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I have been a big girl my entire life. I dont know how it feels to be fit, and finally fit in. my weight has made me very self consious and has affected my life. I am 20 years old I feel this is the time I should be enjoying life, but so far I havent.

Im tired of going to the nightclub and being that girl holding purses, I want to be the center of attention! I want to be that girl that guys check out when I enter.

Not only has my weight been affecting my social life but also my love life. I get really jealous when my boyfriend adds thin girls on Facebook. when I show my boyfriend to someone they say "oh his hot...well u have a cute face" what does that mean???!!!

Im hoping that losing weight will change the way I feel about my self, and actually enjoy life, cause im really tired saturday nights watching tv. The stories I have read in this site, and the before and after pics have been very inspirational I cant wait to post pics like that :)

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its great that you are finally begining the new chapter of your life, you'll get there, just keep it up. I know what it feels like to have a man that looks good and you feel like you dont match him. i'm constantly worried that other women are checking him out and think that because im fat that they could get him if they want to. thankfully i know that my husband loves me how i am, but i know he'l love it when i'm hot again too! heres to being the hot girl again!

I have been a big girl my entire life. I dont know how it feels to be fit, and finally fit in. my weight has made me very self consious and has affected my life. I am 20 years old I feel this is the time I should be enjoying life, but so far I havent.

Im tired of going to the nightclub and being that girl holding purses, I want to be the center of attention! I want to be that girl that guys check out when I enter.

Not only has my weight been affecting my social life but also my love life. I get really jealous when my boyfriend adds thin girls on Facebook. when I show my boyfriend to someone they say "oh his hot...well u have a cute face" what does that mean???!!!

Im hoping that losing weight will change the way I feel about my self, and actually enjoy life, cause im really tired saturday nights watching tv. The stories I have read in this site, and the before and after pics have been very inspirational I cant wait to post pics like that :)

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With the weight loss does come some confidence and adventure, but there are also a lot of people who still have body image issues after the weight is gone. It is somewhat likely that you will feel the same jealousy after the weight is gone. Make sure you try to schedule some group therapy or something while you are going through your journey. It is really helpful for those who can't let go of the "big girl" monologue in their head.

Good luck!

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