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Couldn't agree more. It's that basic human need to feel normal, wanted and that we "fit in". Even though I'm just 10# from goal I do struggle a little bit with this believe it or not. I look great with clothes on- don't get me wrong, I'm THRILLED beyond belief on that note. It's when the clothes come off that reality hits each and everytime. Going to have to work on accepting what I have done to my body until and/or if there is a time that plastics will be an option.

Eeee! Plastic surgery will never be an option for me. I am really scared of what will happen next with the weight gone.

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I'm with you. My goal size is 6 :). I'd be happy at 8 but secretly I really want to be a 6

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@ finding meme you dont have to flaunt lots of skin to be sexy. shoulders and legs can be hot. keep them guessing. besides your man is the only one that counts. I to am modest and will never be able to show off cleavage and lots of leg. but enjoy what you got.

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I have been going to a WLS surgery support group and every meeting someone says something along the lines of, "well it is not like I am trying to be a size 6 or anything, I just want to be healthier." So am I alone in that I DO wanna be a size 6--or 4--or 2? I want to be the one that is expected to sit in the middle of the backseat because I am so small. I want to wear tiny little jeans and have the option of dressing trashy and still looking hot. I have been big my whole life and I want to be the little one. Don't get me wrong, any move towards health and any weight loss is a good thing. I know better than to measure success vs. failure by getting into a size that seems almost unreal to me now. However, is it OK if I WANT it? Like really,really want it? I know me well enough to know that I will Celebrate every pound lost and every step I make towards a healthier me. However, if the truth were told, at the top of the list of reasons that I am willing to allow someone to cut one of my internal organs into pieces and yank part of it out of my body through a slit in my stomach, go through the risks of surgery, and have my eating habits forever changed is because I am SICK OF BEING FAT and I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY want to slip into a pair of jeans whose size is one single, solitary number. In this group everyone is like, "oh, I just want to reach a healthier me, looking better is just a little extra." Can I call BS on that? I mean like big heaping, steaming bull $#!%.... I know this post may make me seem shallow, but I have never seen anyone jump up and down over seeing their cholesterol go down 10 points. However, be in the vicinity when a former fatty slips on a size small top and size 6 jeans for the first time and you will see some celebrating going on. They will be taking pictures and calling their friends to share the news. You might see a little dance or hear an "oh HELL YEAH". Ever see anyone act like that over that hospital lab report? I am not trying to minimize the awesome health benefits of losing what is basically another person made up of fat that I am carrying around. I know my friend of fat will eventually kill me if I don't leave her behind. I am looking forward to improved health, mobility, and energy levels--sure...but do I really have to pretend that I wouldn't have the surgery if I knew that my overall health wouldn't really improve and all I had to look forward to is being smaller?

My first goal was to wear a size 8 - I am SURE you can imagine how I felt the first time I slipped into a size 6 and then a size 4!!!!!!!!! The first time a sales lady said something about how tiny I was.....I giggled inside and wanted to ask "Are you seriously talking to ME????" I had NO health issues, I fought to maintain 228 and knew as I got older, it would be more difficult. I also knew that eventually there could be health issues, if nothing else, bad knees, but in all honesty, vanity was my motivation to get this surgery and I am not ashamed of that and I would do it again!!!! It is fun to shop, it is fun to not be the biggest girl in the room....and occasionally be the smallest. My life is totally different, I love it!!

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I am 5'11". I am wearing a size 8! I have never in my life been this thin and I am going to do everything in my power to wear a bikini and feel like a super model. Plastics, whatever! I started finally working out. I want to be a size 6. With the skin removal probably would be a size 6!

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Hey BETSY, nothing wrong with your dreams/goals and with this surgery "short term goals". I am just about at a size 6 and seeing bones. Posted a pic on fb and a friend called me "skinny". At first the goal was for me to get to a healthy size maybe a 9/10 again. I looked great at 9 but want to get down to 24% BMI so I have around 20 more lbs to go. I don't know about a 4 yet but it depends on how I look and feel at really skinny. I could now wear those revealing clothes/super hot clothes here in Vegas (currently on vacation) but I am too modest and can' only show all my goods to my hubby. I do wear cute shoulder revealing dresses/tops and shorts however. Good luck to you.

Isn't it strange seeing 'bones'?? I love it, and have finally gotten use to it. My collar bone has been my favorite NSV!!! I wear 4's and 6's, and still, it's strange to shop in the Missy dept and not the women's.

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Heh.. I agree too, but I'll never be that small. I have a large frame and am 5'9. I'm pretty lean at around 200, and in a size 16. I think after I lose my last 40 lbs and get a TT, I'll maybe be a 12.... but if I look shapely at that size, so be it.

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Isn't it strange seeing 'bones'?? I love it, and have finally gotten use to it. My collar bone has been my favorite NSV!!! I wear 4's and 6's, and still, it's strange to shop in the Missy dept and not the women's.

I feel weird saying it, almost like I'm being unhealthy- but I know I'm not. But, I like seeing my bones too, my collar bone, my wrist bones. And, even cooler when I stand with my feet smack together and my thighs or any part of my legs don't touch!!! Not sure I ever remember that happening for me!!!

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I just want to be a size 10, once I reach that I will consider if I want to be any smaller. Vanity was reason number 1 I did the operation. Health and fertility are my other reasons.

But I cannot wait to go shopping.

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I'm 185 and 5' 1". I wear a 16/18 now. In college I was 129 and wore a 9/10. Don't see me ever in a 4 but if I do, you'll be able to hear me scream with glee wherever you are.

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I'm 185 and 5' 1". I wear a 16/18 now. In college I was 129 and wore a 9/10. Don't see me ever in a 4 but if I do' date=' you'll be able to hear me scream with glee wherever you are.[/quote']

Never say never...I'm smaller at 181 (moving out of my size 12's) than I was at 160 (size 14). I'm losing my weight in different areas. Btw, our numbers are similar. I'm 5'...good luck throughout this journey! :)

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I completely agree to a certain extent! Anyone who says they are ONLY doing it to get healthy is being a bit of a bull $h!ter! Don't get me wrong, I want to be as healthy as I can be and be a healthy example for my son, BUT that being said I want to be a single digit size! I want my body to be properly proportioned. I am 5'4 1/2 (5"5ish) I have a small frame. I am petite and I carry all of my weight in my stomach. Literally I have to fit a size 18/20 in my waist and an 8 in my legs! So needless to say the day I slip on a pair of jeans that seriously fit me like a glove in all the right places the entire mall will hear my excitement!

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My ultimate goal is a size 8. That was my skinny size. I am too muscular and big boned to be much smaller. I was around 160# then. I had no comorbidities but i do have a popping sound and pain in my knees. They say its a birth defect how my knees are shaped. Hopefully losing the weight will help. I am very self conscious about my weight. I want to walk in a room and not worry about being the fattest one. I may not ever be "skinny" compared to normal people. But i want to be normal size or "skinny for my build."

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i want to be a size 6 too :)

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Sigh--- I confess. My secret desire is to be a 6/8. Too bad my pear shape probably won't let me. Even when I was my smallest wearing a S in shirts, by bottom was huge and never got smaller than a size 12. Our looks are a big part of us. Socially more opportunities are open to us at a lower weight and size.

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