I thought it might be FUN to ask you all what the rudest comment you have had is and how you responded!

I'll get it started: Last weekend, I went for my hair appointment. I had not been for 9 or 10 weeks. When she saw me, she said, "You've lost a lot of weight...did you have gastric bypass?" I couldn't believe she would ask such a personal question...people sure are bold! I simply replied, "Nope, I didn't." And that was the truth! :redface:

I've straightened mine a few times, but I don't like it. It makes me look older.

Okay...I have a great story for a reply to all the "when is the baby due?" comments...

I was working a second job at a plus size clothing store when a mother/daughter come into shop (both were overweight). As I was helping them, the mother asked me "when is the baby due?" I swear this is what I said..."Nope, no baby...just fat...Can I take your clothes to a change room?" I have never seen someones face turn that weird shade of red, and then she ran out of the store!! The daughter was stunned, and then blinked and just looked at me, and she went about buying clothes. I think she spent more, just cause she felt sooo bad. I laughed it off, but at some level it still hurts. I have always been a big girl, for as long as I can remeber. Sometimes things like that bother me, and sometimes i come out with "zingers".

There are of course the usually little kids, pointing and mooing..that is something I am not going to miss.

Today at work there's a woman who's about 60lbs heavier than me ..said I had back fat..I'm down to 166 I'm 5,5

I thought I was looking ok and she says are there exercises for your back..that's what u need..

Today at work there's a woman who's about 60lbs heavier than me ..said I had back fat..I'm down to 166 I'm 5,5

I thought I was looking ok and she says are there exercises for your back..that's what u need..

Oh that's the pot calling the kettle black! I bet she has more than you do! I would have to have said something to her. Geesh!

Today at work there's a woman who's about 60lbs heavier than me ..said I had back fat..I'm down to 166 I'm 5,5

I thought I was looking ok and she says are there exercises for your back..that's what u need..

Sounds like she's jealous to me. Has to say something bad about you to make herself feel better. I'm sure you look wonderful!!!

I went to my aunt's 50th birthday party yesterday and she asked me how much have I lost since getting the band. I told her about 25 pounds. I had just gotten off work and still had my uniform on. My snobby cousin said "Well, I can't tell that you've lost anything in those scrubs." I was very offended. I felt like saying "Oh yea, well, at least I can lose the weight from my ass, you can't lose those big ears."

Okay...I can't believe I just now found this thread! People are SOOOO mean!

I'll share ONE of mine...I started a new job last year, and I have not shared my journey with weight loss or lap band with anyone there. I was orienting with a girl who asked me...wait for it...

"Have you ever considered bariatric surgery?"

OMG!!! Talk about stunned! I literally was speechless for a moment.

Talk about bold. She obviously has no class.

~C

Okay...I can't believe I just now found this thread! People are SOOOO mean!

I'll share ONE of mine...I started a new job last year, and I have not shared my journey with weight loss or lap band with anyone there. I was orienting with a girl who asked me...wait for it...

"Have you ever considered bariatric surgery?"

OMG!!! I literally was speechless for a moment.

Talk about bold. She obviously has no class. So hurtful.

~C

Oh Turler - I think I would have had to slap her! The nerve...did you ask her if she'd considered a tongue transplant, she obviously needs to learn how to hold hers!

What did you tell her when she ask that?

Well, after I collected my thoughts, I said, "well of course, who hasn't?" I am not one that is quick-witted. I can't think of come-backs fast and I usually find myself thinking about it later wishing I'd said this or that.

What makes this even worse, is that we were not talking about weight or body types or anything on that subject. She asked me that out of the blue.

I think this thread is interesting. It shocks me how blunt, rude and tasteless people are. How is it that our society has devalued humans to the point that it is somehow socially acceptable to degrade and humiliate others?

~Carol

I never can think of anything good to say back either.

I'm the same way ya'll. I always think of it later. I feel like an idiot just sitting there, especially when I've been insulted. It has happened more times than I'd like to admit. It is sad that our culture has developed to the point where people no longer have a conscious or care what they say to others.

I think it is a delayed reaction. I don't do well "on the spot"...give me a minute to think about it, analyze it and then I react.

one of my most recent comments was I went in for a simple surgery and was in the process of checking in, the nurse comes in with a GIANT hospital gown and a bed blanket and said here we dont worry we have a gown that will fit you and here is a blanket to cover yourself around.

My 5 yr old son will also say mommy your not fat are you- he is FIVE and asks if "I am the right size" :thumbup:

hopefully soon I will be banded and mommy will be the right size lol

I've had several things also happen 2 me of course.

1-My "sister" who is just about the same weight as me has always been the person to make me feel bad. She calls me cow, whale, shamu, u-haul and lard ass. I really had no come back so I couldn't say anything to her...yet.

2-I was in the 8th grade and it was about graduation time and this boy and girl couple were sitting down at their desk and I needed to pass them to get to my seat and the boy(Jason) goes...don't even try you can't fit in there.

3-In highschool, this one girl that I had problems with did that thing when you bump deliberately into sum1 and say it was an accident. Well she put on a show and screamed out.."sorry fat bitch".

4-I like just about all of you have gotten the: you have a pretty face crap. But this 1 girl also in highschool told me that I have nice hair..if only I lose weight.

These comments helped me to be who I am today. I am strong,independant, and courageous. All in the name of the negative things I've endured due to my weight.

A lot of you say that you wish you woulda said this or that. I now say enough of the B.S. I don't hold back. I thank my "sister" for that especially. Sometimes I hold my tongue. But hey don't take my kindness for weakness.

Btw, my surgery date is Oct 3rd. Yay!!

~S