Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

hi there!!! are there really gay people here?!?!?!?



Recommended Posts

I could have sworn I introduced myself here, but I'm a newbie, and still figuring out the difference between a group, forum and discussion!

My surgery info is below, but I wanted to talk about non-surgery stuff!

Soooo..... I'm a 50-year-old butch living and working inside the DC Beltway. I married my wife in 2010 when it became legal in DC after we'd been together for four years. We both work for the federal government (when it's open ;) ), and we're recent empty-nesters. We have a 22-year-old daughter here in DC, and one in college in NC.

My wife, Laurie, is from Georgia, and a UGA alum. I see SOOOO many people from the Atlanta area on this site! I'm a Va Tech grad.

We're both writers/editors; we own and are constantly working on our 76-year-old house; we have a dog and five cats (of course we do); and we love to travel and camp.

Let's all get to know each other a little better! I can use all the support I can gather around me, and -- after all -- we're "FAMILY" right!?

Jen

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Recently berieved gastric bypass 2005. Michael passed away October 2013. Lonely and not sure how to date with body issues and extra skin. Michael and I were together for 25 years. Friends and family are telling me to get back out there and date. Any advice? Live in Atlanta. 41 years old size 32 pants from size 60.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Recently berieved gastric bypass 2005. Michael passed away October 2013. Lonely and not sure how to date with body issues and extra skin. Michael and I were together for 25 years. Friends and family are telling me to get back out there and date. Any advice? Live in Atlanta. 41 years old size 32 pants from size 60.

I am so very sorry to hear you lost your partner! I always made my surgery known upfront! I don't want it to be an issue after I found someone and truthfully, if it is an issue, they don't really care about you, but I know it's very intimidating! Atlanta is an awful city to try to date in, men here are extremely vain! My boyfriend knew about my surgery upfront, knew my body wasn't as desirable as I wish it could be but, be said he thought I was cute then and now, so I knew it wasn't a problem! You can and will find another man, good luck!!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sleeved in July 2010 - down 140 pounds. It gave me the courage to get back into dating after 5+ years alone - and just last week I moved in with my boyfriend here in Jacksonville. Best decision I ever made.

Congrats :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Recently berieved gastric bypass 2005. Michael passed away October 2013. Lonely and not sure how to date with body issues and extra skin. Michael and I were together for 25 years. Friends and family are telling me to get back out there and date. Any advice? Live in Atlanta. 41 years old size 32 pants from size 60.

My partner and I live in Atlanta as well. We should chat sometime. :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am Randi, had VSG Nov 19th. Down 36lbs, but am currently experiencing a stall. Need to get back to the gym. I live with my wife in Socal. She has been my biggest supporter, don't think I could have done this without her.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

SO glad I just found this forum! Sleeved on 4/2. Still in the "what have I done phase." I have been in the Bear community forever and feeling rather alone now.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hey Alex,

You are not alone buddy! I had my surgery on 4/8/14 so I am definitely in the same phase as you. The bear community is what it is. Don't let how they react to the new you determine your success with weight loss surgery. We didn't do it for them!

Private message me if you ever want to chat. We will be going down this path together timing wise so it would be nice to have someone to compare notes with.

Thanks,

Tony

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

SO glad I just found this forum! Sleeved on 4/2. Still in the "what have I done phase." I have been in the Bear community forever and feeling rather alone now.

Recovering Bear, myself and don't worry - you'll find where you fit! Reach out to me on Facebook if you ever want to chat - I'm VSG Kirk on both FB and YT.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I understand want you are going thru. I was sleeve back in June 2013 and I lost several bear friends. Since my weight lost I don't meet the criteria but I'm better off now I'm healthier wish is the most important

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am, and just starting out on this new journey. :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Oh man, this is the post that never ends!! I thought I wasn't going to find anything from this year.

Hello! My name is Misty, I'm 27. I'm waiting very (IM)patiently for my first consult appt on June 12, and lurking throughout the forums. I fall under the category of B in LGBT, but have been exclusively in (2 seperate) long term relationships with women. I married my last gf in 2009 (kind of seperated now, boo) and have sort of fallen out of the community. I look forward to getting to know my family here on BP. :D

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Gay scene in Pakistan is horrible and bear lover are a rare species. I got my sleeve on 13th may, 2014. Hopefully I get in shape cos I have been trying to lose weight over n over. 50kg to 20kg but regaining it. Hopefully I won't make the same mistakes after taking such a huge step. Keeping my finger crossed 8-)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Howdy. 43yo gay male here. Former head of the local bears group, but after meeting TheOne haven't seen the guys much lately.

Had sleeve gastrectomy on Monday May 12 and am so grateful for all my fiancée has done to support me in this journey. I'm starting to believe I won't be obese when we get married in March...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Congrats! Welcome to the group!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×