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im upset my lil sis is being taken away from use by her father that hasnt seen her for teen yrs even when her mother died of cancer when she was 8yrs old he didnt see her or tlk to her, or when her gpa died when she was 10 he didnt say anything but that yr he did try for custdy he lost cuz she dont know him and we won custduy of her at that time she was living with my family and her g ma i concidered her gma mine too. then g ma died from smoking and thts when she moved in with my family, he tried for custudy agien and lost, then when she turn 12 her father tried agien and he lost but got visitation 4 weeks a yr, but he put in a apeal and the court didnt even tlk to the child and he won custudy and now she is locking her self in the room , he has a warent from the court, but she doesnt want to go with a man she dont know, he isnt here right now hes in florda im in new york, i dont think its right for him to be able to take her from use just because he help make her with the mother and then left her , i dont know wut to do, we need help

-marissa

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I'm really sorry you are having problems right now. Unfortunately, I don't know what I could say to help. I think most people probably feel the same and that's why no one has responded. I hope things work out for you and your sister, I really do.

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im upset my lil sis is being taken away from use by her father that hasnt seen her for teen yrs even when her mother died of cancer when she was 8yrs old he didnt see her or tlk to her, or when her gpa died when she was 10 he didnt say anything but that yr he did try for custdy he lost cuz she dont know him and we won custduy of her at that time she was living with my family and her g ma i concidered her gma mine too. then g ma died from smoking and thts when she moved in with my family, he tried for custudy agien and lost, then when she turn 12 her father tried agien and he lost but got visitation 4 weeks a yr, but he put in a apeal and the court didnt even tlk to the child and he won custudy and now she is locking her self in the room , he has a warent from the court, but she doesnt want to go with a man she dont know, he isnt here right now hes in florda im in new york, i dont think its right for him to be able to take her from use just because he help make her with the mother and then left her , i dont know wut to do, we need help

-marissa

It sounds like he really wants custody of her...maybe he has had a change of heart since she was born..maybe he is now ready to be a father. Even thought she doesn't want to go now, I think its important to be with your family. It doesn't sound like you are biological family. Eventually she may ask about hers. Just keep in touch with her to make sure she is okay. Other than that, there isn't much that can be done, he is blood and he has the legal right. I know you are sad, its sad to lose someone you are attached to. I'm sure it will be okay.

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