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So I just wanted to whine for a minute. I know that it will all work out. I know that I'm lucky to even be able to have this done at all. I know that I am very blessed. But I also know I'm currently annoyed and that you guys are the only ones who can truly understand. So yesterday morning I had my 6th (and final) fat camp appointment and I was beside myself with excitement! I almost posted from the exam room. LOL. Everthing went fine and I took my "flow sheets" to the surgeon's office - and that's when things started making me cry.

Ok, so I wrote a bunch of stuff but then decided to delete it because it sounded like I was being too negative. Suffice it to say I thought I was going to be able to get my surgery this month and now it's looking like the middle of July. I know 2 weeks doesn't seem like much but with my tight schedule, I am just really bummed out. I know it'll all work out. I just really had my heart set on it. Plus, my step-sister is getting married in October and for the first time in my adult life, I've been asked to be in a wedding. The funny thing is, she doesn't even know yet about the surgery so finally someone is overlooking my size and asking me to be part of their special day in spite of it and I'm really bummed at the delay and what it will mean to dress sizing. LOL. I have to get a move on with the weight loss so I don't have to "accidentally" ruin any wedding pictures. :)

The good news is I've talked to my friend who has agreed to train me after surgery and he has said that we can start the day I get the go-ahead from the surgeon. He's going to train me personally twice a week and give me workouts to do on the off days. Plus he will do weekly weigh-ins and measurements so hopefully I can keep seeing progress even IF I hit a stall. <= Note the BIG IF. I'm trying to be as optimistic as possible.

At any rate, thanks for letting me vent - even the venting I deleted. I still feel better. :) Thanks so much to all of you for posting on here. This forum has gotten me through the last 6 months relatively sane. :)

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July sounds like a great month to have the surgery. What else is in July? Independence Day! Not only July 4th but YOUR independence day! You'll get to Celebrate your independence from food and weight. How cool is that?! Stay positive and remember you've come too far to get frustrated now.

Congrats on being included in the wedding party. You more than likely will be several dress sizes down by October, so no worries there!

Take a deep breath and relax these last few weeks before your special VSG day no matter when that might be. Save me a seat on the losers bench...I've got several months to go. :)

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So I just wanted to whine for a minute. I know that it will all work out. I know that I'm lucky to even be able to have this done at all. I know that I am very blessed. But I also know I'm currently annoyed and that you guys are the only ones who can truly understand. So yesterday morning I had my 6th (and final) fat camp appointment and I was beside myself with excitement! I almost posted from the exam room. LOL. Everthing went fine and I took my "flow sheets" to the surgeon's office - and that's when things started making me cry.

Ok, so I wrote a bunch of stuff but then decided to delete it because it sounded like I was being too negative. Suffice it to say I thought I was going to be able to get my surgery this month and now it's looking like the middle of July. I know 2 weeks doesn't seem like much but with my tight schedule, I am just really bummed out. I know it'll all work out. I just really had my heart set on it. Plus, my step-sister is getting married in October and for the first time in my adult life, I've been asked to be in a wedding. The funny thing is, she doesn't even know yet about the surgery so finally someone is overlooking my size and asking me to be part of their special day in spite of it and I'm really bummed at the delay and what it will mean to dress sizing. LOL. I have to get a move on with the weight loss so I don't have to "accidentally" ruin any wedding pictures. :)

The good news is I've talked to my friend who has agreed to train me after surgery and he has said that we can start the day I get the go-ahead from the surgeon. He's going to train me personally twice a week and give me workouts to do on the off days. Plus he will do weekly weigh-ins and measurements so hopefully I can keep seeing progress even IF I hit a stall. <= Note the BIG IF. I'm trying to be as optimistic as possible.

At any rate, thanks for letting me vent - even the venting I deleted. I still feel better. :) Thanks so much to all of you for posting on here. This forum has gotten me through the last 6 months relatively sane. :)

Hi InProgress, well no worries that is what we are here for! I'm very glad you feel better.

Just a thought, why can't your trainer friend start with you now? You probably won't lose as fast as post surgery but getting 1 to 2 Lbs off per week pre surgery right now you are looking at about 10 extra Lbs.

Good luck!!

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I agree with Diva, every pound you lose pre-op is one less you have to lose post-op and closer to goal. So, get started now!!

I lost 55lbs pre-op which left me with a very short goal to meet post-op. I am glad that I did it. Made my recovery smoother and I am just that much closer!

Good luck to you!

Kelly ;)

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Well this gives me hope for a date I want... my last nut visit is in 2 days... I want surgery mid july so I should be ok enough for my annual camping vacation in August... and I have a wedding to go to in Sept and want to be thin enough to wear a regualr sized dress and suprise everyone (I rarely ever see my family). I was also thinking about the INDEPENENCE part of having surgery in July. Best of luck keeping patience until your date.

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I agree with you guys completely on that. I actually worked with this guy up until I started my WLS journey. While working with him I lost over 40 pounds and lots of inches. Unfortunately his schedule changed and honestly, I got used to that extra couple hours sleep in the morning. :) At this point I am hitting the gym again but haven't started in hard core with him yet. I guess there's no time like the present! Thanks again for listening to me vent.

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Waiting is frustrating! I had my surgery date pushed back due to insurance "games" and it is not fun. The right time will come and you will be so happy. Vent here anytime!

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Between insurance and jobs my journey started June 2010 and I was sleeved 4/27/2011. While I was waiting for everything to happen I lost 34 lbs then lost 13 on the pre op diet and one month post op 17. I have less to lose now post op so I agree with working out too :) ... You will look beautiful at the wedding!

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