Just venting, nothing to do with the band

Theresa Marie · December 31, 2004

Ryan, you can Celebrate new years when she gets home. I am sorry you are apart right now. I am so sorry for Patty that this happened to her. I am still praying for you both that 2005 will be a joy-filled year of recovery and healing. I am so proud of you for the strength that you have, the love that you have for each other, for your wonderful spirit, for the fact that you are our brother. We all love you and wish the best for you. Can you feel our hugs and love enveloping you???? If love could heal, you and Patty would not be in pain right now. That kind of love can heal and I pray for you that it will. Hugs bro. Hang in there and please keep us posted on how you both are doing. We will be thinking about you and watching for posts. Take care of yourself too!!!!! (Sorry, I really am acting like a sister now -- telling you what to do -- HA. My brothers said I was always like that -- can you imagine???)

hagerteresa · January 1, 2005

Hi Ryan,

What terrible things that are happening to you and Patti. I really feel for you and am praying for you as well. It seems like bad luck is circulating around the world like a plague. Hope 2005 improves for everyone. Teresa

blossom · January 1, 2005

Sheesh!!! I just now read this thread and I am so sorry Patti is back in the hosp. I'm sending prayers and good wishes to you both.

Vickums · January 1, 2005

Aw, Ryan, I'm so sorry. I hear such pain in your "voice". I know MRSA is the bane of health care provider's existance; I hope so strongly that she doesn't have it and that it's "just" a run of the mill infection that can be treated with antibiotics.

I'll keep you guys in my thoughts and hope for a quick and joyful homecoming.

leatha_g · January 2, 2005

(((((((Ryan))))))). I hadn't read the rest of this, either. I'm really sorry Patti is having problems again. Please know that I'll be keeping you both in my prayers.

whippledaddy · January 2, 2005

Well, she's really sad about how the new year is starting off, that's for sure. But she'll be coming home monday or tuesday. I'll be there with her bright and early Monday morning. I'll have to leave by 4AM to arrive at 9.

She will be minus one of her pain controlling devices, so we'll see what comes next.

Thanks for all the well wishes. I'm off my pitty party now, and ready to take up the fight once again.

Theresa Marie · January 2, 2005

Ryan, or shall I say Rocky - ready to take up the fight again - my money is on you to come out a winner. I am so glad she gets to come home -- there is no place like home to rest and heal, plus you will be together. Love heals as much as being home does. I pray you will have safe travels and she will be feeling better soon. Take care of yourself -- of each other. You are a strong, loving man. We are all lucky to have you be part of our family. We are all pulling for you both. Happy January 2 -- glad to get the good news on Patty coming home!!!!!!

donali · January 3, 2005

Ryan -

Hope Patty is home by now, and that all is well. Such small words, but the wishes for health and happiness for the both of you run to the core of my being.

**hugs**

Zoe · January 3, 2005

What a miserable ordeal, Ryan. Let us know how Patty is feeling. And remember, you can always vent here. In fact, your written description of the ridiculous steps you took just to get your wife out of pain may prove useful if you need to take legal action against any of the medical professionals (I use that term loosely) for their negligence.

When you update us on Patty, let us know how you're doing, too. Thinking of you and wishing for the best.

whippledaddy · January 4, 2005

She's home! She's in no pain 'cause they got her on enough Morphine to stun a Beluga Whale! But it is only temporary, until Dr. B in Cleveland can re-evaluate her position and make his next move. If it can be done, he will do it.

Yeah, I get kind of tired of some of the people in health care. But, they're not really bad people, they're just in the mindset of doing a job. If you don't maintain some impersonality in Health Care then your emotions will eat you alive, you'll burn out, and you'll be replaced by a real troglodyte. I get tired of the unreturned calls, people who don't listen to what you're saying, people who do procedure and common sense be damned.

Case in point: at the hospital they insisted on putting the little wrist band thingy on Patty's right arm. It's the right arm that has the RSD. Principal symptom of RSD is intractable pain of the entire limb, starting at the skin. I asked the lady "If her right arm was covered with third degree burns would you still insist on putting the band on it?" "NO" she replied. Patiently I said "When you have RSD that's what your skin feels like all the time. Like you had a third degree burn. Can't you please move the band to the left hand? Are you here to ease pain, or promote it?" I got through, and because she was a GOOD person and didn't want to add to someone's pain she moved the band to Patty's unaffected limb.

That was in the city. Here in the sticks we hire whoever applies, 'cause there ain't no competition. You get the cream with the dross. And you hire them both, because there are slots to fill, and a warm body is a warm body.

But I do agree on documentation. I may need it someday. I hope not. But if it ever does get too bad, they will find me a formidable enemy. Don't mess with my lady love.

Thanks all for your well wishes. I've been on the road for ten hours, and finished my house work for the day. Gonna go to bed soon.