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Yesterday, Thanksgiving, I did fantastic! I have been SO GOOD since surgery in July. Yesterday I had a few bites of stuffing. I didn't beat myself up because I am so so good all the time & it literally was a few small bites & I stay VERY LOW on carbs anyway. Then tonight, getting my husband a plate of leftovers, I DID IT AGAIN!!!!! WTF!!!!!! I took a few bites! NOW I WANT TO KICK MY OWN ASS!! OMG I am down 80 lb so far total since pre op diet.... WHY DID I GIVE IN??????????

THATS HOW I GOT FRIGGIN FAT IN THE FIRST PLACE! well then I baked Peanut Butter Cookies for my husband... And YAY I WAS EXCELLENT!!!!! DID NOT HAVE A DAMN THING. I REFUSE TO SELF SABOTAGE. So why did I eat those few bites of stuffing tonight? ???????? do you think it will put weight back on me?

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No, sweetheart. It will be ok! Do not be so hard on yourself. You did something you feel was wrong, now learn from it and move on :). We all slip up and I will tell you I did worse than you!!!!! If it will make you feel better, go walk for 20-30 minutes !!

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I worked out in gym with weights for an hour today ???????? .... thank you. Its so scary to think I can ruin it all for myself.

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There is nothing wrong with a few bites of (stuffing/mashed potatoes/ice cream/cheesecake/etc). It's when you eat a ridiculous amount that it's problem. I don't deny myself a few bites of anything, especially when it's something like my mom's stuffing that we only have once a year. In the grand scheme of things, what's 100ish calories and a dozen or so carbs? I can't eat more than 1/2 cup at a sitting anyways, so it might as well be something I really want, especially if it's a very occasional treat.

;)

You're fine. The leftovers will be gone soon enough. Enjoy your few bites and move on.

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That's a really good point! Thank you. Will help me not beat myself up. Thank you ????????

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:o I'm about to go crawl into bed with a piece of apple pie and I have no guilt whatsoever.

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None of us gained weight from just a few bites. I am not even counting my carbs and do have a few bites of some kind of carb at every meal whether it's some fruit on my cottage cheese, some high Protein crackers with cheese, some veg AND mashed potatoes with my dinner. The important thing is that it can be a slippery slope to get back on that hormonal sugar insulin roller coaster. So as long as you avoid that you should be ok. I do not eat bread rice or Pasta but I did also had some stuffing at thanksgiving but it was about 1/8th - 1/10th of what I used to have. Back then the more I ate the hungrier I got.

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LOL! You're fine.

But you might spend a few moments contemplating how you could be a little kinder to yourself in the future when you turn out not to be perfect. That sounded like a lot of self-hate you turned on yourself over a couple bites of dressing.

We don't do ourselves any favors when we beat the s**t out of ourselves. Because if perfection is our goal, we are all S.O.L.

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food should not be our enemy anymore. Make food your nourishment, a necessity, an occasional indulgence. If you're tracking your intake, make those bites of stuffing part of your daily calories. No harm, no foul.

I eat right 90% of the time. That's why when I do over indulge the other 10% of the time, I feel no guilt whatsoever. See how that works?

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