I was just wondering how many of us after losing weight. Whether at goal or not do you still look in the mirror an see youself as fat. Or feel yourself fat maybe in the face (chubby cheeks) or something.

I havent loss tons of weight but i weigh less now than i have in a decade but i still see myself as fat. Maybe even more now than when i first started. I dont get it. People notice my thinner self even my teenage sons comment on it. But i dont see it.

Sorry for rambling just wondering if there is anyone else out yhere going through the same thing. Or if you did what did you do to correct your view of yourself??

Sometimes in my head I "feel" fat but then I see myself in the mirror and think to myself, "Who the heck is that girl?" Though I have to say today I felt pretty skinny all day long, and I even posted that on my profile!

I completely understand what you are saying. I see the fat me in the mirror. And I often have a hard time accepting complements on my weight loss. It takes a while forfor the head to catch up.

One day the mind will see what the world sees.

The head is the last to get the message. I am 15 months out, and still keep thinking fat. Just ordered a new bathing suit... went for the large... needed the Medium. Tomorrow I return!

My BMi is 21 and I feel fat - I have love handles/muffin top and saddlebags.

I feel fat too. I hate my flabby stomach.

For many years , many of us look into the mirror as we get our days ready and see how we were for so many years. That image is still embedded in our eyes and brains. But, just remember that all of us are probably in different clothes sizes after our weight loss and when you get on a weight scale, Whay does it indicate? Yes, we are lighter, normally with this feeling our health improves, our quality of life is better, and some of us even receive compliments from friends and lovers. Do you remember How many compliments you received before your weight reduction? My answer is NONE!

Best wishes and Keep the Faith.

I was just wondering how many of us after losing weight. Whether at goal or not do you still look in the mirror an see youself as fat. Or feel yourself fat maybe in the face (chubby cheeks) or something.

I havent loss tons of weight but i weigh less now than i have in a decade but i still see myself as fat. Maybe even more now than when i first started. I dont get it. People notice my thinner self even my teenage sons comment on it. But i dont see it.

Sorry for rambling just wondering if there is anyone else out yhere going through the same thing. Or if you did what did you do to correct your view of yourself??

i think because of my past (dieting yo yo life)

that made me think (you are nothing but a fat slob who cant control herself)..i do not see what my profile pic see's. i see what my before looks like on my profile in that green sweater..i see (her).

i grew up with a mom who was very critical of me and my 2 brothers...i was a gymnast, cheerleader and when i weighed 100 pounds, my mom told..me i was FAT. that was 30+ years ago... i hear that to this day.

i have been getting better as i have made some excellent friends who threatened to come to NC and whip my A S S if i say mean things about myself.

but i look in the mirror and i struggle daily with liking (me).

but as rupaul says

if you cant love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else

can i get an amen?

if you cant love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else

can i get an amen?

AMEN!

Amen, sister!

Always wanted to see NC. js

I am a fat girl on the inside, LOL.

But sometimes I also feel skinnier than I really am. I am feeling like I'm "all that" then catch a profile reflection and am like, "noooooo"

So, I just take them both as they come, knowing the other feeling is around the corner.

I am with ya. Even tho it can't be true cause my close are smaller sizes. Are heads are always the issue

I will probably always have the "fat girl" staring back at me in the mirror. While I know I've lost 100 lbs, I'm now in a size 8 (vs a 22), and everyone tells me how different I look, I still can't see the difference - unless I'm looking at an old picture. I looked like the Blueberry girl from Willy Wonka. Not sure if that will ever go away.

In fact, I recently bought a top from Ebay. It was a large (I used to wear a 3x). When I got it, I held it up ad there was no way that would fit me. Much too small. Bummed I made the purchase, my husband encouraged me to try it on. It fits! Yeah! Who woulda thunk it??

Marci

if you cant love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else

Actually I can take this one a bit further. 'If you can't love yourself then how can you possibly expect someone else to love you'.

I was in a bad place for a very long time....I'm no longer in that place anymore but when I do look in the mirror and all I see is that 500lb person. Mentally I am there but visually I have not caught up yet. Still a long road to go but healing takes time just like weight loss does.

I feel the same way

Ironically I feel the like I weigh 1000 lbs on the days that I pigged out and feel better when I eat well (even if on the scale my weight didn't change at all on each of those days),

In general the more weight I lose the more I stare at myself in the mirror and see my flaws (blub rolls, chubby cheeks, dark circles under my eyes etc.) whereas when I was morbidly obese I never noticed since I avoided mirrors altogether

I make sure to put before and after pictures side by side. If that doesn't show the difference! I also put on a jacket that I couldn't even zip a few months ago and now I can fold it around myself. But it does take time to get over it that's for sure!