I have a doctor's appointment in a couple hours where i plan on asking my doctor for a referral so I can get a VSG my bmi is 49.7 I'm 24 and my family keeps saying no they won't do it (we all have the same doc) I've decided that this is what I want to do but I'm scared of rejection

You need to be willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want. You are your only advocate. If your original Dr. won’t get onboard find another who will. Do not let one person stand in your way to a better you.

You need to be willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want. You are your only advocate. If your original Dr. won’t get onboard find another who will. Do not let one person stand in your way to a better you.

She sent the referral I'm so ready to get the ball rolling!

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Hon honestly best advice go all in read blogs stuff that but commmmmit do yourself a favor go cold turkey on anything that does not walk on the ground swim or fly or grow naturally just if it has ingredients that sound like food they are food if it looks like it could come from a lab it probably did

9 hours ago, DVontesmommy1 said:

She sent the referral I'm so ready to get the ball rolling!

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The next step is usually meeting with your surgeon and his team. The surgeon's office is the one that makes the final determination if you are a candidate and sends the paperwork to your insurance. Once you get into their program, they'll guide you on your way. Congrats!

And congratulations on these first steps, now that you are on the path please keep going. Your future health and indeed life depend on it. If I told you my chronological life age you would say " that's so cool." but I am having my own life struggles. Let me share a few. First I am one of those whose journey has painfully slow, partly my fault but mostly not. Don't worry , there is no way on God's Green Earth yours could be like dynasty one. Second I am on Social Security so Uber limited income, have been fighting the Workman Comp Wars for a little over 2 years. It should finally settle soon, one wrinkle was I have been fighting,a self-insured ex employer who I suspect has been praying I'd die off so they could wipe it off their corporate books without final restitution, while I was receiving temporary total I had no problem paying my landlord, now as it comes closer to finally being at end that stopped. I had to cut back on rental payment to pay for utilities, medications my insurance doesn't cover or even with co-pay is high and sad to say, they are ones I really need to stay healthy. Last 2 months I could pay at all, bought some time with LLord by telling him I'd resolve it with my insurance. Since he wasn't getting,in what he,thought he should receive he stopped doing repairs. Okay, things still moving along in life? Spoke with my lawyer, thought(maybe foolishly) once I paid LL back there would be enough left maybe I would have enough to make down payment on a future small house of my own, it's just me, my son and 2 rotten spoiled cats, and honestly I'm tired of a house with plaster falling,baseboards missing and now after neighbor moved out, they must have had bugs because they've moved in too. The kind you need an exterminator for, if you know what I mean. LL already threatening to evict,me in July if I don't come up with more money. No do I tell him I have one of those insects that just keep on giving? Talked to lawyer this week, I had already explored getting preapproved for sale housing,even have a letter stating that to show realtor, when time. Lawyer gave me an amount based on his years of practice, he didn't just fall off the turnip truck, been doing this variety of law for years, after his % which I don't begrudge him because he has worked hard. If I would tell ex employer you would say" Oh you can't win anything from those peaple" well I will but not as large as I dreamed of. So I will have to later call LL who lives almost into the next state, yeah pretty absent when yo need something. Oh yes, in December I had to consult a specialist in another city- another county- due to a hereditary condition running in my family, without this more detailed clearance I couldn't be cleared for Bariatric Surgery. My JFS locally had been helping with such medical trips,they dropped this facet December 31st in my case, doctors office didn't send paperwork back until January, So cost reverted to me over $100 which I have been paying off monthly. Just another nasty bite out of my puny budget.
So now today I have to call LL and update him, although I have every hope of paying him the soonest I'll realize any money is 2 months, remember he already is making eviction noises. Then I have to call lawyer and tell him to make the formal demand in writing to opposing company, where we say we want like $60,000 and they say we want to pay $15,000 and then they jockey back in forth. Then I hope I don't hear from realator or lending institution because I told them I'd be making a move in July and now it doesn't look that way. I have so many clothes that hopefully I won't be able to wear anymore, some of them winter because I live in Ohio, I could have an all weekend yard sale, maybe I should pile them out on the curbside on a table with a sign FREE and just keep refilling it.
Now back to Bariatrics, I should have my surgery in July(another July occurance) all I'm really waiting on is my 30 day electronic validation of usage which will be submitted July 2nd and that is hands down the happiest part of my tale of woe. I started wanting and working toward it in August 2015. Any after my RnY, don't k ow where I'll be living or how much money I'll really have, but I've got to get it finished before the end of my insurance settlement because my piddly bit of money will kick me off of Medicare/ Medicaid and I can't afford the $19,000+ Ohio State University Hospital charges for it without medicines and everything else. But I will triumph over all these setbacks because like Reba McEntire I AM A SURVIVOR!
Your new Friend Frustr8.?????

If he won’t do it change doctors!!

Excuse me but what is HCG?

@Frustr8 Keep on fighting the good fight! I pray that all goes smoothly from here on out.

Thats awesome! I didnt need a referral because of my bmi. I went to a seminar once I moved to Reading. It is a place where a couple people i know have gone. It is the weight management center. They have been absolutely fabulous with this. Everyone from the guard in the lobby, to the girl at check out. They also have a clothing closet! I have gone from 5x to 2/3x depending on length. No charge. 5 outfits per thursday. I can only go once a month, so they allow me a little slack! They ladies that take care of it are wls success stories! It is nice to see! I finally have a cute red dress to wear Sunday, or Saturday night, depending. Lol for the first time in a long time I have self confidence. I mean there are still some things I freak out about! #1? When everything is too short! Shirts, dresses, tanks! Skirts and shorts i am usually ok in. #2 colors! Ok so I have never worn red in my life! I thought i looked frumpy in red. Now, its different! I never used to wear stripes, now I do! Things I wouldnt think of trying on I do! This is for me. Not for peoples eyes.
Diabetes runs in both sides of my family. I took my last diabetes medication on October 6th and have never had to take another! My ac1 is 4.8 when it used to be 7

The next step is usually meeting with your surgeon and his team. The surgeon's office is the one that makes the final determination if you are a candidate and sends the paperwork to your insurance. Once you get into their program, they'll guide you on your way. Congrats!

Thank you

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And congratulations on these first steps, now that you are on the path please keep going. Your future health and indeed life depend on it. If I told you my chronological life age you would say " that's so cool." but I am having my own life struggles. Let me share a few. First I am one of those whose journey has painfully slow, partly my fault but mostly not. Don't worry , there is no way on God's Green Earth yours could be like dynasty one. Second I am on Social Security so Uber limited income, have been fighting the Workman Comp Wars for a little over 2 years. It should finally settle soon, one wrinkle was I have been fighting,a self-insured ex employer who I suspect has been praying I'd die off so they could wipe it off their corporate books without final restitution, while I was receiving temporary total I had no problem paying my landlord, now as it comes closer to finally being at end that stopped. I had to cut back on rental payment to pay for utilities, medications my insurance doesn't cover or even with co-pay is high and sad to say, they are ones I really need to stay healthy. Last 2 months I could pay at all, bought some time with LLord by telling him I'd resolve it with my insurance. Since he wasn't getting,in what he,thought he should receive he stopped doing repairs. Okay, things still moving along in life? Spoke with my lawyer, thought(maybe foolishly) once I paid LL back there would be enough left maybe I would have enough to make down payment on a future small house of my own, it's just me, my son and 2 rotten spoiled cats, and honestly I'm tired of a house with plaster falling,baseboards missing and now after neighbor moved out, they must have had bugs because they've moved in too. The kind you need an exterminator for, if you know what I mean. LL already threatening to evict,me in July if I don't come up with more money. No do I tell him I have one of those insects that just keep on giving? Talked to lawyer this week, I had already explored getting preapproved for sale housing,even have a letter stating that to show realtor, when time. Lawyer gave me an amount based on his years of practice, he didn't just fall off the turnip truck, been doing this variety of law for years, after his % which I don't begrudge him because he has worked hard. If I would tell ex employer you would say" Oh you can't win anything from those peaple" well I will but not as large as I dreamed of. So I will have to later call LL who lives almost into the next state, yeah pretty absent when yo need something. Oh yes, in December I had to consult a specialist in another city- another county- due to a hereditary condition running in my family, without this more detailed clearance I couldn't be cleared for Bariatric Surgery. My JFS locally had been helping with such medical trips,they dropped this facet December 31st in my case, doctors office didn't send paperwork back until January, So cost reverted to me over $100 which I have been paying off monthly. Just another nasty bite out of my puny budget.
So now today I have to call LL and update him, although I have every hope of paying him the soonest I'll realize any money is 2 months, remember he already is making eviction noises. Then I have to call lawyer and tell him to make the formal demand in writing to opposing company, where we say we want like $60,000 and they say we want to pay $15,000 and then they jockey back in forth. Then I hope I don't hear from realator or lending institution because I told them I'd be making a move in July and now it doesn't look that way. I have so many clothes that hopefully I won't be able to wear anymore, some of them winter because I live in Ohio, I could have an all weekend yard sale, maybe I should pile them out on the curbside on a table with a sign FREE and just keep refilling it.
Now back to Bariatrics, I should have my surgery in July(another July occurance) all I'm really waiting on is my 30 day electronic validation of usage which will be submitted July 2nd and that is hands down the happiest part of my tale of woe. I started wanting and working toward it in August 2015. Any after my RnY, don't k ow where I'll be living or how much money I'll really have, but I've got to get it finished before the end of my insurance settlement because my piddly bit of money will kick me off of Medicare/ Medicaid and I can't afford the $19,000+ Ohio State University Hospital charges for it without medicines and everything else. But I will triumph over all these setbacks because like Reba McEntire I AM A SURVIVOR!
Your new Friend Frustr8.[emoji14][emoji254][emoji259][emoji259][emoji254]

Wow! I hope things do turn around...stay positive and thanks for the encouragement[emoji178][emoji178][emoji178]

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Excuse me but what is HCG?

It's a hormone pregnant women produce, you inject your stomach everyday and follow a very strict 500 calorie diet.

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Thats awesome! I didnt need a referral because of my bmi. I went to a seminar once I moved to Reading. It is a place where a couple people i know have gone. It is the weight management center. They have been absolutely fabulous with this. Everyone from the guard in the lobby, to the girl at check out. They also have a clothing closet! I have gone from 5x to 2/3x depending on length. No charge. 5 outfits per thursday. I can only go once a month, so they allow me a little slack! They ladies that take care of it are wls success stories! It is nice to see! I finally have a cute red dress to wear Sunday, or Saturday night, depending. Lol for the first time in a long time I have self confidence. I mean there are still some things I freak out about! #1? When everything is too short! Shirts, dresses, tanks! Skirts and shorts i am usually ok in. #2 colors! Ok so I have never worn red in my life! I thought i looked frumpy in red. Now, its different! I never used to wear stripes, now I do! Things I wouldnt think of trying on I do! This is for me. Not for peoples eyes.
Diabetes runs in both sides of my family. I took my last diabetes medication on October 6th and have never had to take another! My ac1 is 4.8 when it used to be 7

That is awesome! I can't wait to feel confident in short little dresses again and actually feel pretty again. I had actually lost a lot of weight before I got pregnant down to 190 but during pregnancy I gained everything back and MORE!(now 315 my heaviest) I'm ready to make a long term lifestyle change..hopefully my place offers clothes that would be amazing being that I'm now a single mom who can't fit any of her old clothes...CONGRATS TO YOU! and thank you for the encouragement.

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DVontesmommy1 I know exactly how you feel!! I had tried so many diets over the last 20 something years and they all ended in failure! I was put on most of these diets and trying different medicines by my heart doctor who has been trying to help me get my blood pressure and mitrovalve under control for at least 6 years, by using diets but none worked! I went in one day and he said what am I going to do with you, you’ve got to get this weight down! I said well what I want to do is weight loss surgery! He said are you really serious and I said yes! He said well if your serious I’ve got all the documentation your dr will need for the insurance company! He gave me a doctors name and it was the same dr a friend of mine had used!! So I called his office and my first appointment was Feb.24 2018! After my initial visit and after doing all the things that was required we submitted it to the insurance company and in one week they had approved it!! I had my surgery May 18!!! I haven’t had a lot of issues after my surgery, but it has not been easy but it is gonna be worth it in the end!! Relearning to eat again and to not eat fast has been the hardest thing of all!! Good luck and God Bless!!

DVontesmommy1 I know exactly how you feel!! I had tried so many diets over the last 20 something years and they all ended in failure! I was put on most of these diets and trying different medicines by my heart doctor who has been trying to help me get my blood pressure and mitrovalve under control for at least 6 years, by using diets but none worked! I went in one day and he said what am I going to do with you, you’ve got to get this weight down! I said well what I want to do is weight loss surgery! He said are you really serious and I said yes! He said well if your serious I’ve got all the documentation your dr will need for the insurance company! He gave me a doctors name and it was the same dr a friend of mine had used!! So I called his office and my first appointment was Feb.24 2018! After my initial visit and after doing all the things that was required we submitted it to the insurance company and in one week they had approved it!! I had my surgery May 18!!! I haven’t had a lot of issues after my surgery, but it has not been easy but it is gonna be worth it in the end!! Relearning to eat again and to not eat fast has been the hardest thing of all!! Good luck and God Bless!!

Yes I'm almost 24 and it stinks that I've struggled all my life with my weight I feel like I'm too young to be having back problems and knee issues I don't want to waste anymore time. I agree with it not being easy, and it bothers me when my own family tells me it's the easy way out I already know it will be a challenge but I'm ready to grab it by the horns. Thank you for the encouragement and congrats to you...This community is already so amazing it's so cool that I have so much support from those I don't even know!!!

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