Do people that you known treat you different? How that makes you feel? Do strangers in general treat you different?

haha! (I love that kid and those movies...)

2 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

haha! (I love that kid and those movies...)

Me too! I’ve seen all of them 100 times thanks to my kids. Just between you & me I would’ve seen them all 100 times if I had no kids. ?

IKR!

I haven't noticed much difference at all, I'm not at skinny and don't ever plan to be...maybe I can give a better answer when I hit "fit". But 81lbs down...of all the people I associate with they are still just as accepting and nice to me as before. Strangers..nope, no difference. Men, I don't pay attention...I've got my husband who has all my attention. (Ya'll can all just go throw up now...lol)

Edited February 15, 20188 yr by Newme17

19 minutes ago, Newme17 said:

I haven't noticed much difference at all, I'm not at skinny and don't ever plan to be...maybe I can give a better answer when I hit "fit". But 81lbs down...of all the people I associate with they are still just as accepting and nice to me as before. Strangers..nope, no difference. Men, I don't pay attention...I've got my husband who has all my attention. (Ya'll can all just go throw up now...lol)

Not to disagree (and I'm not), but you can be fit and skinny at the same time. I'm in the best health of my life and I'm skinny. My PCP and surgeon and associated staffs both back that up! :-)

EDIT: I should read closer. You go girl.

Edited February 15, 20188 yr by blizair09

8 minutes ago, blizair09 said:

EDIT: I should read closer. You go girl.

No worries....thanks hon!

Maybe I should have been a little more clearer too...as a fit girl, I'd essentially be "skinny, but with muscle", definitely don't want to be a skinny flabby one. Not at all attractive to me and I don't think my body can achieve that look with my build and for sure, my lifestyle. So, yeah...skinny fit...looking forward to that.

You look great btw!

Edited February 15, 20188 yr by Newme17

I'm too scared to ever date. I can't imagine having to eventually reveal loose skin. I'm just going to have to get comfortable with the thought of dying alone. Oh well, my dog is pretty awesome. Who needs a man?

LaLaDee you crack me up...and you remind me of myself. I’m hoping to date eventually but it will be hard to jump in the game after so long AND rejection is tough for me. I resigned to dying alone and am okay with it. I have my Boston Terriers who constantly make me laugh, move my ass, and give me tons of affection. Yeah, I’m good with my pups too. [emoji5]

People can be superficial about physical apearance. Most experices are positive after weight loss. I still get a few negative comments now that I'm fit. Negative people will always find ways to be judgemental ...lol

It's sad that I feel more valued by society just becase I'm considered a normal weight.

My inner fat girl has a chip on her shoulder when it comes to how diffrently I'm treated now.




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8 hours ago, jenn1 said:

My inner fat girl has a chip on her shoulder when it comes to how diffrently I'm treated now.

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That being said, my inner fat girl has a very bad attitude and sometimes pessimistic outlook toward people. She is in serious need of me kicking her ass. (Sometimes she shivers in fear cuz she knows her days of being large and in charge of my life are numbered...)

On 2/15/2018 at 2:00 PM, Newme17 said:

You look great btw!

Thanks :-)

@logicwand don't give up on love girl - I got remarried at 42 and nearly gave up just prior to that. We all deserve that connection, your confidence will change during this endeavor and there will be great surprises - long lost personality traits just pop out!

[mention=334768]logicwand[/mention] don't give up on love girl - I got remarried at 42 and nearly gave up just prior to that. We all deserve that connection, your confidence will change during this endeavor and there will be great surprises - long lost personality traits just pop out!

Thank you, Sue.... you’re right. I shouldn’t give up on love. Your story makes me hopeful as I’ll be 42 soon. The idea of my confidence changing is so exciting because it’s something I’ve lacked my entire life. Now I’m excited. Lol. Thank you!!! [emoji2]

I haven't noticed different treatment from people I know except they seem to comment more on what I am eating or not eating at social gatherings.

Honestly I feel better now at almost 50 then I did through my 40's so I don't really care about what people think anymore. I am happy and enjoying life now!!

Logic wand, smile, strut your new body, say Hello World-here I am. Confidence will get you far, if it don't move on, something better may be lurking around the corner. You're 42 and fine.

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I am not skinny yet and am still at the beginning of my weight loss journey. Having said that...I don't really get mean comments anymore once I was able to put more effort in my appearance. Once I started earning my own money, I moved out of my home country (where clothing only comes in sizes S, M, and L) to another country where clothing comes in sizes 0-20 and shoes come in size 42. I'm always skimming at the top but I am still able to find great options that actually *fit* rather than just something I can fit into.

I also enjoy taking care of my appearance (hair salon, mani-pedi, makeup) so I look like some fashionista, only fatter (if I may say so myself). In my experience, I have people open doors for me (some were even cute guys!), strangers struck up a conversation, etc and I have stopped thinking that it's all got to do with me. How people treat you is a reflection of themselves. I've had people open the door for me even when I didn't feel particularly beautiful / made any effort that day so, some people are just nice / respectful, and some are jerks.

However, I do feel the difference when I put on some effort in my appearance and when I don't. People treat you with more respect when you do but I guess the same applies to regular-sized people as well, and I think because when you put some effort you feel more confidence and less sensitive to perceived slights from other people.

I am, however, very interested to know if I'll experience these changes in treatment from stranger that others mentioned.