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I had told my sister (who is skinny) that I wanted to have surgery. Since I didn't get approve by the insurance co. I m going to mexico. I had made the decision not tell my family. She asked me today the status of my surgery, I told her it was on hold for right now.she did a dance of joy!!!! And said good. She said I m losing weight and should continue losing weight. I told her losing the weight is not the problem its maintaining. I m glad I didn't tell her my decision. She'll find out after the fact.

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I made a similar decision... I'm from a family of skinny and judgmental people... I know that if I had told them about the surgery beforehand, then they would have tried to talk me out of it.... Now that I've done it, I plan on telling my sister only... in a couple of months when the risk of complications has passed.... I know she will support me no matter what i do, but this way she wont have anything to worry about with my health... The rest of my family... well.. I will probably never tell them cuz they have big mouths!! biggrin.gif

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You are sooo right: MAINTAINING IS THE PROBLEM! I lost 90 working toward WLS & was very proud that I didn't have to do any WLS. I kept it down for quite awhile with 20 sneaking back on and then after a traumatic event I put another 45 on in a very short time. I said enough was enough, went to Mexico. The Sleeve is freedom to me.

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i had lost 70 pounds before and started putting it back slowly before i could do the maintaining... i too had some very emotional things going right around that time (worst time of my life)... you know what they say about stress and cortisol level. i having my surgery done with dr aceves june 7th... very anxious

You are sooo right: MAINTAINING IS THE PROBLEM! I lost 90 working toward WLS & was very proud that I didn't have to do any WLS. I kept it down for quite awhile with 20 sneaking back on and then after a traumatic event I put another 45 on in a very short time. I said enough was enough, went to Mexico. The Sleeve is freedom to me.

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Well, like you said, now you know. It is good that you were able to get a clear sign that it is best to leave the family out of this decision for now. You may change your mind later, you may not. This is a health issue and it is perfectly appropriate to keep it to yourself.

Good luck - you'll love Dr Aceves--

Lara

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Mina --- HOW ARE YOU DOING???

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