Feeling like a failure

[Fc 5]

I've been feeling like such a failure recently. I'm five months post op and have only lost 37 pounds.

Sometimes i feel like why did i do this ? Pre op i really felt on such a high that I'm finally gonna get everything I've been waiting for my whole life and now i just feel let down and disappointed.

I'm eating and exercising really well so i dont know what im doing wrong ?????

SW-218

CW-182

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[Biddy zz 🏳️🌈 1,003]

Hi fc

Tell us a bit more? (Or fill in your profile)

Without knowing your height it is tough to see whether this is in line with expectations... after all, 37 pounds is a couple of pounds a week, consistently - good on most diets! What is your goal? Your bmi? Your surgery type?

And share with us a bit about your eating habits...

Folks on here know a lot about weight loss predictions for people of various start/goal weights, etc. I reckon you’ll get good stuff from some here, if you share a little more with them.......

[Fc 5]

Im 5ft and my bmi started at 40

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[Fc 5]

I had the gastric sleeve on a regular 12/12/17
I was never the kind of person that ate the whole time i actually didnt have such bad eating habits (obviously not the best ) but weight is something I've been battling with since a very young age

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[Malpraxis 32]

Hello,

In my humble experience, raw BMI is a good ballpark, but not the be all end all of measurements. Before undergoing surgery myself, I've talked with several people who went through the same ordeal, and felt like they were stalling despite following all orders to a T. Thing is, one of those guys looked buff as hell.

All body types are different, and some endomorphs lose fat by building muscle. Sure, his BMI said almost obese, but his body fat % was in the low end of normal. He didn't see that, because some people are so focused on weight alone that they develop a dysmorphic syndrome.

Not saying that's your case, but maybe that's an avenue you should consider and examine. In any case, everything has a solution, and you're still in the "honeymoon" phase of weight loss, so there's much room for improvement if you happened to veer a bit off course.

Believe me, just considering the fact that you may be a "failure" at this stage, tells me that you are miles away from being one. Key word: Self awareness. Stand tall, trooper.

Cheers!

[Fc 5]

Hello,
In my humble experience, raw BMI is a good ballpark, but not the be all end all of measurements. Before undergoing surgery myself, I've talked with several people who went through the same ordeal, and felt like they were stalling despite following all orders to a T. Thing is, one of those guys looked buff as hell.
All body types are different, and some endomorphs lose fat by building muscle. Sure, his BMI said almost obese, but his body fat % was in the low end of normal. He didn't see that, because some people are so focused on weight alone that they develop a dysmorphic syndrome.
Not saying that's your case, but maybe that's an avenue you should consider and examine. In any case, everything has a solution, and you're still in the "honeymoon" phase of weight loss, so there's much room for improvement if you happened to veer a bit off course.
Believe me, just considering the fact that you may be a "failure" at this stage, tells me that you are miles away from being one. Key word: Self awareness. Stand tall, trooper.
Cheers!

Thanx so much
You've really given me some perspective [emoji4]

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[FluffyChix 17,410]

What are you eating in a day. Post some sample menus please with daily totals if possible--also how many cals per day? Also, what volume is a meal? And are you still drinking Protein Drinks? How many meals/snacks/times do you eat a day? Are you drinking alcohol? Do you drink/eat at the same time? Are you taking supplements? Do you exercise?

Edited May 6, 2018 by FluffyChix

[GreenTealael 24,896]

I understand your frustration, sometimes we place too much focus and importance on one thing that will certainly make you happy if fixed. IMHO its never just the one thing that if fixed, will fix everything. And thats where the disappointment comes from. I would suggest measuring your success not only by what you lose but also by what you gain as well. And please try to remember that your lifes purpose is not losing weight. Losing weight will enhance your life and allow you to focus on other things

Congrats on your progress to date!

Edited May 6, 2018 by Tealael

[Creekimp13 5,838]

5 hours ago, Fc said:

I'm eating and exercising really well so i dont know what im doing wrong ?????

The only thing you're doing wrong....is lacking patience.

If you currently weigh 182, and you've got 12 months of surgery effect to continue to lose weight..

If you lose 3 pounds a month...you'll get down to 146 by the end of 18 months (the time frame they say surgery helps to promote weight loss)

You're getting there slower....because you're getting closer.

Have patience and stay the course.

[Apple203 1,314]

I totally agree with the others -- and I also play the game of calculating what I need to lose a month/week to reach my goals (both reasonable and stretch). Keep on truckin'!

[Apple203 1,314]

Also, if you lose the average amount of 70% EBW, and assuming a goal weight of 130#, you will reach 156#. This means you are 60% there at 5 months!!

[itsmercedes_ 0]

You must not have enough Protein intake !

[sideeye 1,440]

I’m not a big fan of using “amount of weight lost” as a metric to track success, since we all have vastly different starting points. BMI is a good marker for a health baseline, but I’d probably be wary of that one as a direct comparative statistic too.

Percentage of starting weight lost feels like a more reliable, comparative baseline for us to use. If I’m reading your stats right, you’ve lost 17% of your starting weight - that’s VERY successful. Calculating the percentage of weight you need to lose to hit goal seems like a good one too. But comparing directly to another individual on these boards is anecdotal (posters self-selecting for success) and confirmation bias will get you. Avoid it.

Edited May 6, 2018 by sideeye

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

And, not to point out the obvious, but if you started at 218, you were at a lower weight than very many of the people on here, and it's expected that your loss would be slower than someone who, for example, started at twice what you did.

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23 minutes ago, XYZXYZXYZ1955 said:

it's expected that your loss would be slower

Not just slower, less overall. There are people here looking to lose YOU at your highest weight!