Breaking-up with you, food. It's not you, it's me.

[The New Kel 1,312]

Dear Bad food Habits, (love of my life and lifelong comforter),

This is sad but I'm breaking up with you, at least I'm taking a long time out and I know our relationship will never be the same. The cloud of delusion is lifting about us, our relationship, just two short weeks after my surgery.

Let me start by saying you have always been there for me. When my parents weren't there, when I felt alone, and then in the good time too, when I celebrated, when I was happy, stressed, let's face it. You were there as my go-to for any emotion, really. And I loved you, a bit too much. The problem with our relationship, Bad Food, is that it's dysfunctional. You confort me immensley but you leave me empty later, feeling guilty. There is no true substance in what you give me. What I take from you has hurt me physically and emotionally for 30 years and the end result is isolation from my own life, neglecting friends and family functions, hiding away. I am ashamed at what our relationship has done to me.

I have come to realize that almost every single activity of my waking life evolved around you, the thought of you, the joy and happiness that I felt when I knew I would have you again. It is this dysfunction that I have to change, Bad Foods. Its not you, it's me. No one ever forced you into my mouth repeatedly. I chose you.

It's not easy but I am taking steps to refocus, away from you and towards things that make me healthier. Surgery was just the first step.

Look, I know I will never forget you, afterall you were my first and longest love!I will continue to see you everywhere, you can't be overlooked. Fastfood restaurants, the bakeries, the parties, football Sundays. You have an allure and charm that has worked on my like magic and I have become addicted. My family still loves you so you will be in our home sometimes. But my relationship with you is over, in terms of the way we were.

You know what? I think we can still be friends, and we might even hang out on rare occasions. But not for a long while. I need to get right in the head.

Good bye, I'll miss you, my lifelong comfort.

The New Kel

Edited October 17, 2016 by The New Kel

[jaynamy3 122]

Awesome awesome Awesome!!

❤️️Amy ❤️️

[blizair09 3,250]

@@The New Kel

What a cool post. It is so true and embodies a huge piece of this journey.

[gemigirl 134]

This is amazing- I feel exactly the same way. Thank you!

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[The New Kel 1,312]

Thanks for the replies. I literally feel as if bad food is an entity that lives with me. It unlike a partner. Now I understand what "monkey on your back" actually means!

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[corneygirl 5]

This is an excellent post and I totally relate to everything you wrote!

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[LipstickLady 25,682]

Good for you!! Excellent.

[thisisthenewme 358]

Great post!!

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[kathy Garibay 11]

I love the way you put that ..Good bye..maybe I should start my good bye letter

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[hmvjoyce 32]

@TheNewKel That was put absolutely perfectly!!! Thank you!!! You just took everything I feel and have been thinking and put it into to words!!!! You rock!!! You are gonna do amazing!!!! Thank you for this!!!

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[Raynbolite 302]

Awesome! I feel like everything you wrote is in my head. You described it perfectly. I'm working on creating new coping skills, not food. It's a real challenge, but I know in the end, I'll be better for it. Good luck to you.

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[this sucks 557]

@TheNewKel love,love love it!!

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[Pondlife 42]

This is great!

[The New Kel 1,312]

@TheNewKel That was put absolutely perfectly!!! Thank you!!! You just took everything I feel and have been thinking and put it into to words!!!! You rock!!! You are gonna do amazing!!!! Thank you for this!!!

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Thanks for these kind words @hmvjoyce. I know that most of us on this journey got here do to our relationship with food. I am happy that my "letter" has resignated with so many here. It's the first step, recognizing our issues. Best of luck to you in your own amazing journey!

Edited October 18, 2016 by The New Kel

[The New Kel 1,312]

Awesome! I feel like everything you wrote is in my head. You described it perfectly. I'm working on creating new coping skills, not food. It's a real challenge, but I know in the end, I'll be better for it. Good luck to you.

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Thanks @Raynbolite. It's going to be new habits for all of us, and definately new coping skills. Best of luck to you!!