I have a tentative VGS surgery date of December 14th. Anyone else scheduled for December yet? Lots of questions to come, I’m sure, but also looking for people to go through this together.

I have a tentative VGS surgery date of December 14th. Anyone else scheduled for December yet? Lots of questions to come, I’m sure, but also looking for people to go through this together.

I'm having mine December 18!

Dec. 7th!! Almost there!

Really needing some support now. I only told 2 people and I would love you hear from someone that is about to go through the same thing as they would know just how I'm feeling.

9 minutes ago, Neenaof4 said:

Really needing some support now. I only told 2 people and I would love you hear from someone that is about to go through the same thing as they would know just how I'm feeling.

❤️❤️❤️ my surgery is the 14th and I’ve been all over the place emotionally. I have doubted my decision, thought it was the greatest idea ever, almost convinced myself I could lose the weight without surgery (because the other 300 times don’t count), and right now I’ve settled on the emotions of who’s going to do everything around my house while I’m healing and can’t. No one seems to be able to find their own heads let alone do the vast amount of chores/responsibilities that I have. You are not alone and we will support you. I haven’t told anyone other than my mother, husband, and 2 of my older children. I am not sure how to handle negative comments so I’m not opening myself up to them before surgery.

I relate 100% with you. I just wish I had the support from the people closest to me.

I'm so grateful for all the support from this group!!! It helps alot!!

7 minutes ago, Neenaof4 said:

I relate 100% with you. I just wish I had the support from the people closest to me.

While I appreciate support I’ve decided I am the ONLY person who will use this tool to succeed or to fail. I am the one who has gotten myself to this point (obesity and all the things that come with it), no one forced me to eat crappy or not exercise. So yes, if my family gives me good jobs along the way, ultimately I have to support me and be my biggest cheerleader and also my biggest critic.

6 minutes ago, Neenaof4 said:

Really needing some support now. I only told 2 people and I would love you hear from someone that is about to go through the same thing as they would know just how I'm feeling.

I am a very private person. I shared with the 3 people I am closest to and that has been the best decision for me. It would have been 2, but my mom (my dad doesn't know) has to keep my boys. Heck, it would have been 1, but over time my husband convinced me I wouldn't be able to keep it from my best friend and that I shouldn't. I got push back from all 3. I knew I would. They didn't know anything about a VSG. I granted them the right to be a little scared, ask me questions, go to appointments, etcetera.

I think the culture we live in has conditioned us to feel like everyone has to know everything and that just isn't true. I am not sure if your right to privacy that you have chosen to protect makes you feel more like you are keeping a secret or if you feel like because you are not shouting it from the mountaintops something is wrong with that. If you do, please don't. You are allowed your privacy and it's ok to be protective of it. I went around and around in my own head about whether or not I was being "dishonest" by not sharing my journey with others. I decided that I get to choose. Period. And I did not want to have to live in a constant state of explanation on why I decided to do what I feel is best for me.

The support that I most needed was really that I wanted to be able to seek wisdom from those who have walked the journey too. I've found that here, so I am content. My squad of 3 is supportive and that is beyond a gift that I do not discount or take for granted, but in the end of this...it's me. I have a lot of work to put in, I'll do it with my 3, but equally as important to me is that there is a whole gang of support here. Wishing all the best for you, Neenaof4! You definitely have a support squad here.

I struggled with the same issues , and was embarrassed at first, but ultimately ended up blabbing about the surgery to everyone . My parents and old college friend had been the most against it- but when I explained the technical reasons why dieting doesn’t work and hasn’t worked for me, and how important it was to me to be healthy and active , they all became very supportive . My fiancé is concerned we won’t eat and drink together anymore , but I have just said o will be eating like all the other skinny girls and what I put in my mouth is nobody’s business but mine !!! This is a great tool and a lifesaving surgery for many - being scared is normal but take a deep breath and a month from now I think we all will be so happy ! I am scheduled for dec 20!

I have only told a handful of people. No one at work except the hr manager cause I had to see if this surgery was a clause in our insurance. I to feel kind of embarrassed about having the surgery. It's like I failed and its led me to have to have surgery. Idk I know I'm doing this for the right reasons so that's all that matters I guess.

December 4th. I’m ready to do this!

December 5th! One week to go.

22 hours ago, Jean9 said:

I have only told a handful of people. No one at work except the hr manager cause I had to see if this surgery was a clause in our insurance. I to feel kind of embarrassed about having the surgery. It's like I failed and its led me to have to have surgery. Idk I know I'm doing this for the right reasons so that's all that matters I guess.

When you decide to do something for the betterment of your health and overall life, that's bravery and wisedom. Embarrassment has a way of keeping you bound. The decision that you have made and all of the hard work that you are putting in and will continue to put in offers you freedom. Freedom to know that you worked your butt off to accomplish what you have and what you will. You have chosen to add a tool. That's it. No more, no less. It is you and only you doing the work to make the tool useful. I hope one day soon, you will grow to know how brave you are, how assiduous you are and that choosing to add a tool shouldn't evoke embarrassment, but pride. Rooting for you and proud of you ?

On 11/26/2018 at 11:19 PM, Jacie63 said:

Hi, my date is also the 12th! I'm having a revision too, LapBand to Bypass. Good luck with yours.

Jacie63

Hey! Please feel free to email me or message me here :) vic91218@aol.com

Merry Christmas to us! Great way to look at it.

Im also scheduled for the 10th of December.