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Hey there everyone!

Eric here. This group is way to quiet. LOL How is everyone doing? Where is everyone from? I'm in NH. we just got hit with an early record breaking blizzard that left us with 16" of snow. Crazy!! I hope we can get some conversations going in this group too. I had my VSG surgery done at Lahey Clinic in Mass, on June 22, 2011. I started the program there at 462lbs. I lost 61lbs pre-op and have lost an additional 52 since surgery. This is the best thing I have ever done for myself. As a gay man though trying to fit under a "label" now is becoming somewhat tricky. Is it the same for you ladies? I hate labels personally but if you date online especially at all, you always have to have a label. For us guys, it's twink (Skinny and hairless), Bear/Cub/Otter (If you're bigger, furrier, and have a beard), and Chub (Big Overweight Guy usually clean shaven). It's crazy!!! Anyone else have thoughts and opinions on this?

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Hey Eric! I'm Will, haha. I've experiencing that, too.I'm from NJ an getting my surgery in two weeks.

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Hey guys!

I'm Nicky from Chicago. I was sleeved 3.11.13. The surgery was a success! But i have been really lonely and would like to meet friends.

Thanks,

Nicky

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Hey Hey, guys... Had surgery on Dec 4th, and am really looking foward to the knew me that comes about. I had my Surgery done in Reno Nevada I live about a hour east of Reno.. I am Really not sure where I want to be in the Gay community since I have never really fit into any group beside huge gay man.. i mean i want to be a 200lb gay man who likes all types.. for example, bears are HOT! as are (i don't want to say twinks because when i think of twinks i think of 18-25 yr olds and thats to young for me) but i do like hairless toned men, also like daddy types and just the average joe types as well... So working on my goal so far since starting my new life change in Feb 2013 i have lost 107 lbs.. and like i said im really not sure where ill end up on the gay spectrum but i do know I will love all types of men... any views on where you will fit in at goal of your journey??

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