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I'm still preop (two day to go) but I can understand the OP's question. Already I feel a sense of loss for the person I worked so hard to be. My weight is a huge part of my identity and as someone who's never been able to lose more than 40/50lbs in her life it's hard to picture life as anything else. I fully expect to mourn the 'me' I know, but I hope to gain a healthier version I can be just as happy with. So[mention=334552]marissa37[/mention] , I'd say I probably will miss being overweight. But in that way you miss a really good book when you're done reading it... [emoji175]

I love this answer , had my sleeve done yesterday 2/22/2018 and I know I will mourn the girl I leave behind. Also I’m kinda new to this app [emoji23]

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I love this answer , had my sleeve done yesterday 2/22/2018 and I know I will mourn the girl I leave behind. Also I’m kinda new to this app [emoji23]


2/22/18 was my day too! Congrats and I hope you're doing well!!! [emoji175]


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No way, Jose! I will never miss being so fat that wiping my ass was an epic adventure of discovery and contortion. I will never miss the stares, shame, or ridicule of being the biggest girl in the room/restaurant/fill in the blank. I will not miss the stress on my joints or the arthritic pain caused by super morbid obesity. I will not miss the high risk of cancer recurrence, the more severe asthma symptoms, the GERD, insomnia, etc! I will never miss the lack of mobility, the fall risks, the imbalance, the lack of stamina, the desire to isolate in order to protect myself from shame.

Obesity can go fu*k itself! *snort* With big green donkey di*ks. There is NO part of the old me I will miss. I'm intrinsically the same person inside my Michelin Man fat suit. G'bye fat ass. Hello skinny minny!

kserrynotserry for thinking so rabidly about my fat self. It is what it is.

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20 hours ago, batelisak said:

I love this answer , had my sleeve done yesterday 2/22/2018 and I know I will mourn the girl I leave behind. Also I’m kinda new to this app

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I completely understand. I like me and I'm fat always have been. I just don't like my health issues. Got vdg to resolve them

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Only thing I miss is not being cold all the time. Lol

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20 hours ago, BlueCrush said:

Only thing I miss is not being cold all the time. Lol

True dat. I spent the first 40 years of my life being hot all the time. Now, I am always freezing!!

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Just being able to eat what I want, when I want, but I’m in talk therapy for that.

Oh, and I am annoyed at perpetually having to buy smaller clothing. Luckily I already went thru the experience of having to give away expensive clothing several years ago and didn’t replace it with more expensive clothing, but it’s still annoying that I have a Rubbermaid bin full of shirts I bought for a cruise last fall that will probably be too big for me by the time it’s short-sleeves weather in Chicago.

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I don't miss being fat per se, but do miss the satisfaction and "joy" food used to bring me. Food is now just fuel, there's no real joy in it... at least not like before. I don't get any satisfaction from eating anymore, even if its something that used to be amazing. I'm ok with making that trade though, I'm finding a lot of joy in other things now.

I do kind of miss the 'being invisible' part of it as well, now everywhere I go people make conversation, hold doors and otherwise are super nice to me and it just feels weird. It's now happening every time I go out, which is nice, but feels weird.

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I miss those 66 pounds (so far) like I'd miss an itchy pinworm infection:)

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ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! I am only about 6 months out but I can tell you that there is no way that I miss my larger self....I feel healthier, my blood pressure, A1C, and blood sugar have dropped, cholesterol dropped, pants size dropped from a 48 and really needing to upgrade to a size 50 down to a size 40 and about to drop to a size 38. EVERYTHING has changed for the better. For the first time in my life I am looking forward to summer to be able to go to local amusement parks with the family and actually fit on rides. There have been way more benefits than I have the time to list here. I love the new me and look forward to me taking the rest of my journey wherever that leads. I will have to be perfectly honest and say that sometimes I miss the "indulging" but that is something that I am able to handle and am dealing with. I understand that it is part of my illness and am doing my share to overcome it! I will not return to my prior size, I refuse to give up, and I am proud of my decision!:D

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I can relate to what Jess said about feeling a little more vulnerable alone in public, in the past i would go everywhere and anywhere by myself and never think twice...who wants to mess with a 250lb woman. Now things are a bit different, I'm a little more cautious. But overall, this is nothing compared to how much more comfortable I feel in every other situation including small stuff like fitting into my car or into one of those silly attached desk chairs at school.

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I'm gonna miss it like a well-loved hemorrhoid. :D

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