It took me a lot to write out that title. I'm 20 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Lots of people tell me, "oh you just need to have more confidence." Yeah, well I used to have confidence until I couldn't get a boyfriend. UGH. People tell me differently, but I'm so tired of never having a relationship.

You may think this thread is stupid, but it's a valid problem that I have with myself. Don't tell me that I just need to have patience ugh.

It may be selfish, but I want people to think I'm attractive. I know that people like my face, but that's not the full me. I want to get double-takes from people that I actually find attractive. I want to have a MUTUAL attraction just ONCE would be nice. ugh.

Every guy that I've ever liked has always just found me unattractive/disgustingly fat, OR they're gay. lol My gay-dar is horrible and I can never tell. I just want to be liked and I want guys in general to find me attractive (I know I sound pathetic, but that's what I want, and if I can't post a rant like this on these boards, I don't know where else I'd post them.)

I actually have a great sense of humor and I can make anyone laugh after we hang out for a while. I make friends really easily. My only downfall is the way my body looks, and it depresses me to no end.

Im sorry your in this situation. I think we have all have gone through a period of loneliness one way or another. This isnt only about weight loss or what you look like. Its about who you are. Ive been in your shoes before... but after being single after a 12 year relationship, I found myself.. I found what makes me tick and also found the woman in me way before surgery. As long as you take the time to really love the very person that you are today, you will see doors open for you. We arent guaranteed to see tomorrow so weather I lose to my goal weight or never lose again, the one thing I have learned is to love yourself even if it meant the bigger me. People will start to see who you truely are and you wont be looking for happiness in someone else but you will already have it cause its in you.

I'm feeling for you girl. Its good to keep in mind that when a man jumps on your body, it doesn't necessarily mean that he loves the real you. Keep it cool, and take your time. Its not a crime to not have a boyfriend at 20. Enjoy your life, keep laughing and having a good time. Take the time to get to know those men in your life for who they truly are too...Some men just are not attracted to big girls, thats true, but many are as well. You deserve men in your life that have good character, and will take good care of you! You don't want to end up with someone just because you are hot! Take care, don't be in a big hurry. I like the idea of checking out self help books... Some of them are really helpful. I did a lot of work on myself before I started having healthy relationships with men.

I'm almost 27. I've been on 3 dates in my life. I've never had a boyfriend. I'm so excited to lose weight and date!!! Im excited to be more confident and I know it will happen for us someday

Take Your time when you date. Get to know the person. Dont focus on looks because looks dont mean anything at all. Focus on the heart. If they have a good heart then thats a big plus.

I completely relate with you. I am 22 years old, never had a boyfriend. I've had guys in my life interested in me though but could never follow though. I would always tell my girlfriends I was just "picky" buy really I was just ashamed of myself and my body and had no self esteem or confidence. Big mistake on my part, I never let myself be happy. I am soon to be sleeved and I can't wait to actually be myself around guys and let go of my insecurities.