My BF and i are really close to another couple who just recently got their first home! We are super excited for them. They are married (through the court) never had a wedding or a reception for that matter. I am planning on helping her have a housewarming party, casual but fun. I keep reading online that it is rude to register for gifts because of all these etiquette rules. However I think their circumstances are different because they never had wedding where a person would usually register, etc. etc. What do you ladies think? Should they register since they really are newlyweds with not much? I really think most people would love to help them start this part of their lives.

I think it would be okay for them to register since they are newlyweds. Just because a couple doesn't have a formal wedding doesn't mean they shouldn't receive gifts

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Yeah, I could see it being inappropriate it they just had a wedding and they received all these gifts and then they're registering for this too. Thank you for your response, I'm going to see what other people will say as well.

I don't think it's rude at all, especially since they didn't have a wedding. I, for one, would rather have a registry to pick from instead of trying to randomly pick a gift for someone.

Thanks cherry bomb. I think do as well. I mean. They need lots of things, even pots and pans etc etc

I don't see a problem with that. We got married in the courthouse & we had a house built around the

same time. So we had an open house/house warming. 32 years ago...

Okay, here is my opinion, take it or leave it.

I think it is okay to have them register, but do not put this on the invite. You never want to make guests feel obligated to bring a gift to a housewarming party. However, to encourage gift giving, you can say something at the bottom of the invite like this: If you were thinking of bringing a gift and need gift ideas, please contact: Your Name and phone number.

When they contact you, you can tell them they still have a wedding registry. If they find out they registered just for the party, this could make the guests feel uncomfortable. You never know who on your guest list is following the etiquette rules, so this allows you to cover all bases.

However you decide, your friend will be thankful for you hostessing her party. Good luck!

Why not bring gifts for the house warming party. She can still register if so desired.

Instead of registering for gifts... which seems more formal...

Have them create an Amazon Wish List....

Then you can distribute the list on the sly...

This way folks won't feel obligated to get gifts but if they were so moved they could pick stuff the couple could really use.