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Hi! I had sleeve surgery 4 months ago. I'm very scared as I feel alone. I don't get a lot of questions answered by my surgeon and I feel no matter what I do, it's not enough for him. I expect too much from myself and wonder if I'm doing things right. I'm obsessive about thinking the pouch will stretch. I am losing slow, and then it doesn't move for a week or more. Right now, I just need to know I'm not the only one who feels lonely in this journey.

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Hi dear, believe me, we are all in the same boat. I'm 8 months out of surgery and only half way to goal. I've been stuck at the same weight for 2 months and feeling depressed about it. I remind myself how much healthier I am and how much happier and more energetic compared to before. I remind myself that everyone goes through periods where the weight doesn't shift and that can last for months, but as long as you are getting your Protein and exercise in, you will start losing again. Finally, I remind myself that without this operation, I could never gave seen the same results in the same time period. You aren't alone, you will be fine :-) if you have specific questions regarding the operation and it's aftereffects, people here are really helpful

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List what you are eating and drinking, calories, Protein, carbs, fats, liquid intake etc

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Hmm, I was about 50 pounds heavier than you at surgery, and am at about the same amount of weight loss since surgery (80 pounds). My surgeon said I was ahead of the curve for weight loss, so not sure why your's is giving you crap about it.

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4 hours ago, Hopeforme53 said:

Hi! I had sleeve surgery 4 months ago. I'm very scared as I feel alone. I don't get a lot of questions answered by my surgeon and I feel no matter what I do, it's not enough for him. I expect too much from myself and wonder if I'm doing things right. I'm obsessive about thinking the pouch will stretch. I am losing slow, and then it doesn't move for a week or more. Right now, I just need to know I'm not the only one who feels lonely in this journey.

Do you have the pouch or the sleeve?

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Screw your surgeon! Make an appointment with your dietician. Surgeons surge & Dietician's diet!

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6 hours ago, Hopeforme53 said:

Hi! I had sleeve surgery 4 months ago. I'm very scared as I feel alone. I don't get a lot of questions answered by my surgeon and I feel no matter what I do, it's not enough for him. I expect too much from myself and wonder if I'm doing things right. I'm obsessive about thinking the pouch will stretch. I am losing slow, and then it doesn't move for a week or more. Right now, I just need to know I'm not the only one who feels lonely in this journey.

Is it correct that you weigh 146? That's great! How much more do you expect to lose? Sounds like your deficient in Vitamin D or some other Vitamin or nutrients. I'm not a doctor but it sounds like you might benefit from seeing a counselor or the Dr that did your psych evaluation. That's what their here for! Another thing is you might go back to the instructions you were first givin & make sure your still on the right track. Find something to do that you weren't able to do before surgery. Heck I went roller skating for the first time in many years with my son last weekend & was sore after but had a blast! I haven't had surgery until next Tuesday but before switching to a vegan lifestyle & the pre-op diet weight loss it wouldn't have happened. Good luck & hope you get feeling good again!

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7 hours ago, Hopeforme53 said:

Hi! I had sleeve surgery 4 months ago. I'm very scared as I feel alone. I don't get a lot of questions answered by my surgeon and I feel no matter what I do, it's not enough for him. I expect too much from myself and wonder if I'm doing things right. I'm obsessive about thinking the pouch will stretch. I am losing slow, and then it doesn't move for a week or more. Right now, I just need to know I'm not the only one who feels lonely in this journey.

It looks like you and I are very close on many accounts.

I am getting the same impressions from my surgeon and I didn't get much in the way of the nutritionist either. There is a January sleeve group I just posted in asking some of the same questions you are, you aren't alone at all. I've had the same stalls for a week or more, questioned what I can do better, what I should do more of, how should I be eating different.

The big step is reaching out and looking for help. Keep asking questions, keep learning more!

I'm hoping that on my June 5th appointment I can talk face to face with people instead of back and forth through email. I'll make sure I keep in touch with what feedback I get.

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Stalls are normal. You don't lose weight every day or ever week. Your body needs to adjust.

I had one month I lost zero pounds but 2 dress sizes.

If you are eating right you have nothing to worry about the weight will come off.

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