So my boss and coworkers know I am going to have gastric bypass. They have been very supportive and understanding if I needed to take time off work for my appointments. A couple of weeks ago my boss told me when “good times” would be to have surgery and I said okay. Just the other day my boss came back to talk about my surgery and now wants me to wait an additional month to have surgery due to things that are going on at work. I don’t have my surgery date yet but will get it next week when I meet with my surgeon again.

During a meeting with our little department my boss made a point that my surgery is elective so maybe I should just wait until this fall to have surgery.

I don’t think it’s fair for my boss to tell me when I can have surgery. I believe that my surgery date should be between me and my surgeon.

Am I being overly sensitive about this? I talked to my mom about it since she had this surgery about 8 years ago. She said that I need to keep things private and not speak to anyone but HR at my work about my surgery.

Thoughts?

Do you mean just talking in general about the surgery or specifically about delaying the surgery?

Thanks for all of your support everyone!

What should I say if my boss wants to talk to me about surgery? Do I just say that I don’t feel comfortable talking about it because it’s personal?

I don’t want to get in trouble.

Just let him know you no longer feel comfortable talking about medical issues but happy to discuss work and business related things.

12 hours ago, clabelle2007 said:

Thanks for all of your support everyone!

What should I say if my boss wants to talk to me about surgery? Do I just say that I don’t feel comfortable talking about it because it’s personal?

I don’t want to get in trouble.

Just say you would rather not discuss it any longer. Why on earth would you get in trouble for not talking about your personal business?!

if your boss makes a big deal about it, file a complaint with HR