I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

My fear is that I'd be one of those few that would gain the weight back and then everyone would be saying, "See, I told you so, should have never done the surgery!" Not a soul knows on my end. They would have no idea how difficult it is, and what we go through. It DEFINITELY is NOT the easy way out!!

Best of luck to you! I did mine all on my own and I've been fine.

Im no longer scared about going on my own as I have heard that many people do. Reach out here for support and questions. I have been approved for surgery and my tenative date is 10/28/17. IM EXCITED!

5 hours ago, Mytimenow17 said:

My fear is that I'd be one of those few that would gain the weight back and then everyone would be saying, "See, I told you so, should have never done the surgery!" Not a soul knows on my end. They would have no idea how difficult it is, and what we go through. It DEFINITELY is NOT the easy way out!!

Amen

1 hour ago, Sherry Rice said:

Im no longer scared about going on my own as I have heard that many people do. Reach out here for support and questions. I have been approved for surgery and my tenative date is 10/28/17. IM EXCITED!

Congratulation, everything will turn out fine!

On 9/29/2017 at 3:29 PM, Mytimenow17 said:

My fear is that I'd be one of those few that would gain the weight back and then everyone would be saying, "See, I told you so, should have never done the surgery!" Not a soul knows on my end. They would have no idea how difficult it is, and what we go through. It DEFINITELY is NOT the easy way out!!

It most definitely is not the easy way out. Whatever I may have thought before, learning about it, taking the classes, talking to all the professionals and reading and studying about the surgery and afterwards and the diet....it will be the hardest thing I've done to help myself in 25 years.

1 hour ago, BunnyJean said:

It most definitely is not the easy way out. Whatever I may have thought before, learning about it, taking the classes, talking to all the professionals and reading and studying about the surgery and afterwards and the diet....it will be the hardest thing I've done to help myself in 25 years.

amen

I totally agree!! One of the hardest things I'll have ever done for the rest of my life.

I am also, only my wife and son know. I found out my wife has been talking to some of her coworkers and I am so mad about that I told her she is not welcome to take me to the hospital or see me or talk to doctors about it. She is an RN for 30+years but she should have not done that. Still very mad about it.

I told my family online and my sister in law, seeings I told my sister in law I’m sure the rest of the exatended family knows how. I’ve been overweight since I was 3.. They all have made fun of me and no way supporting in anything I do. So it didn’t matter if they knew or not. The only one that matters is my 12 year old daughter.

You guys make me feel so much better.

I've told my husband, who is my biggest source of support. I've also told my mom and sister, and hope that they have respected my wishes for privacy but who knows. Families can be whispery sorts. They're in the "we support you, but we're worried" camp.

The MIL, bless her heart. Nicest woman in the world but I know any info I give to her I'm essentially giving the consent for every person she strikes up a conversation with from here until EVER to know ALL my business. So I'm strategically withholding from all that noise ?. Best wishes!

18 hours ago, Nataliesmom said:

I told my family online and my sister in law, seeings I told my sister in law I’m sure the rest of the exatended family knows how. I’ve been overweight since I was 3.. They all have made fun of me and no way supporting in anything I do. So it didn’t matter if they knew or not. The only one that matters is my 12 year old daughter.

My heart breaks for you, and others that have similar situations. Let your daughter be your biggest cheerleader and motivation. Please disregard naysayers. Very few people in this world should matter, and I don't give those folks a place in my life anymore. Go through this journey with your little girl and stick around here for support with people that have the same goals and dreams. ❤️

On 9/11/2017 at 4:58 PM, mzsantiago88 said:

I'm not telling my family that I am having surgery, is anyone else here doing the same ?

My husband, 2 of my grown children, 1 boss, and 3 friends. That's all I have and will tell. Along with 22000 people on this forum.

My husband, 2 of my grown children, 1 boss, and 3 friends. That's all I have and will tell. Along with 22000 people on this forum.

I had surgery Wednesday and still haven't told anyone and I don't regret the choice I made

I am not telling a soul. The only 2 friends I would consider telling are in different countries right now so I dont want them to worry unnecessarily. I will probably tell them post op as they will question it over christmas time.

My mum was about 400lbs and lost it all naturally when I was about 1 years old. Ive been obese since I was 4 years old (now 25), we arent close, everytime i see her the first and last thing is always about my weight and the fact that my sister is much prettier, happier and more successful because she understands looks matter. I will never understand how she herself can be 400lbs up until the age 32 and has done nothing but nagged and ridiculed me when she knows exactly how it feels to be that overweight and how it doesnt help to be constantly reminded you are lesser because of it.
In her mind all the negativity towards her is what fueled her to lose her weight so I guess she is doing what she thinks is best or thats what Id like to believe anyway haha.

Wls isnt as common in the UK I dont think, so I guess there is a lot of stigma with something unknown. I know alot of obese people but I dont know anyone personally that has had or considered having wls.

So like alot of other people her, Im probably having hernia surgery [emoji23][emoji23]

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