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Hi

I live on Long Island, Ny. I would love to have a mentor/buddy here locally. But am not going to be too picky.

I was banded 3/08 and had some good success in the first year. I was very active, had a personal trainer and did 2 triathlons. Yay me!

It has not been a pretty picture the last 12 months.Mom died, working stressful job that I almost lost last fall-took pay cut instead. I have pretty much gained back what I lost post surgery. I had 3 fills the first year then at the last Drs appointment, 6/09, the PA said NO fill "you have to work on your diet".

Well that didn't work, did it?

I really want to call the Dr for a fill but I am embarrassed.

I don't have the funds to work with a personal trainer any more, which sucks because that was working. I'm playing golf every week, just started in May. A hobby that will probably stick because my husband plays and is encouraging me to keep it up. Apposed to the Triathlons which he thought I was crazy to do.

So is there anyone out there that would like to work on this banding thing together??

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Hmmm. This forum is quiet.

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How about East Texas instead?

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Sure! I can't afford to be picky. Besides if I was going to pick I couldn't get any better. You are a very positive person.

I've ordered 2 books to help get the eating back on track and 1 to help with exercise:

  • 5 Day Pouch Test Owner's Manual, by Kaye Bailey
  • Day 6: Beyond the 5 Day Pouch Test, By Kaye Bailey
  • A Walking guide & Daily log.

So this week I have become more aware of what I am eating and how much. I haven't started the journal yet, but soon. I noticed that I've been skipping Breakfast and snacking for no good reason.

Next week will be getting Breakfast on a daily basis, and cutting out mindless snacking. I did better losing when I started the home fires of my metabolism when I first got up.

I hope I also work up the courage to call my Dr. about a fill.

So how did you do last week and what are you up to next week?

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I started journaling because one day pretty soon after I was banded I was complaining to my husband that I wasn't losing but I was doing everything right and he was like "um, not really". I was lying to myself about how much and what I was eating and having to enter it in the computer really helped me face reality. Have you decided where you are going to journal? Web site? Phone app?

I have to eat breakfast, hunger is my enemy if I every get hungry I stay that way for the rest of the day so I eat every 3 hours. I agree about starting the metabolism.

You should call the Dr now for a fill, what if it takes a couple of weeks for an appointment and you wait till your ready and he's not! Waiting sucks. You paid for the band, you should use it. Who cares if he is unhappy with your progress, he's not your dad.

I did pretty well last week. I have been doing the C25K program, unfortunately I have found that if I want to lose this last 10 I am going to have to work it off. I tried eating more on the days before I ran but it just made me gain 2 pounds so I went back to my regular calories and just ate 4 crackers and Peanut Butter before I went to bed and that gave me the energy to run. I have to run in a few hours and I am concerned because I wanted to eat extra before I went to bed but I couldn't. But the good news is I was 140.0 yesterday so maybe today I will be 139.something today. I am only losing a pound every 10 days or so. Its really hard to be patient for that long. I just have to really divide it up to one pound at a time.

I am going to a software training class and its a 6 hour drive away so I am going later today and spending the night which means eating out for a day and a half. Which is not good for me, I rarely eat out.

By the way, when you say that starting next week your going to eat breakfast does that mean your starting on Monday? I find its helpful to use specific days to start things instead of vague terms like next week. For instance instead of saying "I am going to run week 8 of C25K this week" I say things like "I am running week 8 of C25K on Sunday, Tuesday and Friday of this week." Then I cant put it off till tomorrow. Its Sunday so I got to run. So I am putting you on the spot.

What day are you going to start breakfast? and What day are you going to start journaling? I think those 2 things should be your goals for this week. (Of course that is just my opinion.)

I hope you have a good weekend.

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So I am putting you on the spot.

What day are you going to start breakfast? and What day are you going to start journaling? I think those 2 things should be your goals for this week. (Of course that is just my opinion).

Well I did say tough love. Thanks, that's the kind of accountability I need.

I signed up with SparkPeople to track my meals and I started with breakfast this morning. I actually find it easier to keep to a schedule during the week. Weekends my timing gets shot to hell and I'm more likely to miss meals.

I did the c25k when I was training for the Triathlon. Very effective program. I might restart it in a few weeks. Depends on what exercise program I decide to follow and that is a whole new kettle of fish. I'm worrying about my nutrition this month and getting that straightened out.

I hear you on the eating out. That is probably the biggest culprit in my weight regain. Sooo easy to make unhealthy choices when everything looks and smells so good.

I find if there is a website with nutritional values that helps with my choices as the calories counts are much higher then I would have guessed. Back when I was being good I also ordered off the appetizer menu.

Today we are having folks over for Fathers Day. Steaks and the fixings on the menu. Im headed to the kitchen now to make macaroni and fruit salads.

Are you in a part of Texas that is really hot now? Do you run outside or treadmill? When it starts getting hot and humid here I find it hard to get out to exercise.

Have a safe trip.

A

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Hey Amanda, I'm back! I always find it amazing that you can drive forever in Texas and never leave the state. I went to south Texas near Austin and it was a 6.5 hour drive.

I got home last night at 11 and had a stomach ache from eating out. While I was gone Sunday (I left after lunch at home)and I ate, 1/4 of a Reuben sandwich and 1 french fry and a chocolate chip cookie. Then on Monday I had brought a Greek Yogurt for breakfast then I ate a crispy taco, and 5 chips and salsa for lunch, and a bowl of potato Soup for dinner with cheese, bacon bits, and sour cream in it.

Then when I got home at 11 PM last night my stomach was having fits. I rarely eat out much less eat out for 2 days. My personal opinion is restaurant food is nothing like home cooked food and the salt, fats and preservatives make me sick. So I sat in the bathroom until 1 and then my neighbor started jackhammering up his driveway at 6.:( And I am finally getting to my excuse of why I didn't run this morning. I felt like crap! But I am not scheduled to run again until Friday so I can run tomorrow instead of today. Sometimes life just gets in the way, the key is to start back tomorrow.

Yes, its hot here, I have been running at 7:30 but on Sunday it was 85 degrees and 85% humidity so I am going to have to start going earlier probably shoot for 6:30.

I agree with getting your eating lined out and the move on to the exercise. I don't have the mental capacity to change more than one thing in my life at a time.

The good news is that I managed to lose a pound. It took 11 days this time. But I only have 9 to go so thats only 99 days :smile2:.

How's it going?

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Congrats on the pound! Gotta take em where you can get em.

I found that when I hit my plateaus I could only lose weight the week before my period. Eventually, Big picture, Slow & Steady..... I'm sure you've heard them all.

I've been tracking my food & exercise for the last week on SparkPeople. Accountability and all that.

I'm holding off on the 5 day pouch test for now. Can't say why, it just doesn't seem the right time.

I'm getting out and playing golf twice a wk(I walk, not ride) and the driving range once a wk for at least 1 hr.

Mainly I'm being more responsible and conscious for food choices and making time to move my body. Getting back on track.

PS I did lose 2lbs this past week!!

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PS I did lose 2lbs this past week!!

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Yea for the 2 pounds! :bored: Thats great for your first week back.

I know a lot of people grumble about journaling "it makes it a diet, etc." but I think it helps so much! But I'm with you on the 5 day pouch test, I don't really see how it helps unless you are on a major sugar binge and need a total break to get you off the sugar train.

I really don't consider these 10 day periods a plateau, I think that these last few pounds have just been on my body so long it takes extra to burn them off! Hell they are older than my son!

I got up this morning at 6:30 so I could eat before I ran. I made it the whole 28 min so I am going to start week 9 on Sunday which is a 30 min run. Thats all the exercise I have been doing, we are expanding our business and I have a ton of paperwork to do this week and I do have to confess to drinking wine almost every night.:blink:

I'm so glad your doing well, I think the golf will help you two ways, #1 You get exercise and #2 You just get to enjoy being surrounded by nature.

I am trying to decide what to do to improve next week, I always add or change 1 thing that I am doing every week and I start on Sunday but I don't know what its going to be next week. I guess I better start thinking about it.

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