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Thank you so much everyone for the kind words. As usual, it doesn't look quite so bad in the morning. I'm so glad it happened after only three weeks than after three months. No matter what the truth may be. I've learned a lot through it all. I still haven't heard from him, so of course silence is almost always guilt.

There is a part of me that still wants to make him squirm. Then there is a bigger part of me that wants to shut the door and never look back.

I'll keep you posted. But today is my birthday and I'm going to have a "hey it's my birthday and he's F-ing married" party tonight. Wish you guys all lived closer so you could come!

Thanks again everyone, you're the best.

Megan

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So SORRY Girl- But Truely there is a silver lining!!! Yes there is!!! You now have identified(all be it the hard way) a huge RED FLAG! This Flag will forever be waving infront of you from here on out-SAVING you from falling victim again to this type of thing.

Please do yourself the favor of easing your mind & email the gal back if possible telling her what you said earlier in another post that you didn't know & would never do that. I think you'll feel better. Just my personal opinion.

As to the guy- well like Penni said he is a man & 1.5 in 2 marriages fail. None of us should be surprised. I am just sorry that it happened to you. You are beautiful both inside & out & your man-your true man is waiting for just around the corner.((Huggs))

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Sure I"ll come to your B-Day party! Thanks for the invite! I think I'll be a little late, like Vegas in September late :cool:

I don't remember who said this (I know, me being the quote queen and all...) but "Living well is the best revenge."

And I think his wife is going to make him squirm for you.

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Funny Vines!

Ok, so I just got some more dirt. My friend called up where he works and talked to the receptionist and said that he was so helpful and great to work with that she and her husband want to get him a gift certificate so she was wondering if he was married and had kids. The receptionist said yes, he's married and he has kids but didn't know how many.

What a smarmy bastard father. Poor wife and kids.

Megan

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Megan,

This made me sick to my stomach. I've been there before and I know how deflating this feels when you believe in someone and then discover you've been duped. My suspicion is that YOU HAVE NOT HEARD THE LAST FROM HIM. That being said, the way to get back at him is quite simple: Act as if he is completely insignificant in your life. (which is exactly where he belongs.) He got to know you well enough to know what a wonderful person you are. Let his punishment be that has absolutely NO influence on you at all. Yes, easier said than done. I know it hurts now.....but when you look back on the situation you will be so proud of yourself for reacting with such dignity.

And then at night, in your dreams....you can fantasize about cutting his balls off. Hee, hee.

As a side note....I kissed MANY, MANY, MANY toads before I met my prince. I was pretty jaded by then and it took some convincing that he wasn't too good to be true. I know that you have someone special out there. Chin up. I hope you have a kick-butt birthday party. (Do you think I should have a piece of cake tonight in your honor? :cool: )

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Megan, I'm confused. First you said you got the e-mail from wifey in the morn, but then you said today you were e-mailing throughout the day? Are you sure one of his roommates aren't messing with you? I think you need to call him and ask him if it's true. That e-mail from his supposed wife doesn't look legit to me because it doesn't even call you a slut, it's just a friendly e-mail. Mad wives don't send pleasant e-mails to their husbands' mistresses. I think you should do a little sniffing around. There's still a chance that he really cares about you. Maybe he has a stalker ex-girlfriend that he's trying to protect you from... all I'm saying is to find out the truth before hating him. Then if he's lying, hang him by the balls. Go for the revenge.

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I like Nicole's idea, too. But after 9 months go by, borrow a friend's baby and "accidentally" run into him and introduce him, "this is my son, I named him after you." Hee hee.

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I like Nicole's idea, too. But after 9 months go by, borrow a friend's baby and "accidentally" run into him and introduce him, "this is my son, I named him after you." Hee hee.

OMG Can you just imagine the look on his face?!!! Now THAT would be worth the effort!

I like what Alex said..."Megan, I'm so sorry! :cool: Whatever the reality, you DON'T deserve the negative drama this man has just brought to your life."

Yeah, what she said.

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I think Lisa is correct, you should thoroughly investigate!!!

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Lisa- I actually got the email from his wife in the afternoon, sorry about the confusion. We had emailed all day long and made plans for my birthday and then I didn't hear from him after I got the email from her.

I put the screws to him a little to get the little bastard to fess up. I'll fill you in on the details but I can't believe anything he's said so far, so how can I believe anything now? It felt good to make him squirm a little.

He said they were seperated and she came back even though he didn't think she would. It actually makes sense since the first two weeks were perfect and we got together almost every night and on the weekends...then she comes back and it all fell apart including me. I knew it.

Megan

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This dude has been a total rat to you and to his wife (and kids). I'm sorry you had to get hurt after the initial elation and thrill of new love. The good thing is, you're ready for the real thing and the real man when he comes along. So kick up your heels with your friends today and shout good riddance to this hyena. It could be worse: you could be married to him.

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