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Get smaller plates? lol....sorry...couldn't help it. I hear ya on the finishing everythign on the plate, but can you control what is put on your plate? Maybe only put half of what you would normally put. Or only place what you can tolerate? That way you can empty your plate, but not at the risk of hurting you?

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I don't finish, but don't throw it out either, I just learned to pack the left overs for lunch the next day or pack it in the fridge for another day. So far, so good :)

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Now that I'm eating alot less food and have learned to take very small portions. I find myself watching my spouse eat. He is quite an eater. He just keeps eating and eating and eating. It is really bothersome for me because I am afraid of loosing him. He couldn't even walk the mall hardly yesterday. He weighs 230lbs and is 5'9". He is 68 years old. He doesn't really exercise. And he won't. It's like a disaster waiting to happen. I don't know how to get him to increase his exercise. He tells me that he's tired. :( Is anyone else struggling with this issue. I know it's my problem.

My husband is 32 years old, 5'11" and 280. I'm 5'9 and outweigh him 40 pounds, but he eats two to three times what I do at many meals. It amazes me. I tell him sometimes, " you really need to stop."

At first he didn't want me to have the surgery, but he is on board now. He actually said to me the other day," you know I might would consider that surgery too if you like yours." I was just stunned. I asked him what had changed his mind. He said, " I am dying. I have realized I am killing myself one bite at a time." :0(

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I no longer think that throwing food away is a bad thing. I think it is extremely liberating to not care about the food. The idea that all food has to be finished, be it now or later, in my opinion is not healthy.

I'm not at the point of going out to eat on a regular basis yet, and so far the times I've gone out, I've had Soup. But as little as I get to eat now, I will not be bringing boxes home to eat the same thing all week. Restaurant leftovers don't really appeal to me a few days later (sometimes even the next day).

I'm not saying that I enjoy wasting food, but I am not going to lose any sleep over throwing excess away. Especially junk foods or stuff I am just tired of eating.

At this time my plan for eating out will likely be to get a side, and maybe have a bite or two of my husband's entree.

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This is a topic that I think most of us struggle with. I too was alwasy told that I better finish what's on my plate or else. I grew up eating every single last morsel. To make things worse, I was NOT a picky eater so there was almost nothing left on my plate. The only exception was lima Beans lol. But it took quite a while for my mind to ease into the thought of eating less. Even after I was sleeved and was done with my liquid phase, easing my way back into solids, I still didn't know how to just back off and caused a lot of unnecessary pain to myself. I am 4 months out now and what has helped me was to use the smaller saucers for my meals or smaller condiment bowls, and I also pre-measure my food. I know now that my tummy can't hold any more than 4 maybe 5 oz of anything at one time. So, I start out with that. If I'm having more than one item in a meal, I measure it so that the total on my plate is no more than that 4 or 5 ounces. I loathe the feeling of being overstuffed so once I start getting to the point where the next bite might be uncomfortable, I stop eating. I still don't just throw the food away, I simply put it in a small container for my next meal. It's an every day struggle and you contsantly have to think about it, but you'll get better. I just really had to ask my self, "is this last bite going to bring me more joy or pain..." and also if the decision will be condusive to my overall goal.

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putting food back is not a bad thing, but it can be bad if you eat out of the container, then put it back and eat it again later. Bacteria in the mouth can contaminate food. If I have a container of something small and I know I can not eat it all, I will scoop out the amount I can tolerate into another bowl or plate. Or it will take me 45 minutes to eat it.

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