouth, i love his dearly he's just like me lol. I don't want my a*****e exhusband to ever know I had the surgery so I told him & my son that I was having my gallbladder removed. So far so good, that was dec 10th

My kids are 9& 6. I was upfront and honest with them from the moment that I decided to have this surgery (as Dean said in an age appropriate way). We discussed ahead of time why I was doing this and what would happen afterwards and the effects it would have on us as a family. I tell my children everyday how much I love them so the day of surgery was no different for us. Part of my reasoning for talking with them through this whole process was that I wanted them to be able to ask as many questions and feel as comfortable as they could with my decision. All of our children are different and we all have different relationships. However, I think it is safe to say that we all love and adore our children and shouldn't insult oneanother with thoughts that because we deal differently with our families that one parent loves theirs kids more than another.

Ok' date=' I can't take this anymore. Is Iggy working on a script for a Hollywood movie? Her story gets more dramatic with every post.

I think I am going to find another VSG support site. I just want to know where I am headed now that I have had this surgery. As I have said before, thank you God for not letting me find this site until after my surgery.[/quote']

Aussie. I'm sorry if my life bothers you. Yes I have had tragedy in my life. My aunt died suddenly. It shaped me. My baby was born very ill. It shaped me. I have a dear friend who is dying. That shapes me. I like many others have grown from tragedy and it changes how I approach things. This is fairly normal. I shared how these experiences changed me because of your initial negative post so that you could understand my thought process.

FYI my life is very full. I live it to the fullest. This tends to mean that I experience things. Many things you couldn't possibly understand as I likely couldn't relate to your world I believe. This does not mean that I would belittle your world though.

I, like many others here, just wanted him to have something to hold onto. He is too young to remember everything I would want him to know and I've seen firsthand what the sudden loss of a patent can do to a child. I just wanted to cover my bases.

Ok, I can't take this anymore. Is Iggy working on a script for a Hollywood movie? Her story gets more dramatic with every post.

I think I am going to find another VSG support site. I just want to know where I am headed now that I have had this surgery. As I have said before, thank you God for not letting me find this site until after my surgery.

There's an ignore function on the site. You should use that, rather than repeatedly post negative comments against another user.

I, like many others here, just wanted him to have something to hold onto. He is too young to remember everything I would want him to know and I've seen firsthand what the sudden loss of a patent can do to a child. I just wanted to cover my bases.

Iggy, stop justifying your actions. The thought of writing a letter is moving. Even an older child who might remember those talks would probably cherish a letter throughout the rest of their life.

Iggy' date=' stop justifying your actions. The thought of writing a letter is moving. Even an older child who might remember those talks would probably cherish a letter throughout the rest of their life.[/quote']

I agree. I made video msgs too. I didn't tell anyone but my hubby I was going ( my children are young), so I felt I owed an explanation to my loved ones jut in case. Luckily I never had to use them.

Iggy' date=' stop justifying your actions. The thought of writing a letter is moving. Even an older child who might remember those talks would probably cherish a letter throughout the rest of their life.[/quote']

You are right, thank you.

I agree. I made video msgs too. I didn't tell anyone but my hubby I was going ( my children are young)' date=' so I felt I owed an explanation to my loved ones jut in case. Luckily I never had to use them.[/quote']

Egads I bawled my brains out writing the letter! What a sweet thing to do for your child. I'm glad you never needed them! But what a wonderful gift to them if you did. That's touching and powerful all at the same time.