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35 year old planning 2 have the sleeve done

toy27

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toy27    62

toy27
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I don't have any support from my family my husband don't care what i do he just dont wanna miss any time from work being as though i am the only driver i really want this but scared some1 please help me by telling me how u felt b4 and after the surgery and how was the pain after i know i have 2 do this i am not happy with myself

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Pookeyism    1,143

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Hmmm...

Toy27, no offense because I know I am horrible speller and my phone is no help, but consider editing that a bit, so we can follow - it will help you get better responses.

Are you saying you have no support from who? siblings? children? in your home/outside your home?

Hubby doesn't want to miss work and you are the only one with a license?

It is going to be hard with or without help. If your husband does nto want to miss work, then suggest to him he has however long till your surgery to make sure he has other arrangements to get back and forth...his responsibility not yours.

Now - make you your respnsibility, since it seems no one else is...find a support group, message me here if you would like.

God bless, good luck.

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sramos89    260

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If you are overweight and Need this surgery, you are going to have health problems down the road that are going to cause you to miss A LOT of work. If you need this surgery do it now, you will feel so much better and be able to do so much more. You are only restricted from driving until you are off the pain meds. For me that was 3 days from the day of surgery. Good Luck!

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toy27    62

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Sorry 4 the type o i don't work but my hubby don't drive i keep tryna get him 2 but nothing is working dont and never had support from my family members outside my home i have 2 kids 15 & 13 that i don't. Wanna share this info with

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jsunflower2001    29

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I don't have any support from my family my husband don't care what i do he just dont wanna miss any time from work being as though i am the only driver i really want this but scared some1 please help me by telling me how u felt b4 and after the surgery and how was the pain after i know i have 2 do this i am not happy with myself

You have to this surgery for you! No support is hard but your health is on the line.

I don't know how I will feel after the surgery but I can say I am right now excited, scared and rushed because the family Hanukkah party is tomorrow and then family will be in for xmas

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Gintobethin    15

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I just turned 35 on December 7 I had my sleeve on December 5 my husband was really unsupportive but we have to do what we can to feel better about ourselves And become healthier people for our families. If your insurance is approving you and you can do it,do it if your husband Doesn't want to miss work he will find a ride. Sometimes we just have to do what we can and work with what we got. When you have lost all the weight you will not regret it.

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