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Omg!!! Why does he keep eating in front of me?? I was recently sleeved on 12/5, so I am on a clear liquid diet. These wonderful smells are killing me. I would really like for him to be more sensitive to my situation. STOP EATING IN FRONT OF ME!!!!!!!

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Omg!!! Why does he keep eating in front of me?? I was recently sleeved on 12/5' date=' so I am on a clear liquid diet. These wonderful smells are killing me. I would really like for him to be more sensitive to my situation. STOP EATING IN FRONT OF ME!!!!!!![/quote']

I was sleeved on 11/5 and liquids was my worse weeks.I was miserable ...stay strong, get SF popsicles and look on here for good liquid diet recipes...that helped me alot

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I am 2 weeks post-op. I had to do the first week of just Water. Now I am on shakes & water. I had the same issue with my boyfriend who I live with. He actually made bacon & eggs. It was torture. I just straight out asked him to not eat at home until I could at least move onto soft foods. I asked him nicely & explained how much I needed his help to be successful. Since then he has been great about eating away from home. Have you asked him to not eat in front of you? Sometimes men really need things spelled out. LOL ;)

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I agree that we have to spell some things out to them. I have asked but not in those words. Tonight I said, "I guess you don't feel my pain and understand what I am going through." His response was, "uh".. Like WTF!!! So I said, " we'll, I guess that means no." He said he does, so when our little girl goes to bed, I guess we will discuss this more.

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when I was first post-op....the smell of food turned me off, I would have to leave a room because the smell was too awful....

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when I was first post-op....the smell of food turned me off' date=' I would have to leave a room because the smell was too awful....[/quote']

It did not bother me right away, but now I am having a hard time smelling it and not wanting it.

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I guess every doc is different because I am 2 weeks post op and I came home from the hospital on day 3 eating cream of wheat, cream Soups, puddings etc....as a matter of fact, they gave it to me on the hosp....Today was my 2 week follow up and I am off of food restrictions....just eat when hungry, eat til full, chew, chew, chew and hydrate, hydrate, hydrate.....I tried puree and could not handle that....10 days post op, I tried the string cheese....I haven't been nausea once.....

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I agree that we have to spell some things out to them. I have asked but not in those words. Tonight I said, "I guess you don't feel my pain and understand what I am going through." His response was, "uh".. Like WTF!!! So I said, " we'll, I guess that means no." He said he does, so when our little girl goes to bed, I guess we will discuss this more.

I reacted the same way at first. When I smelled the bacon I literally said, "Are you kidding me? Do you not understand what I'm going through?!" He said he did and I just angrily said "Obviously, you don't". It wasn't until I calmed down & actually talked with him & straight out asked for his help that I got it. I hope that it goes well for you. I know how difficult this is being only 1 week ahead of you. We can do this! Be strong.

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My fiance and sin have been eating in front of me and it bothers me a little knowing that I cant have the same, but I made this decision, not them. My surgery is this Friday.

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Im not married but having these same issues with others in the house!!! It's terrible, I didn't think I'd have much problems but I'm on my 4th day post op and its starting to be really really hard I hope it gets easier with me having ten more days until I can eat anything solid =(

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I went through that too. It just make me ,"MAD"!!! Your tring to be strong. Its already thw holiday season. You have this big traintations, going on in your life. Just ask them nicely, to eat some where else. ")

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I agree with Leah, why should he have to suffer because you chose to have surgery and do this to yourself. I came home from surgery and asked my husband to please just not make bacon. Other than that he is free to make and eat whatever he wants. I also cook them dinner and can't eat any of it. It doesn't bother me. I chose this journey, he didn't.

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I agree with Leah' date=' why should he have to suffer because you chose to have surgery and do this to yourself. I came home from surgery and asked my husband to please just not make bacon. Other than that he is free to make and eat whatever he wants. I also cook them dinner and can't eat any of it. It doesn't bother me. I chose this journey, he didn't.[/quote']

Well, I have asked my husband to please not eat one specific thing as well..which is why it was so difficult. I totally understand that "I" made this decision along with the support of my husband. I don't care abt them eating in the house; I would just like it if you not come in the same room with me. I guess we all have our own ways of thinking (which we are all entitled to.)

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