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So here we go, for the people who follow me all ready know my details but here they are again ( I’m 37 , 5”3, 200 pounds, type 2 diabetic, intercranel hypertension. I am pre op for the sleeve, waiting on my next appointment hoping for a surgery date) .... so here is the deal my wife has not been all that supportive of my surgery since I started the process, saying things like “ you will always have a belly” and you will never be your high school weight” and the worst one is “ I don’t know if I’ll be attracted to you when you are so skinny” .. horrible right! Well she is a big girl herself at 5”4 and 298 pounds!! I’ve never bugged her about her weight in the 12 years we have been together.. but now that I am working on getting this surgery she wants to lose weight too , and that’s great!! Unlike her I fully support her... until I found out how she wanted to do it ... HCG diet!! .. I tried to tell her very gently that 500 cals a day is unsafe and of course you will lose weight .. you are starving!! Plus those “shots” could be filled with anything they don’t come from a medical doctor!!! But she yelled at me saying I WAS THE UNSUPPORTIVE ONE!!! Can you believe that crap! So here we are .. here doing this crap and now trying to convince me to do that same... hell no .. I’m getting my sleeve !!! Rant over

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Ok. I would recommend therapy. Because everything ur life after weight loss surgery will change and you and ur wife will need it!! With the sleeve you will be starting at the most 300-400 calories a day if ur lucky in the beginning. I can get in 450-500 calories now and I’m a month post op. So her restricting her self to 500 calories would be a great support to you! I would recommend sitting down and talking to each other.

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Sounds like neither one of you are happy with the other one's choice for weight loss efforts. That's going to make it hard for each of you to support each other along with journey together. I hope you two can work it out.

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Sounds like y'all are going to have to "agree to disagree" but support each other nonetheless. You might want to see if she'll watch any of Dr Vuong's youtube videos. He uses "colorful" language but always presents them in a manner that is entertaining but explains everything well. Maybe this would help. He does a great one on why diets don't work--she should at least watch that one!

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