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By New&Improved, in Rants & Raves

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New&Improved    1,780

New&Improved
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I'm sorry but I'm so sick of seeing posts of people obviously cheating or making excuses to cheat and then crying because they didn't lose weight...

I'm sorry but if you're not ready to commit to this program and you're not ready to change your life then you're not ready for surgery okay....

Stop lying to yourself and stop making excuses to cheat. Stop blaming everyone else for your failures.

I spent about 20 years living obese but I woke up one day and made the mental decision and commitment to change my life and I didn't let anyone or anything interfere with my decision.

10 months later and I'm half the size u was literally I've lost 159lbs and I'm skinny and I'm healthy and happy and loving life.

You cannot begin this program thinking you can just breeze through without actually making an effort okay.

I'm saying this because I want people to make sure they are ready before they commit to being operated on.

It's a huge decision.

A huge commitment and mental stamina is needed to be successful okay.

I'm sorry but I'm over seeing all these people making you feel better for failing or cheating....

Tighten up. Toughen up.

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futurefinemama    163

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This WHOLE ENTIRE POST IRKS ME. Funny how, a person who has been Obese, has the audacity to get on WLS Forum to ridicule people on their journey. You are still in your honeymoon phase of your surgery and Good For You, that you lost your excess weight, and Good For You that you had the "mental stamina" to achieve your goals and Good For You that you are "healthy and skinny". But without your WLS surgery, would you be able to stand on your high horse and scream down to the people who were once in the same boat about their struggles? This Forum, from what I know, is to help people on their journey; good, bad or indifferent. I personally, like the authenticity of posts, where people are brave enough to admit their struggles and downfalls. At least, they are willing to admit their faults and seek help. You never know what post can help somebody with the same issue. Everyone that has gone through a WLS are well aware that this road is NOT easy. This community already receives, judgement, criticisms and ridicule from other people. It's just a hard pill to swallow when its one of our "own".

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summerset    5,265

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41 minutes ago, futurefinemama said:

It just a hard pill to swallow when its one of our "own".

It's just ridiculous. This need to brag almost continuously also comes across quite pathetic.

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catwoman7    11,285

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2 minutes ago, summerset said:

It's just ridiculous. This need to brag almost continuously also comes across quite pathetic.

brag and seeking attention. ALL.THE.TIME.

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Hop_Scotch    1,634

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7 hours ago, futurefinemama said:

This WHOLE ENTIRE POST IRKS ME. Funny how, a person who has been Obese, has the audacity to get on WLS Forum to ridicule people on their journey. You are still in your honeymoon phase of your surgery and Good For You, that you lost your excess weight, and Good For You that you had the "mental stamina" to achieve your goals and Good For You that you are "healthy and skinny". But without your WLS surgery, would you be able to stand on your high horse and scream down to the people who were once in the same boat about their struggles? This Forum, from what I know, is to help people on their journey; good, bad or indifferent. I personally, like the authenticity of posts, where people are brave enough to admit their struggles and downfalls. At least, they are willing to admit their faults and seek help. You never know what post can help somebody with the same issue. Everyone that has gone through a WLS are well aware that this road is NOT easy. This community already receives, judgement, criticisms and ridicule from other people. It's just a hard pill to swallow when its one of our "own".

Very well said!

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Daisyjayne    124

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Wow, no-one will ever need weight loss surgery any more! I wish I'd read this post years earlier, it would definitely have fixed my years of struggle with weight gain and loss, and eating disorders.

Seriously though, tough love DOES NOT WORK. I'd have thought the fact that we have all needed weight loss surgery is a clue to that. My eating disorder was not something I could out think, fix with a diet or just white knuckle through with willpower.

If you made the mental decision and that was all it took, why get surgery???

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Sassafras1    63

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9 hours ago, MIKEYY84 said:

I'm sorry

No you're not, not one little bit. You love that you've been super successful and now you've forgotten what it was like the hundreds of times you tried to lose weight and failed pre WLS. You forget too easily that you had to have an entire organ bypassed from your digestive tract to get you where you are today. Don't forget, have compassion and empathy.

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New&Improved    1,780

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Yes I have been successful it was not easy it took alot of hard work and commitment and dedication that's the whole point of my post.

People need to take it more seriously and hard honest truth is the way I was brought up. None of this beating around the bush stuff.

Sorry if my post hit home to some people.

I can't help if I'm a hard facts person.

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Brent701    438

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To Mikey’s credit he has been consistent with his attitude for a year now. Always a bit self centered and very matter a fact. Very much his way is right yours is wrong. A bit of a narcissist. He went from an awkward fat man to a confident skinny man. Outside of the WLS community this behavior is called being a d**k.

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JordanKylie    83

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Can't you go troll somewhere else? Your particular brand of trolling isn't going over well here. Accept this feedback and try to be nicer or take your trolling elsewhere.

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GreenTealael    25,624

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10 hours ago, MIKEYY84 said:

Yes I have been successful it was not easy it took alot of hard work and commitment and dedication that's the whole point of my post.

People need to take it more seriously and hard honest truth is the way I was brought up. None of this beating around the bush stuff.

Sorry if my post hit home to some people.

I can't help if I'm a hard facts person.

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