Another thread prompted me to start my own thread. Since being banded and losing weight I have totally lost my libido. I feel like it zilch, but may do it for my other half once a month or so because the poor guys needs it ...so he says. Anyway if you dont find it too personal can you let me know if this has happened to you. I know most people I have talked to have had a huge boost in their drive since losing weight, I wish it was me. Is there any natural or prescription enhancers or things to put you in the mood?

Help me please, my wedding is in September and I know I am going to have to do it then and I would really like to enjoy it too :Banane23:

Delarla...i know you have got some ideas coming my way ...I hope :clap2:

That's my specialty! Try an enhancement cream, which will heat things up "down there." Better yet, I'll PM you so I don't freak anyone out!

what's the cream called? Where do you get it

I carry Nympho Niagra and X-Scream at my website, or send me a PM and I'll mail you a catalog.

Girls, girls...enjoy it while you can. I am 61 and don't care if I never have sex again. My husband and I have a great relationship. We laugh together, hold hands, hug, kiss, talk alot and every now and then we have sex. Oh, and he is 2 years my junior. We stopped having sex regularly when the arthritis got so bad I was unable to endure it. However we have found other ways ....heh,heh...if you know what I mean.

Oh my gosh... I never thought that there would be a time when we couldn't have sex!!! YIKES!!!

Nanahanna, you go girl!! My Grandpa who is 81 was banished to the little bedroom cause he is such a horndog!! Yes, my Grandma discusses these things with me.

OMG! Heather you are so funny! "Official Member"!!!! I like the little banana!! Hilarious!

By the way....I have noticed how all the women are responding to this thread...where are all the men? I would think that this could pertain to them also. But then again....women can talk about this more openly than men can but we can still help! :Banane23:

JessieBear, my FIL had heart trouble really bad and my MIL (who is 91 3/27/06) said right before he died at age 81 that he was sorry he wasn't "any good" for her anymore in that way. LOL.

Hey... I responded... I'm here. Don't I count>

Bwaaa aaaaaaaaa (crying)... did I get any sympathy?

Wait, maybe you all thought I was a hairy woman?

Paul, You are a hot guy, but you would be a terribly ugly woman~!

I hadnt felt like doing anything... i beleive becasue my body is in weird shapes that I dont like, I was used to how it was before.. Now its all distorted and I feel uncomfortable.. BUt I went out this weekend and I had my first ever non assisted orgasm.. So, I guess that could be called a NSV..

My uncle fondled me. He had Alzheimer's and could barely walk but boy did he love the ladies! I hugged him, so he grabbed my boobs. He was 87 and didn't remember me, so I didn't knock him out. Some people are never too old for sex.

Thanks so much for posting this, Kel!! I too have lost the urge lately, but been a bit embarassed to admit it, especially since I saw everyone talking about how much better their sex lives are since losing lol.

I'm hoping that for me, its just hormones due to weight loss. I have that appointment with the GP today and that's one of the things on my list to talk with her about. Hopefully she can have me fixed up good as new before my hubby gets home on Monday morning, cause as much as I want to jump him, I know I'll not feel like it lol.

It can be a stage of life thing too Kel, you've got a bunch of kids just like I have. Its not like I dont love my hubby and its not like I dont enjoy sex a lot when we actually do it but if you give me the option between sleep and sex, I'll always take the sleep at the moment. I'm just so busy I fall down dead at the end of the day.

It might be worth bringing up with your GP, as it could also be hormonal.