Really Depressed

[Telly 4]

Leenerbups,

Also too, I saw on Celebrity Fit Club where one of the larger women, (comedian) had a body wrap done the day before weigh in or the day of weigh in and she didn't lose weight but she lost lots of inches.

She lost, if I can remember correctly, 1.5 inches in each arm, 1 or 2 full inches around her waist, 1.5 inches on her thighs, etc. I don't know the cost but it was a body wrap at a spa. This will shrink your fat cells from what I hear. Just an idea.

[NeenBand 7]

Wow, thank you Funnyduddie!!!!! So there is hope in find a nice dress that won't look like I'm smuggling bags of dough inside it.

Donna, your right. As I was saying to Yoda via PM if you don't feel good about yourself, it doesn't matter what others tell you, you know?

Hi Telly, I used to work in a spa and I remember those wraps. It's expensive and can't afford it, unfortunetly.

And that I think I'm more upset at the fact I don't have a fill and can't get one, which means no weight loss is on the horizon.

[FunnyDuddies 6]

what about a fill center usa fill? aren't they cheaper?

[Andy Liz 0]

Leenerbups - I have a connection with you already because of a hilarious personal story about the cowbell skit that you've got in your signature. It's probably only that funny to me so I won't bore everyone, but when I saw that I thought I must add my words of encouragement.

I feel for your situation because I have those same insecurities you've described. I haven't been anywhere "nice" in ages because I just feel plain out-of-place. I know how difficult it can be to face new people and to be "up" in an effort to make a good impression when you feel so rotten about yourself - I fight the urge to let other's opinions of me define me even though I know that's just plain crazy.

My advice is to concentrate on what a great person you are, get a fabulous dress and just be yourself. Your boyfriend loves you for who you are and he had to have learned that from his family, right? They're probably just as wonderful as he is and if not, they can go screw themselves!

Changing the subject now, why can't you get a fill? Are you having problems and if so what kind? Amy - you're wonderful help, you're so very kind and such a wonderful asset to this site! Hang in there Leenerbups and just do the best you can and remember we're all here for you!

Andy Liz

[Meme 0]

:first: Hi everyone! You can do this! You have until September. I think with fish, low sugar fruits, your Water , and walking , you can get the weight off.

put that band to work girl. That band is there to help you. You got to get moveing, like nike say "JUST DO IT".

[NeenBand 7]

Hi Andy Liz...heheh I remember.

Thanks to everyone for the encouragment.

Meme, check out why i can't get a fill here:

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=20319

Funnyduddies, I looked into those Fill Centers and there are none near me. I'm in New Jersey and theyseem to be out west and far south.

[vinesqueen 2]

Bups baby, keep your chins up! I'ts important that you not lose hope. I'm serious.

If your sweetie loves you, that's all that matters. If you feel beautiful and sexy, then you ARE BEAUTIFUL AND SEXY.

Oh, and we WILL want pix!

[Dody 0]

Hi Andy Liz...heheh I remember.

Thanks to everyone for the encouragment.

Meme, check out why i can't get a fill here:

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=20319

Funnyduddies, I looked into those Fill Centers and there are none near me. I'm in New Jersey and theyseem to be out west and far south.

Leener, Medicare knew long ago they were going to change over to Centers of Excellence for surgery, and so did the docs. You should have been forewarned you couldn't get fills anywhere else. You surely have centers of excellence in NJ that can accommodate you. That's a big state. Check out Centers of Excellence on google and your fills will be free. You just need to find some transportation.

[ccfrog4u 0]

Dont feel depressed. I understand completely!!! I had surgery in March too. I lost about 18 and now have gained it all back! I know how you feel. I had the surgery thinking that by the time my 30th yr. reunion came around I would have lost a lot of weight, boy was I wrong. So I didn't go to the reunion. I have felt the same way, it worked for everyone else but me. However, I refuse to give up. Hang in there, dont be hard on yourself. Your time will come. And as for the age difference. I had the same problem only it was not a problem. My boyfriend could care less about me being older!

Go to the wedding have fun. Just keep your head up!

[Road Queen 0]

Leener, don't give up hope. You may find a way to get a fill or your band may just become more restrictive. When it is hot, my band gets tight. This is July so maybe the heat will cause some restriction for you. If nothing else, usually appetites go down in the heat. How much are fills if you self-pay? Can you start putting aside money every week to save for one?

Go and enjoy the wedding. Appreciate your relationship. These opportunities don't come around every day so we need to enjoy today. Celeste

[3loves 0]

Hey Leener ~ You have been through bigger trials than this, not to discount what your feeling. I just know what you've faced over the past few months. I can't remember....are you taking any antidepressants? If not, you may need some. Your body has been through a lot including the weight you've lost so far.

Here's 3 facilities in NJ you may want to check out if they are within a reasonable driving distance. They are from this medicare approved list: http://www.cms.hhs.gov/MedicareApprovedFacilitie/BSF/list.asp?filterType=none&filterByDID=-99&sortByDID=4&sortOrder=ascending

AtlantiCare Regional Medical Center02/24/2006NJ

Princeton HealthCare System02/24/2006NJ

Saint Barnabas Medical Center02/24/2006NJ

You are definitely in good hands with Funny regarding the dress. Doesn't she have a heart of gold? Here are a couple of sites I buy from and they do have a few formal dresses that you may want to consider. They are a little cheaper and not the quality of Nordstroms, but they would get you by. Maybe Funny can take a peek as well for you.

Chadwicks: http://www.chadwicks.com/Department.aspx?DeptId=9703

Lane Bryant: http://www.lbcatalog.com/lbcatalog/layout/Layout.asp?dept_id=825&rootdept=600&

I had one of those wraps done when I was going to Physicians Weight Loss Center. I'm sure it was cheaper than what they charge at the spas. I was a little disappointed that my fat popped back out b/c they didn't really explain the process.....you just lost inches. I lost inches as they promised, but it didn't last. Those fat cells like to breath. :phanvan Live & learn I guess.

Hang in there sweetie and keep your chin up. You are a very special person INSIDE and will be on the outside too. Keep the faith and I'll be praying for you.

[mousecrazy 2]

Leenerbumps, I sure think you're a lucky gal...you've got a personal shopper and lots of support here!

One thing that helped me become less self-conscious was that I learned that very few people actually pay attention to other people. Think about that. Most people are really only thinking about themselves, their date, their DH or DW, etc. If they are so mean they are busying themselves by looking around at others and being critical of them, yuck. It would suck to be them.

I think you'll look great! Carry yourself with pride and attitude!

[babyjane 0]

the halter dress with a wrap is a VERY good idea. i am from georgia and it is still quite HOT in september, don't forget the humidity, too. this way, you could wear a wrap that is very loosely woven and just cover up as little or as much as you want to!!

[Tricia K. 0]

leener, I'm so sorry about the issue with your fill. I certainly hope you're able to resolve it very soon and/or find a place for a fill. Andy's quote below sums up what I would have said.

My advice is to concentrate on what a great person you are, get a fabulous dress and just be yourself. Your boyfriend loves you for who you are and he had to have learned that from his family, right? They're probably just as wonderful as he is and if not, they can go screw themselves!

Now, onto dresses. Here are some links from a great site I found a few years ago - www.alight.com. I got my search results by doing the following:

clicking on shop category of dresses and then by Social + Evening dresses

http://www.alight.com/12010104.html

http://www.alight.com/12010122.html

http://www.alight.com/12510294.html

http://www.alight.com/10701550.html - this one is on clearance for $29.99

http://www.alight.com/12510168.html

http://www.alight.com/10372693.html

http://www.alight.com/12510257.html

Here are some links from www.davidsbridal.com

http://www.davidsbridal.com/social_dresses_detail.jsp?stid=2207&prodgroup=54 - I know you mentioned burgandy or black but this one comes in Eggplant or Sand

http://www.davidsbridal.com/social_dresses_detail.jsp?stid=2208&prodgroup=54 - I love the simplicity of this one

And some links from another site - www.igigi.com

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/383023/Category_Code/occasions_all_5/Product_Count/11

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/383011/Category_Code/occasions_all_5/Product_Count/15

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/300611/Category_Code/occasions_all_5/Product_Count/19

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/310330/Category_Code/occasions_all_5/Product_Count/40

This top would look good with the bell-bottom pants directly below

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/53091/Category_Code/occasions_all_5/Product_Count/54

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/93031/Category_Code/occasions_all_5/Product_Count/56

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/339014/Category_Code/bridal_guests/Product_Count/9

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/310100/Category_Code/bridal_guests/Product_Count/12 - I want this dress!!

And finally, the last site - www.sydneyscloset.com

http://www.igigi.com/page/100/PROD/310100/Category_Code/bridal_guests/Product_Count/12 - this one comes on a variety of colors and you can order a matching shawl

http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=54&catalogid=677

http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=54&catalogid=1003 - this one is gorgeous!!

http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=54&catalogid=443 - this one has a matching jacket

http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/product.asp?categoryid=54&catalogid=1024 - nice evening pants-suit

This site also has a selection of shapewear/under garments

http://www.sydneyscloset.com/asp/category.asp?categoryid=86

[BigGirlPantiez 1]

When we first heard of the wedding, I thought I'd be looking good by then. But I have been without a fill since my surgery in March. My band is just sitting there and I'm getting hungry and I'm gaining the weight I lost during the first weeks out of surgery

Leenerbups - Why are fills so expensive? you may want to look into a cheap SWA flight into St. Louis, my Dr. only charges $50 per fill.

Also, for the outfit, try a full skirt it hides a big middle nicely. Oh and a deep wrap style V top. Or a fun of the shoulder top with those comfy black pants that never wrinkle.