I have been going to a WLS surgery support group and every meeting someone says something along the lines of, "well it is not like I am trying to be a size 6 or anything, I just want to be healthier." So am I alone in that I DO wanna be a size 6--or 4--or 2? I want to be the one that is expected to sit in the middle of the backseat because I am so small. I want to wear tiny little jeans and have the option of dressing trashy and still looking hot. I have been big my whole life and I want to be the little one. Don't get me wrong, any move towards health and any weight loss is a good thing. I know better than to measure success vs. failure by getting into a size that seems almost unreal to me now. However, is it OK if I WANT it? Like really,really want it? I know me well enough to know that I will celebrate every pound lost and every step I make towards a healthier me. However, if the truth were told, at the top of the list of reasons that I am willing to allow someone to cut one of my internal organs into pieces and yank part of it out of my body through a slit in my stomach, go through the risks of surgery, and have my eating habits forever changed is because I am SICK OF BEING FAT and I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want to slip into a pair of jeans whose size is one single, solitary number. In this group everyone is like, "oh, I just want to reach a healthier me, looking better is just a little extra." Can I call BS on that? I mean like big heaping, steaming bull $#!%.... I know this post may make me seem shallow, but I have never seen anyone jump up and down over seeing their cholesterol go down 10 points. However, be in the vicinity when a former fatty slips on a size small top and size 6 jeans for the first time and you will see some celebrating going on. They will be taking pictures and calling their friends to share the news. You might see a little dance or hear an "oh HELL YEAH". Ever see anyone act like that over that hospital lab report? I am not trying to minimize the awesome health benefits of losing what is basically another person made up of fat that I am carrying around. I know my friend of fat will eventually kill me if I don't leave her behind. I am looking forward to improved health, mobility, and energy levels--sure...but do I really have to pretend that I wouldn't have the surgery if I knew that my overall health wouldn't really improve and all I had to look forward to is being smaller?

Me also, 2x!!! I'm just about 50 and I've never NOT been fat. 40 years is a long time to be fat, and goshdarnit, I am OVER it and want a single digit size too!!!

When I told my support group that my goal was to be in a size 5, there were eye rolls and gasps that I even brought up something like that. Then I explained that I know that it may be unrealistic to get to that size (esp since I am rather tall) but once I reach goal why do I have to stop working so hard at that point? Why can't I go further? If my body wont let me then I will try to maintain. Then it seemed as if others were more accepting.

Now, keep in mind this is a large support group like 50+people. I was being completely honest and not sugar coating anything about my expectations. I expect that I will reach goal. I WANT to go beyond goal, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Does any one can tell me how do I start a threa? Please and thank you

Does any one can tell me how do I start a threa? Please and thank you

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I confess, I really want to get to a comfortable size S in tops and now that I'm in a size 6 pants I want to be a size 4. But last night when my elbow bumped by hip bone, it really hurt. LOL I love your honestness and all of us concur rather we realize it or not. Thanks for this post.

I'm 39 years old. I turn 40 in November. I had surgery May 16th. My starting weight was 246. I am now 230. I'm not going to lie, I want to be in single digits my 40th birthday! I will work hard to get there and even harder to stay there. When I was 165 I wore a 10-12. So I know I can rock the single digits under that. And I can guarantee you will hear me screening, if I get to a size 6! Just being real.

I'm old. At 55 I fully agree with the op. I have several co-morbidities' date=' I also have scleroderma CREST and Menieres disease. I want them all to be gone or at least well controlled for sure. That being said, even with the different dx I have I am focused mainly on my size. When I get it down the rest will follow as much as they can. The dream and goal is a single digit size no matter how silly and vain it might sound. I don't think you have to be in your 20s to want to know you look good. In fact, speaking for myself I probably want it more because I have suffered with weight issues longer that the 20 something's with the same problem.[/quote']

No, it not vain to want to look good. It's a great feeling.

I'm 39 years old. I turn 40 in November. I had surgery May 16th. My starting weight was 246. I am now 230. I'm not going to lie' date=' I want to be in single digits my 40th birthday! I will work hard to get there and even harder to stay there. When I was 165 I wore a 10-12. So I know I can rock the single digits under that. And I can guarantee you will hear me screening, if I get to a size 6! Just being real.[/quote']

Awe I turn 40 in Dec and my hopes is to be in the one landers.

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I'm 39 years old. I turn 40 in November. I had surgery May 16th. My starting weight was 246. I am now 230. I'm not going to lie' date=' I want to be in single digits my 40th birthday! I will work hard to get there and even harder to stay there. When I was 165 I wore a 10-12. So I know I can rock the single digits under that. And I can guarantee you will hear me screening, if I get to a size 6! Just being real.[/quote']

I was sleeved on May 22

I will be 50 in Dec and yes yes yes I want to be a 4-6!

Heck Yeah! I want to be a 6 . I did it for health issues too I was a 39 BMI with 2 comorbidities.. But honestly what finally made me do something was my unhappiness with my body.I am 33 and dang it I wanna be all cute again! At a size 6 I will not be skinny I am 5'2.5 but I will look cute and still have curves in the right areas:) When I am wearing my six maybe I will try for a 4 who knows

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Thank you now I know how to do it. Thanks

Since I know that size numbers are all fiction especially these days with rampant vanity sizing, I instead have a "vanity" goal of scale numbers. Knowing my genetics, what my Mother and Grandmothers weighed at this age and roughly similar heights, I think it is perfectly reasonable at 5'3" to -after plastics- weight 124 pounds or less.

Since I know that size numbers are all fiction especially these days with rampant vanity sizing' date=' I instead have a "vanity" goal of scale numbers. Knowing my genetics, what my Mother and Grandmothers weighed at this age and roughly similar heights, I think it is perfectly reasonable at 5'3" to -after plastics- weight 124 pounds or less.[/quote']

I want to be a 6 but I have a weight goal too and I will be 130 or less wether that makes me a 6 or if at that weight I am bigger than a 6 I will still shoot for it.I am an 8 right now with 25 till my goal so we shall see.I wish I was built like my mom but I am not she is a 2 with tiny everything.

My goal is to be a size 12-14. I'm not wanting to be skinny, I'm wanted to be toned! I'm not worried as to how much exactly the weight will be because I want to gain muscle.