So, my surgery date is getting closer. Nov 5th. I can hardly wait. Anyhoo, my fiancé has as if late been making comments that make me think he is going to miss all the fatness. He has not discouraged me from getting surgery though.

It's just curious. He was happy a couple years back when I lost lots on the HCG diet. Do you think this is just his way if telling me he is nervous about the surgery? Cause I can't imagine he will miss the fatness.

I'm sure that's it, he is just concerned for your well being. My husband worried a lot as well but never tried to sabotage my surgery or my plans for it.

I think that has to be it. He is worried, but feeling like he should be encouraging. He actually rubbed my belly the other day, which is just really weird when there is no baby there.

My husband said he'll be supportive when it's time for surgery, but he is also saying "I'd rather have you fat than not at all" (meaning death). Ugh! So marose!

He is most likely worried. I know my husband was, but it was very supportive and still is to this day. He actually has a little bit of a harder time now because I am getting more attention from other men and it makes him jealous...which he hasn't really had to be in the last 12 years! But when I ask him if he thinks I am too skinny now, he always says no and that it makes him so happy to see that I am finally happy and confident with myself. The only thing he has fessed up to missing is my big boobs! But he is also very willing to pay for new ones (I want them...he is not arguing!).

A lot of guys probably worry women will be more attractive and might look for something "better." Everyone has their insecurities. Weight loss definitely changes confidence levels and relationships.

I would say he is just worried, my hubby was too. He is loving me now, I am so much happier and he is too!

It might not be worry. I've lost about 70 pounds and while everyone gives me compliments... I know my hubby really misses my 244lb body. He always says how he loved to feel my weight on him and how everything was so much curvier and fuller. My boobs are gone. My ass is gone. And although I do look sexier overall I understand where he is coming from. He is 180 6" and he is trying to be supportve but he saw my "weight" but never my "weight problem"

My husband has done that same thing to me. He is supportive and excited for me but has made comments that I'm going to be all thin and hot and I'm going to leave him. So not true! He is the love of my life fat or thin. I think it's just insecurities. He is so used to me being heavy and he is comfortable with us. I'm sure your man (and mine) will be fine!!

It might not be worry. I've lost about 70 pounds and while everyone gives me compliments... I know my hubby really misses my 244lb body. He always says how he loved to feel my weight on him and how everything was so much curvier and fuller. My boobs are gone. My ass is gone. And although I do look sexier overall I understand where he is coming from. He is 180 6" and he is trying to be supportve but he saw my "weight" but never my "weight problem"

I think despite what the media tells us, there are men and women out there that find a full figure attractive and sexy! My hubby has loved me and has found me attractive no matter what size I have been.

My husband has done that same thing to me. He is supportive and excited for me but has made comments that I'm going to be all thin and hot and I'm going to leave him. So not true! He is the love of my life fat or thin. I think it's just insecurities. He is so used to me being heavy and he is comfortable with us. I'm sure your man (and mine) will be fine!!

It is new territory for them. My husband made comments like that too (and, as I said, has a little healthy jealousy!). I have told him over and over that he is my everything and he never ever has to worry!

He has never been all that into the big girl thing. He's only 140 on a heavy day. That is why his comments made me think "WTH, did he just say that"?

He could be insecure about what the future holds, but having gone through a large weightloss with me before, he knows it won't make me leave. All it means is more time at the gym and less naps.

Maybe he's mourning the naps then. Ha! Ha!

He has never been all that into the big girl thing. He's only 140 on a heavy day. That is why his comments made me think "WTH, did he just say that"?

He could be insecure about what the future holds, but having gone through a large weightloss with me before, he knows it won't make me leave. All it means is more time at the gym and less naps.

Not to overplay the amateur psychologist here, but my experience with guy friends is that short guys and really thin guys seem to have more issues with self-esteem and confidence than guys of more average height and weight. Maybe even moreso than fat guys in some ways, because being thin and/or short isn't considered "macho." It's also hard for really thin guys to gain weight, maybe even harder than for fat guys to lose weight. And it's impossible to get taller.

My husband commented tonight that he was gonna miss my booty. He loves full figured women. He has been by my side every step of the way. I think when a man loves you he loves now matter what.

My suggestion would be to have him check out these boards.

My hubbie created a 'secret' account here (as in didn't tell me until later) that it really really helped him with his worries and concerns.

It sounds like there is support there and some worry... which is natural. The boards might help ease his concerns and help him voice his support in a more... helpful way.