Hi everyone.

I have been having a rough month. My father is in the hospital , slowly dying and it is really hitting me hard. He has congestive heart failure and really bad lungs from smoking and asbestos. He is getting close to the end and I feel so bad cause there is nothing I can do. I talked to him today on the phone ( I am in California, he is in Oregon) and he told me his liver is starting to shut down and was crying, which made me lose it too. I drank a whole bottle of wine last night, I know that doesnt help but at least I was relaxed a bit. I dont want to fall of the wagon since I am doing so good with my weight loss so I am turning to you all for support. Thanks so much!

Thanks everyone. I drove to Oregon Saturday morning and stayed till last night, visiting with him. My brothers also came from California so we had a good visit reminiscing and laughing. My mom is having a hard time on and off , to be expected. My one brother is still there, my other is going back up tomorrow and I will be back up Friday. He is at peace with the situation and that helps me tremendously, I dont want to see him suffering. We are waiting on the doc to come in for an update. Thanks again my sleeve family, your kind words mean so much.

Kimberly,

I know exactly what you are going through. 1 1/2 years ago my father walked into the ER thinking he had the flu. Apparently he had a heart attack earlier in the week and did not know it. After finding the blockage and stinting it, he was put into an induced coma and died exactly 1 week later from all his organs shutting down except his heart which had been repaired. He was 60 years old and was completely healthy except for type 2 diabetes which he was managing. The difference here is you have the opportunity to talk to your father and tell him everything that you want him to hear while he is still alive even if it is over the telephone. I can only hope that my dad died knowing that I loved him and that he was able to hear the things that I said to him while he laid there in a coma. I will be praying for you and your family.

Thanks so much Kentucky Girl for your kind words. Your Dad did hear those things, I know he did. My biological Dad died at 54 and he was in a coma too and I sat with him for two weeks every night talking to him and I did get a few slight responses from him,even if it was only a slight eye opening or a small squeeze from his hand, I knew he heard me.