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Manda

By Manda, in Gastric Sleeve Surgery Forums

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myrori    55

myrori
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I am so sorry your Mom has her priorities all screwed up! Her first concern as a mother should be for her child and her Grandchild! My Daughter is in the Army and my Grandbabies are far away from me. Even if I was into dating, I would never give up one moment of time that I could be with grand children to see some guy!

I would like to as Mom and a Grandmom to give you a virtual hug and send you my support! I am so happy your husband's unit gave him leave! YOU WILL DO GREAT with the sleeve and soon be looking FABULOUS!

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Texasmom65    23

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I'm happy to hear your hubby will be there for you. My daughter lives far away from us, because her hubby is in the Navy. But when he was away, I was there for her when she had two of her babies. There is no way I would not be there for my daughter and grandchildren. Shame on your Mom.

I know your husband is going to be there for you, but you might want to try and get involved with a church or Mommy's group to make friends. My daughter does this whenever they move to a new place so she meets people she trust if she needs them to watch the kids for an emergency. And she has had to use them in the past too on short notice. She has been lucky and blessed to find some great friends. I know its hard when your away from family. How about your husbands family, can any of them come visit you?

Good luck on Monday. I'm having mine the same day too. :D

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M2G    1,836

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That is wonderful news! I am so happy for you!

This is something of a harsh reality, but right now your pre- and post-op days are going to need to be incredibly selfish, it is time to put yourself first and concentrate on doing what you need to do in order to have a wonderful surgery and healing time. You just don't have room to deal with your mother and her lack of concern for your wellbeing right now, so let this go, rejoice that your hubby is coming home and focus on yourself. Later when you are healed and recovered maybe you can revisit this and sit down and explain to her how you felt.

Good luck with your upcoming surgery!!!

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Papa Jack    86

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DIVORCE your MOM!!!

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Manda    4

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Hey guys. Sorry I have super busy. Things are moving smoothly. I am just avoiding my mom more and more. I saw her now a month being post op and all she could say was it doesn't look like I have lost much weight. Blah blah and how she can't believe I put my body thru what I did. It did hurt a little bit because everyone I have seen lately says you can see the weight loss. You can see it in my face and tummy area. I guess I never thought my mom would be this way. I was proud of myself because I lost 17 pounds with a total of 40 pounds loss and down two sizes... Ehh. I guess you win some you lose some :/

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Soon2BMiniMommy    92

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Wow, Manda. I agree with Papa Jack....divorce your Mom. You have a whole new shiny life ahead of you now full of possibilities and you don't need that kind of selfish, negative family BS. I know logically you can never completely 'divorce' your parents, but you can definitely step back and try to not get emotionally upset and involved. And know you will be a better Mommy to your baby!! I think your weight loss so far is amazing and for her not to acknowledge is just hurtful!

We love you and you will always find support here with us! :D

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mrsnate    55

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I'm so sorry! I'm lucky to have a supportive Mom, but I definitely know those who are not. I think it's a good idea to avoid her for a while. Hopefully she'll come to her senses eventually. :( Congrats on your weight loss so far! Awesome!

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