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2 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

* Spoilers *

They don't 😭

Seconding this 😭

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10 hours ago, sillykitty said:

I've been on a shopping spree lately (big important meeting you know! At least that's my excuse) Now my closet is literally bursting :( And I have to pack up and send off all the returns :( And I have more empty boxes then will fit in my recycling can :(

OH NO, I hope you are not purging our twin pants suit?! I need to try it on again - SO much has changed since that date of November 7, 2019! Wow. And, here we are in February already... Three months later.

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Today I am feeling blue-y BLAH (even more blue-y BLAH than I have already been feeling this past week)

I think the honeymoon phase of WLS and the high of my perceived success in this whole weight loss thing is losing its lustre . I am tired of looking at my body in the mirror hoping for my PS swelling to go away. My wasitline has increased by 3 effing inches in the past 3 days. I am annoyed that my weight has been creeping up which I know is a direct result of my ZERO-excerise regime. I am still eating the same calories, but not offsetting it with any exercise.

The lack of exercise is partly due to my sore boobs and armpit, but really, is mostly due to pure laziness.

I am below the upper limit of my happy place, but I have been averaging higher than normal within that range the past couple weeks. And the surprising thing is, I don't really care this time.

And I notice that my previous food-vigilance has slacked. I am more often than not to give myself a pass on higher carby and sugary stuff. And again, I don't seem to care.

I already know what will make me feel better but I have ZERO interest nor motivation to do it. Instead I am in the Pity Party thread griping about my own self-inflicted woes with much hand-wringing and pulling of hair (ok, so I'm not actually doing these things, put Pity Parties are all about drama, right??)

I am in a legitimate funk. And shopping isn't even helping.

Le Sigh.

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14 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

Today I am feeling blue-y BLAH (even more blue-y BLAH than I have already been feeling this past week)

I think the honeymoon phase of WLS and the high of my perceived success in this whole weight loss thing is losing its lustre . I am tired of looking at my body in the mirror hoping for my PS swelling to go away. My wasitline has increased by 3 effing inches in the past 3 days. I am annoyed that my weight has been creeping up which I know is a direct result of my ZERO-excerise regime. I am still eating the same calories, but not offsetting it with any exercise.

The lack of exercise is partly due to my sore boobs and armpit, but really, is mostly due to pure laziness.

I am below the upper limit of my happy place, but I have been averaging higher than normal within that range the past couple weeks. And the surprising thing is, I don't really care this time.

And I notice that my previous food-vigilance has slacked. I am more often than not to give myself a pass on higher carby and sugary stuff. And again, I don't seem to care.

I already know what will make me feel better but I have ZERO interest nor motivation to do it. Instead I am in the Pity Party thread griping about my own self-inflicted woes with much hand-wringing and pulling of hair (ok, so I'm not actually doing these things, put Pity Parties are all about drama, right??)

I am in a legitimate funk. And shopping isn't even helping.

Le Sigh.

Funks SUCK. Sorry you are in the midst of one. (((((hugs))))))

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Ahh Ms.ss, you are one of the ones here that I inspire to be like! I am sorry you are in a funk, they are a terrible thing to go through, in fact I just got over one and I have so much energy I feel kind of manic lol! I hope you get to a better place soon! Hugs and much admiration!

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On 01/18/2020 at 06:31, GreenTealael said:




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pit·y




/ˈpidē/



noun




1. The feeling of sorrow and compassion caused by the suffering and misfortunes of others




2. A cause for regret or disappointment.




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A safe space to drop your baggage, bemoan your post op life issues (rational or not) without the worry of someone trying to "Iyanla fix my life" and hopefully leave feeling lighter




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Oops Nevermind. I read the whole post lol

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I, too, am feeling the post plastics woes... @ms.sss

My weight is bouncing around and it directly corresponds to by swell/bloat levels. I seem annoyed/sad all the time to my boyfriend (he even made ME tea- something he is afraid to do 😂), I've been working on projects at a less than minimal pace, im missing calls and texts left and right. I can tell Dopamine my levels are down because I want foods I don't regularly eat and once I get them im not happy with them...

I totally forget how surgery, any surgery can screw you up short term. I am trying to be kind to myself during this process. 😭

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21 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

I, too, am feeling the post plastics woes... @ms.sss

My weight is bouncing around and it directly corresponds to by swell/bloat levels. I seem annoyed/sad all the time to my boyfriend (he even made ME tea- something he is afraid to do 😂), I've been working on projects at a less than minimal pace, im missing calls and texts left and right. I can tell Dopamine my levels are down because I want foods I don't regularly eat and once I get them im not happy with them...

I totally forget how surgery, any surgery can screw you up short term. I am trying to be kind to myself during this process. 😭

I JUST CRIED.

😢

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It is the surgery, ladies. Please be kind to yourselves. You are such inspirations to so many of us.

And knowing y’all are human and get into funks makes you all the more lovable!

Just sayin’

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6 hours ago, ms.sss said:

I JUST CRIED.

😢

I basically gave up crying during adolescence, so have a good one for me 😂😂😂

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3 hours ago, pssk said:

It is the surgery, ladies. Please be kind to yourselves. You are such inspirations to so many of us.

And knowing y’all are human and get into funks makes you all the more lovable!

Just sayin’

Hmmm, How can we monetize this "loveable" to pay for a BBL ? 😅

asking for a friend (myself)

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20 hours ago, ms.sss said:

Today I am feeling blue-y BLAH (even more blue-y BLAH than I have already been feeling this past week)

I think the honeymoon phase of WLS and the high of my perceived success in this whole weight loss thing is losing its lustre . I am tired of looking at my body in the mirror hoping for my PS swelling to go away. My wasitline has increased by 3 effing inches in the past 3 days. I am annoyed that my weight has been creeping up which I know is a direct result of my ZERO-excerise regime. I am still eating the same calories, but not offsetting it with any exercise.

The lack of exercise is partly due to my sore boobs and armpit, but really, is mostly due to pure laziness.

I am below the upper limit of my happy place, but I have been averaging higher than normal within that range the past couple weeks. And the surprising thing is, I don't really care this time.

And I notice that my previous food-vigilance has slacked. I am more often than not to give myself a pass on higher carby and sugary stuff. And again, I don't seem to care.

I already know what will make me feel better but I have ZERO interest nor motivation to do it. Instead I am in the Pity Party thread griping about my own self-inflicted woes with much hand-wringing and pulling of hair (ok, so I'm not actually doing these things, put Pity Parties are all about drama, right??)

I am in a legitimate funk. And shopping isn't even helping.

Le Sigh.

I promise you the swelling will go down.... but you have to do your part... Wear your compression garment 23 hours a day.... I only took mine off to shower and air dry for 1 hour.... I too got lazy after the TT. Stopped going to the gym, but when i started putting weight back on (when i had the band) it was for me to get back on track with my eating and bam... i would drop the few i would put on...

I've been hovering around 134-135 for the last couple weeks... maybe this is where my body wants to be....

Still you look amazing.... your deff girl crush material....

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18 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

I, too, am feeling the post plastics woes... @ms.sss

My weight is bouncing around and it directly corresponds to by swell/bloat levels. I seem annoyed/sad all the time to my boyfriend (he even made ME tea- something he is afraid to do 😂), I've been working on projects at a less than minimal pace, im missing calls and texts left and right. I can tell Dopamine my levels are down because I want foods I don't regularly eat and once I get them im not happy with them...

I totally forget how surgery, any surgery can screw you up short term. I am trying to be kind to myself during this process. 😭

Post plastics blues is a thing.... i had them. I related it to my ex-husband.... he hated the fact that i did it and never missed an opportunity to remind me that i had a "surgical" body.... and that was just too lazy to do it the "natural" way.... He made me feel so bad about myself all the time.

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