I just need to vent -

First a little background - I'm 5"5' 262lbs(down from 270). I -like many folks here have tried every diet known to man. I'm pretty well versed on nutrition and calorie consumption as well as the anatomy of weight loss(and gain lol)

So.... I'm at my health club today. On the treadmill very close to the end of my 40 minute cross country circuit and the heart rate monitor isn't ready my pulse right - so it's registering a 58 (not even when resting!!) and it has cranked the incline to 6.5 and I'm workin'. This woman who isn't overweight and not working out (I found out later, not even an employee or member) walks past me and I give her the head nod and smile and say hello. She smiles back and says "Breath... and maybe some water"

OK - I know I'm sensitive about things like this, but I was annoyed!! First of all, I was workin' but I was not huffing and puffing like I was about to keel over..... I also got sunburn on Wed being at the park with my kids - so I've got more color in my face than usual.

The more I thought about it - the more annoyed I got - so I decided not to think about it. Then she comes back.

She walks up to me saying "Potatoes, rice, bread, sugar" I've got headphones on and was watching TV, so I thought I might not have heard her correctly - so I took one out of my ear and said "Excuse me"

She said, those are the things you should try to avoid if you're trying to loose weight. Well - no sh#t Sherlock - you don't say....

So I told her that this was a life long battle for me and I was a professional dieter. When I told her that - she kinda got a funny look on her face like 'If you're a professional dieter, why are you fat' - but she didn't say it...

I guess it just confirms all of my worst fears about going to the health club in the first place. Everyone is mentally deciding what I should do to loose weight and wondering how I ever let myself get this way in the first place....

After chatting for a few minutes - she left me with these pearls of wisdom -

I should come here (the gym) everyday - and don't stop (I had told her that I worked out on and off since I was 10)

I am sure she meant well - but don't judge anyone without first walking in their shoes!!!

I know I'm not a bandster yet - but I love this place!!!

Thanks everyone for 'listening'

Not only does that happen in a gym but also in the grocery store. Almost every time I do go which I try not to often there is some one who offers advice on what to eat. OR I notice them talking among themselves on "how fat she is" or their child proceeds to tell the parent in a loud voice that booms through the store "she's fat isn't she mama" I wish I could just go over and tell that small child that they are rude and also tell the parent that their parenting skills apparently arn't up to par.

fed up with all of it

Paula

Yikes!!! How could anyone be so deliberately mean???? I think things about people that I shouldn't, but I would NEVER intentionally go up to a perfect stranger and offend them.

I believe that people do this... but I just can't... What makes a skinny person or any size person think that they have the right to dish out advice to a stranger. Some people just don't get it.

I'm just not as nice as you! I would have asked how long it's been since her last dental exam since her breath was really foul, and then tossed in something like, "You might want to take care of those roots and mustache at a nearby salon while you're at it." Smile, then plug ear back up with good tunes.

Paula: I too hate the grocery store!! If it's available in your area - try Peapod... I LOVE it!!

I get to shop in the privacy of my own home and have it delivered!! I probably spend a smidge more than I would - but I also buy healthier foods. I started ordering my groceries about 6 weeks ago - and would hate to 'go back'!!

The delivery cost definitely is worth it (for me anyway) it's $6.95 if you spend $100 and $9.95 if you spend less than $100.... I save at least that by not having to shop with my kids!

I actually did a report on PeaPod when I was in college. From my analysis they are well worth their services, and in the future we should start to see more services like theirs pop up.

My reply..should I be in the same situation....

_____ Stay away from the toilet and your index finger, causes erosion of the esophagus _____

and a smile

I'm ignorant, and I annoy me.

Just thought you all should know.

Love the comebacks suggested by Lisa and TellyMelly!

Haha! I really would have said that.

I know two wrongs don't make a right but I wouldn't be able to help myself.

it amazes me how rude people can be. photonut 2bslm and others...i am so sorry you had to go through that. i have been there many times, believe me.

i remember what boys in college said about me (she would be cute if she were not such a load - shes a fatty). a "friend" of mine at work saw a pic of me from a few years ago (she is not a skinny girl either) and she said, "you looked so healthy then, so good...what happened?" i walked in a grocery store 6 months ago and i overheard a couple of woman laughing at me cause i was "huge"

should i take it? i don't know. i agree with vines...2 wrongs to not make a polite. i also know in my heart that it is the folks that are out there making all those mean comments that are insecure and should be pitied...why else would they say such outwardly mean things?

now i hang my head high and get right back in their face, not saying anything mean, but pointing out to them that they are being inappropriate......and stop it right now!! it freaks them out a bit but it works without me feeling bad about not turning the other cheek. if the person is REALLY rude, and won't stop with the mean comments, then i am happy to bitch slap them...cause they deserve it : )

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